Now is not the time to be warning adults about not having kids. The
entire Western world is caught up in a birth dearth, and what is
needed more than ever is more children, not less.

http://www.billmuehlenberg.com/2007/09/01/714/


Declaring War on Children

http://www.billmuehlenberg.com/2007/09/01/714/

Declaring War on Children

http://www.billmuehlenberg.com/2007/09/01/714/

Declaring War on Children

Not everyone can have children, and not everyone wants children.
That's OK. There is no law mandating fecundity. For various reasons,
many may want to forgo the whole involved process of bearing and
raising children.

But the norm throughout human history has of course been both the
desire and the willingness to have children. The minority which does
not want, or cannot have, children is nicely offset by the majority
that does or can.

But what is unusual is the growing anti-child movement that has
emerged in the West. There may be various reasons for such sentiments:
e.g., misplaced concerns about population, and the like. But many of
the motivations are much less lofty and much more disturbing.

I refer to those who simply don't like children, and want to let
everyone else know it. Some don't like kids simply because they
interfere with their lifestyles. In 2000 David and Susan Moore wrote
Child-Free Zone: Why More People Are Choosing Not to Be Parents. It
laid out the case for enjoying adulthood, free of the constraints of
children.

But some don't like kids because, well, they don't like kids. In fact,
they can't stand the little blighters. One woman who seems to
positively loathe children is Corinne Maier. She happens to be French,
which might explain some things, but she is quite clear about her
disgust of children. In her book, No Kids: 40 Reasons for Not Having a
Child, she makes it plain that she considers children to be savages,
little tyrants and nuisances that are simply a pain in the neck.

A recent article in the Herald Sun by Bryan Patterson highlights the
woman and her book. It makes for scary reading. "Every family is a
nest of vipers," she informs us. And she hates everything that has to
do with children: Disneyland, McDonalds, the Disney Channel, and so
on.

Some of the reasons she gives for not having kids include: you have to
speak like an idiot to communicate with children;

children are
capricious tyrants; families are nightmares;

and staying at home with
toddlers makes you dull.

What makes her remarks all the more alarming and disconcerting are two
facts. One, she happens to have two children of her own, but she
"bitterly regrets" having them. She says if it were not for her kids,
she would have spent her money "travelling the world". Imagine how the
two kids must feel, having such a wonderful mum as that.

But a second fact must be noted. This is a woman who lives in a
country where the fertility rate is just below replacement level, and
she lives in a continent where it is well below the 2.1 children per
woman replacement level.

The French total fertility rate (TFR) is 1.98, while the TFR of the
European Union is 1.5. Holland is down to 1.66, Germany to 1.4, and
Italy and Spain both down to 1.29. America is one of the few Western
nations to almost just hold its own, with 2.09 children per woman.

Now is not the time to be warning adults about not having kids. The
entire Western world is caught up in a birth dearth, and what is
needed more than ever is more children, not less.

The facts and figures about population decline have been discussed
elsewhere on this site. Simply put, the West is involved in a
population implosion, and desperate measures are needed to turn things
around. Immigration is the only thing that is keeping some countries
from experiencing even disastrously lower levels of population.

But as troublesome as those demographics are, we must return to Ms
Maier. The 43 year old economist and psychoanalyst just may require
some psychoanalysis herself. Why this morbid and neurotic hatred of
children? Why this complete absorption with self, at the expense of
even her own children?

She says breastfeeding hurts. But a lot of things hurt in life. She
claims birth is torture. But many things we value in life come with a
price. What is she suggesting? That a life of leisure should be our
highest priority and anything that gets in the way of us simply having
a good time should be rejected out of hand? That is what is known as
hedonism, irresponsibility and escaping from reality.
From what I hear from women who have children, breastfeeding can hurt,

But in a sense she is simply reflecting trends throughout the Western
world. As we become more secularised, more selfish, more
irresponsible, and more fixated on looking out for number one, we can
expect to see more of such anti-child sentiments. Self has become the
new God, and if kids get in the way of us living a completely selfish
life, then let's be rid of them.

