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College Girls: Unpaid Whores

cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia



College Girls: Unpaid Whores

If you were to visit a women's studies department at an elite
university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual
liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too
long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring
their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as
Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been
partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other
words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

The chant of Gen. Y college babes might as well be "We're here,
we're whores, get used to it!" No, most girls are not actually
uttering those words, but the slutty sentiments are implicit in the
standard female college behavior - wearing tight shirts and pants,
getting publicly drunk, hanging on every guy around, and engaging in
random sex.

The concept of "behaving like a lady" is an anachronism. If a
college girl acts like a lady, she is considered boring, prudish, and
old-fashioned. Why is this happening? Five important explanations come
to mind.


(1) Feminist thought has taught young women that equality is achieved
by acting like promiscuous sluts.

In Who Stole Feminism? Christina Hoff Summers writes extensively about
how the women's rights movement was hijacked by gender feminists, who
supplanted equity feminists. While equity feminists were concerned with
such mainstream issues as equal pay for equal work, gender feminists
were obsessed with proving that (a) there are no biological differences
between men and women and (b) men are evil. When the gender feminists
seized control of the movement, they encouraged women to behave just as
immorally as many men. This was seen as a step toward gender equity.

But why is it liberating for a college-age woman to jump into bed with
a man that is not her husband? Why is it freeing to become intoxicated
and to hook-up with anonymous frat guys? Why is it an expression of
equal rights to give into men's animalistic instincts?

Presumably, women could exercise their true power to tame men by using
celibacy (and other ladylike behavior) to induce men into monogamous
stable relationships and eventually into marriage. Along the way to
healthy relationships, women could also gain some self-respect.


(2) Young women have turned away from God.

As women have strayed from the church, they have replaced what is holy
with what is temporally pleasing. For Catholics, the model woman is
Mary, the virgin Mother of God. She is beloved by the faithful for her
unflappable devotion to and trust in God, her nurturing of the Son of
Man, and her deep love for all humanity.

Today's college girl looks to Ally McBeal, the trollops of Sex in the
City, and the floozies on Friends to set their moral compasses.

The sad truth is that college girls are so desperate to find love that
they are willing to degrade themselves to get it. But true love can
only be understood in the context of the Word of God. Any other notion
of "love" is secular and, by definition, limited and finite.


(3) The costs of sex have rapidly declined.

The explosion in availability of the birth control pill fueled the
so-called sexual revolution of the '60s, the consequences of which we
still see today. With the ability to partially regulate the probability
of pregnancy, women can choose to have sex more liberally. Expanded
abortion-on-demand services have also permitted young women to engage
in more sex because of the greater ease with which a major consequence
of sex can be disposed. Abortion providers have recognized the
prevalence of sex by college girls in their choice to locate close to
our nation's colleges and universities.

Perhaps just as important as the reduction in the economic costs of sex
is the decline in the psychic costs of sex - specifically, the social
stigma associated with nonmarital sex. In an earlier era, young women
who chose to engage in sex were socially ostracized and their behavior
denounced. Today, if a young woman engages in a one-night-stand
("random hook-up") she is a liberated studette.


(4) Marriage has been devalued by young women and replaced not only by
cohabitation but also by new, bizarre social arrangements such as
"friends with benefits."

Young women have traditionally looked to men for marriage and family
formation. This is no longer true. College girls look at men not as
marriage material, but as sex partners and roommates. Many college
women live and sleep with their boyfriends. This is the norm.

Additionally, other sex-based relationships have become commonplace. In
recent years, a new and disturbing arrangement known as "friends with
benefits" has emerged. In this arrangement, men are not even forced
to perform the normal duties of boyfriends, i.e. flowers, Valentine's
Day cards, rides to the abortion clinic, etc. Instead, girls consider
these guys "just friends" whom they happen to screw every now and
again. No strings, no attachments, no dinners. Just sex when they feel
like it.

This type of arrangement is the next logical step in the direction that
young women have drifted in the last few decades. These women have
become unpaid whores. At least prostitutes made a buck off of their
trade. These women just give it away.

The truth is that women actually lose power by becoming tramps. When
they give away one of their main sources of bargaining power in a
relationship - sex - men gain total power by achieving everything
they want...free sex with no obligation.


(5) "You know exactly who's to blame...the mother and the
father." - The Oompa Loompas in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate
Factory

College girls are clearly responsible for their own behavior, but their
parents have shaped their values. The verdict is in -- their parents
have failed. Too many parents, particularly mothers, have eschewed
their moral obligations to raise their daughters to be respectable
ladies.

