This was ORIGINALLY posted almost a decade ago, and is re-
posted now, almost 100% free of changes, since almost nothing
it contains has changed over the last 9 years. (Except, of
course, for the fortunate aspect that society has significantly
*outgrown* the described syndrome, over those years) --

From: Craig Chilton - view profile
Date: Wed, Dec. 31, 1997 12:00 am
Groups: alt.teens.16-18, alt.teens.sexuality, alt.abortion


"The Virginity Mystique"

Has anyone ever given serious consideration as to WHY an
otherwise fairly-enlightened society persists so much in regarding
virginity to be something special?

Before I ever ate my first slice of pizza, I was a "pizza
virgin." Before I ever bowled, I was a "virgin" in that respect.
Likewise for sex.

But every time I left one type of virginity behind, the effect
invariably was to ENHANCE my life.

Putting virginity on a pedestal is precisely the same as
ascribing value to ignorance.

"Losing" one's virginity is to GAIN a new dimension in one's
life, whether it be with pizza, sex, bowling, or anything else.

The only significance of whether one is a virgin or not with
respect to sex is a totally ARTIFICIAL, arbitrary, and meaningless
one. The ONLY change that scrapping sexual virginity produces
is to enhance one's life experiences, unless you've been brain-
washed into some primitive and pointless belief system. (Which
you can just as easily scrap.)

In short, "virginity" is no big deal.

It is not something that one "loses."

It is something that one should willingly seek to GET
RID of,

just as we so willingly get rid of other forms of virginity
with first experiences of any sort. Pizza, bowling, or whatever.

Therefore, IF you regard sexual virginity to have any special
significance, all I can say to you is this:

Fer Pete's sake, GET A LIFE! And then ENJOY it !!

--Craig Chilton <xanadu222@mchsi.com>

(Please feel free to copy and distribute this to any and all who are
hung up on that silly syndrome.)

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

June 21, 2006 Update:

When this thread originally ran, several people made the
mistake of thinking that I openly advocated that virgins simply
scrap virginity for the sake of getting that done. Looking it over
again now, I can see how they got that impression. So now
I'll clarify.

What I meant then, and still mean now, is THIS:

Retaining one's sexual virginity for virginity's sake -- as though
there were supposedly some "special" quality, or some sort of
"purity" associated with it, is abjectly STUPID.

There ARE some good and valid reasons for doing so, however.
And the most valid of those is the fact that abstinence IS the
greatest defense against catching or transmitting STDs. If such
a reason as THAT is employed for retaining virginity, that's good
thinking. BUT... if a person does so *because* they've been
conned into thinking that there's some sort of "purity" associated
with virginity -- then THAT is as DUMB a reason as anyone could
fall for.

-- Craig Chilton

This was ORIGINALLY posted almost a decade ago, and is re-
posted now, almost 100% free of changes, since almost nothing
it contains has changed over the last 9 years. (Except, of
course, for the fortunate aspect that society has significantly
*outgrown* the described syndrome, over those years) --

From: Craig Chilton - view profile
Date: Wed, Dec. 31, 1997 12:00 am
Groups: alt.teens.16-18, alt.teens.sexuality, alt.abortion


"The Virginity Mystique"

Has anyone ever given serious consideration as to WHY an
otherwise fairly-enlightened society persists so much in regarding
virginity to be something special?

Before I ever ate my first slice of pizza, I was a "pizza
virgin." Before I ever bowled, I was a "virgin" in that respect.
Likewise for sex.

But every time I left one type of virginity behind, the effect
invariably was to ENHANCE my life.

Putting virginity on a pedestal is precisely the same as
ascribing value to ignorance.

"Losing" one's virginity is to GAIN a new dimension in one's
life, whether it be with pizza, sex, bowling, or anything else.

The only significance of whether one is a virgin or not with
respect to sex is a totally ARTIFICIAL, arbitrary, and meaningless
one. The ONLY change that scrapping sexual virginity produces
is to enhance one's life experiences, unless you've been brain-
washed into some primitive and pointless belief system. (Which
you can just as easily scrap.)

In short, "virginity" is no big deal. It is not something that
one "loses." It is something that one should willingly seek to GET
RID of, just as we so willingly get rid of other forms of virginity
with first experiences of any sort. Pizza, bowling, or whatever.

Therefore, IF you regard sexual virginity to have any special
significance, all I can say to you is this:

Fer Pete's sake, GET A LIFE! And then ENJOY it !!

--Craig Chilton <xanadu222@mchsi.com>

(Please feel free to copy and distribute this to any and all who are
hung up on that silly syndrome.)

* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

June 21, 2006 Update:

When this thread originally ran, several people made the
mistake of thinking that I openly advocated that virgins simply
scrap virginity for the sake of getting that done. Looking it over
again now, I can see how they got that impression. So now
I'll clarify.

What I meant then, and still mean now, is THIS:

Retaining one's sexual virginity for virginity's sake -- as though
there were supposedly some "special" quality, or some sort of
"purity" associated with it, is abjectly STUPID.

There ARE some good and valid reasons for doing so, however.
And the most valid of those is the fact that abstinence IS the
greatest defense against catching or transmitting STDs. If such
a reason as THAT is employed for retaining virginity, that's good
thinking. BUT... if a person does so *because* they've been
conned into thinking that there's some sort of "purity" associated
with virginity -- then THAT is as DUMB a reason as anyone could
fall for.

-- Craig Chilton

< snip the blatant attempt to seduce young girls >