Of course this is part of the great liberal death wish. We loathe
everything about Western civilisation that has made us great, and we
are now busily digging our own graves. When the views of Ms Maier
become more mainstream, we really will be on our last legs.

As one English reviewer puts it: "The moral of the story is that
Corinne Maier is desperately French. Her first book was all about how
to milk the generous welfare state, and take as much as you can while
working as little as you can. Her second is little more than a chance
to complain. After all, "Il faut raler" - you've got to complain - is
the national anthem here. British readers would be well advised to
read this book, enjoy it, then throw it in the bin."

Any society that has taken on such a jaundiced and bleak view of life
and humanity that it no longer wishes to reproduce and continue its
own existence has imply signed a suicide warrant. And any society that
begins to look upon children as a burden and a plague, instead of a
blessing and a gift, has clearly lost its way.

Postscript

When my wife first read the Herald Sun article about Ms Maier, she was
rightly indignant. She exclaimed that the ten points listed in the
article (out of 40 in the book) were all laughable and all easily
answered. So she here provides a refutation of the first few listed in
the article. So in a first for this website, I offer the writings of
someone other than myself. She writes:

There's enough misinformation out there about children and childbirth
already, without allowing Maier's denunciation to circulate.

One. Giving birth is torture
Wrong, wrong, wrong. Torture is "the infliction of intense pain to
punish, coerce or afford sadistic pleasure". People suffer for decades
after torture, enduring the despair of it repeatedly in memory; most
need intensive counselling and some never recover fully. On the other
hand, having a baby may sometimes involve intense pain, but it is
limited pain that our bodies were perfectly designed to cope with. For
nine months hormones have been pumping through us to loosen ligaments,
cause practice contractions and prepare us in myriad other ways for
the moment of birth. So we suffer, a little, for perhaps a single day
out of our lives - longer if we are unlucky, only a few hours if we
are fortunate - and those magic hormones even make us forget the pain
afterwards! Nobody that I know of needed psychiatric treatment for
Traumatic Stress Disorder after having a child. On the contrary, the
joy and wonder eclipses every previous sensation.

Two. Breastfeeding hurts.
Life hurts. Falling over hurts, getting stung by a bee hurts. Are we
such wimps we can't stand a little discomfort? Sometimes breastfeeding
does hurt, a bit. I only recall it hurting a couple of times when I
had thrush or mastitis - but it stopped hurting very quickly with
treatment. And I breastfed for over three years of my life (three
separate babies, I hasten to add).

Breastfeeding is actually one of
the sexiest things you can do - intensely satisfying for both mother
and baby. The hormones released by breastfeeding are the same ones
released during sex. It's no coincidence that our nipples respond to
sexual stimulation - the stimulation of a tiny mouth eagerly latching
on a nipple is profoundly enjoyable. Males envy us this ability - we
should make the most of it.

Three. Parents lose track of friends.
This is true to some extent - a baby takes over your life fairly
effectively, and single friends have no understanding of the
difficulties you face. Or of the joys you experience. The highlight of
your week may be four hours of uninterrupted sleep. But again, those
wonderful hormones come to your aid and you are able to cope with a
degree of sleeplessness you previously thought would kill you!
Childless friends have no concept of that. But the main thing they
cannot understand is the depth and passion of your feeling for that
child; how nothing is more important, and you never loved before this.
A whole new dimension of love you never knew you were capable of is
opened up. So mixing with childless friends means you have to speak to
them in another language - it's hard to play music with people who are
tone deaf - and you just don't want to do it as much as before.

http://www.billmuehlenberg.com/2007/09/01/714/

Declaring War on Children

A recent article in the Herald Sun by Bryan Patterson highlights the
woman and her book. It makes for scary reading. "Every family is a
nest of vipers," she informs us. And she hates everything that has to
do with children: Disneyland, McDonalds, the Disney Channel, and so
on.

Now is not the time to be warning adults about not having kids. The
entire Western world is caught up in a birth dearth, and what is
needed more than ever is more children, not less.