You might want to get a dictionary. The widowed people are the ones
who are still alive.

During my dating years, I gradually developed a set of questions which
proved invaluable in preventing necessarily doomed relationships from
even starting:
iii) Do you ever eat veal?

Katt.

"Desslock" <a02949285@yahoo.com.mx> wrote in message
news:1129698603.139156.133520@o13g2000cwo.googlegroups.com...

Anyone had any experience with this scenario? Can it work, especially
where little respect to opposing views exists by the parties involved?

The following is based entirely on personal experience, and 'Your Mileage
May Vary', as they say ... but I would shyly suggest that *it can't work* --
and, further, that there's no point *trying* to make it work: marriages
mostly don't work as it is, and there's no point saddling yourself with even
more unfavourable odds.

What's more, values don't come much more 'fundamental' than these, and
fundamental values aren't things you can compromise over without sacrificing
a big chunk of your selfhood. And selfhood is a bloody big thing to give up
simply in return for the chance of a regular *****.

During my dating years, I gradually developed a set of questions which
proved invaluable in preventing necessarily doomed relationships from even
starting:
i) Are you an apologist for Zionist land-grab and child-murder?
ii) Are you an apologist for the pervasive violence of American foreign
policy?
iii) Do you ever eat veal?
iv) Do you think of Margaret Thatcher as someone who is 'basically
well-intentioned'?
v) Do you have any religious beliefs that are more specific and dogmatic
than "Well, there has to be *something*, doesn't there...?"

If the answer to any of those questions was 'yes', then the date was off.
Worked a treat!

Feel free to try them out for yourself...

Katt.

Been married 11 years to a Christian woman.
Thinking seriously about divorce, but I think the 'christian' thing
is a symptom not the problem. Here is why I'm looking to divorce:
· doesn't enjoy same movies as I do (can only take so many lifetime
shows)
· all she wants to do is eat, sleep, go to church, and read religious
garbage
· complains about anything I would like to do such as pool, bowling,
golfing, putt putt, our anything that requires physical activity
(besides shopping)
· complains all the time about me not paying enough attention to her
· seems to believe that sex is doing me a favor
· doesn't want to earn money (fiercely complains about any job she
has ever had)
· won't help me come up with a retirement plan and follow through
· we had a business, but by fighting me on every issue and not coming
up with any solutions, she screwed that up for us and set us back about
4 years

I don't think it matters if you marry a Christian or whatever,
important thing is make sure you marry someone with similar
personality, interests, and intelligence. Or maybe we should all learn
to deal with loneliness, because the alternative can be a real
nightmare.
I don't know, but right now I'm seriously thinking about divorce.
If I do, my plans are to stay single. At this time, I don't think
there is a 'right woman' for me.

The problems will be in-laws and children. Luckily my prospective
in-laws don't seem to mind, and we are probably too old for children.

You have to come to a complete agreement before you get married, about
how children will be raised. It's not enough to say "grow up to be
decent people" without agreeing what that means. A simple phrase but
on one side it includes being in the church.

Remember that some denominations make you promise to bring the kids up
in the church, eg the Catholics.

TV's Desslock wrote:

Anyone had any experience with this scenario? Can it work, especially
where little respect to opposing views exists by the parties involved?

I tried it, it failed after 5 months. Marriage = evil.