Robibnikoff <nospam@newsranger.com> wrote in message news:<PtHEb.37438$cJ5.5659@www.newsranger.com>...
In article <922ad444.0312190904.3422397e@posting.google.com>, Tommo says...
My fiancé is a catholic and wants to marry in a Church. I am an
atheist and don't have a problem asking God to witness the wedding
(as, obviously, I don't believe he exists) but would it be
hypocritical of me to do so?
I'm an atheist and I went and had the whole big church wedding (also in a
Catholic church because my then-fiance-now-husband's family is Catholic - He's
also an atheist). We did it to make our families happy. I've been called a
hypocrite by someone who used to post here for doing this (i.e., if I got up in
front of a congregation and "lied", how could my husband possibly trust me in
the future?), but frankly, I rarely give a flying fig what other people think
anyway ;)
Robyn
Resident Witchypoo & EAC Spellcaster
Hmmm, I'm about to get married and I'm an atheist and my fiance
is...not religious exactly, but spiritual (she was raised Baptist, but
has wandered, by wondering... ;-) )
We're getting hitched in a small church by a pastor from her old
church. It's legal, so I'm good, and it's got some religion, so she's
happy.
The one thing I will say is that while I'm OK with the guy praying for
us or saying things like "God smiles on the extremely gorgeous couple"
( I can appreciate the intent of such sentiments if not the form ),
but made very clear that he was not to speak FOR me in any way. No
"God has brought these two together...yadda, yadda, yadda...". I find
that demeaning and disrespectful to me.
In other words, just know what you're comfortable with, don't let
anybody else tell you what is 'right' for you, but be willing to
compromise on what is really just window dressing for a civil
ceremony...
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