Instead, many moms want to be their daughters' friends, talking late
at night about boyfriends, parties, who's hot, etc. Young women do
not need more friends, they need mothers who will provide moral
guidance. Unfortunately, these self-absorbed moms cannot deal with the
fact that they are old and will never again see their early 20s. Thus,
they attempt to live their sorority days all over again through their
slutty daughters.

"Now Sabia," you say, "you've been very hard on young women.
But don't young men deserve some blame? Aren't you just a bitter,
cranky, rapidly-aging misogynist?"

The answer to both questions is 'yes.'

Young men are awful and they have gotten worse over the years. And let
me be clear - young men are responsible for their own behavior.

But women have historically been the civilizing forces for men. That is
biological. Moreover, several verses in the Scriptures refer to the
important role that women have in the moral uplift of men.

It should surprise no one that sexual activity has historically been
more frequent among gay men than among heterosexuals. This is because
there is no civilizing female force in the gay community. Whenever men
want to have sex, they just go ahead and do it. Neither of the partners
has much of an incentive to refrain from sex since monogamous
relationships and traditional familes are generally not the final goals
of these partnerships. Recently, the behavior of young heterosexuals
has begun to resemble that of gay men because young women are imitating
men in their sexual promiscuity.

The result of young women's abdication of responsibility has been
significant moral decay on America's college campuses. Can the moral
high ground ever be reclaimed? Perhaps...one church pew at a time.

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College Girls: Unpaid Whores

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College Girls: Unpaid Whores

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College Girls: Unpaid Whores

cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia



College Girls: Unpaid Whores

If you were to visit a women's studies department at an elite
university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual
liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too
long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring
their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as
Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been
partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other
words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

If you were to visit a women's studies department at an elite
university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual
liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too
long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring
their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as
Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been
partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other
words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/649303/posts


College Girls: Unpaid Whores

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/649303/posts


College Girls: Unpaid Whores

cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia



College Girls: Unpaid Whores

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/649303/posts


College Girls: Unpaid Whores

cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia



College Girls: Unpaid Whores

If you were to visit a women's studies department at an elite
university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual
liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too
long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring
their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as
Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been
partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other
words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

College Girls: Unpaid Whores

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/649303/posts


College Girls: Unpaid Whores

cornellreview ^ | 3/4/2002 | Joseph J. Sabia



College Girls: Unpaid Whores

If you were to visit a women's studies department at an elite
university, you would encounter a wide variety of courses on the sexual
liberation of women. The main thrust of these courses is that for too
long, various social institutions have prevented women from exploring
their sexual desires. Now, thanks to the heroism of such women as
Gloria Steinem, Margaret Sanger, and Bella Abzug, women have been
partially freed from the oppressive forces of male patriarchy. In other
words, young women are encouraged to be whores.

The chant of Gen. Y college babes might as well be "We're here,
we're whores, get used to it!" No, most girls are not actually
uttering those words, but the slutty sentiments are implicit in the
standard female college behavior - wearing tight shirts and pants,
getting publicly drunk, hanging on every guy around, and engaging in
random sex.

The concept of "behaving like a lady" is an anachronism. If a
college girl acts like a lady, she is considered boring, prudish, and
old-fashioned. Why is this happening? Five important explanations come
to mind.


(1) Feminist thought has taught young women that equality is achieved
by acting like promiscuous sluts.

In Who Stole Feminism? Christina Hoff Summers writes extensively about
how the women's rights movement was hijacked by gender feminists, who
supplanted equity feminists. While equity feminists were concerned with
such mainstream issues as equal pay for equal work, gender feminists
were obsessed with proving that (a) there are no biological differences
between men and women and (b) men are evil. When the gender feminists
seized control of the movement, they encouraged women to behave just as
immorally as many men. This was seen as a step toward gender equity.

But why is it liberating for a college-age woman to jump into bed with
a man that is not her husband? Why is it freeing to become intoxicated
and to hook-up with anonymous frat guys? Why is it an expression of
equal rights to give into men's animalistic instincts?

Presumably, women could exercise their true power to tame men by using
celibacy (and other ladylike behavior) to induce men into monogamous
stable relationships and eventually into marriage. Along the way to
healthy relationships, women could also gain some self-respect.


(2) Young women have turned away from God.

As women have strayed from the church, they have replaced what is holy
with what is temporally pleasing. For Catholics, the model woman is
Mary, the virgin Mother of God. She is beloved by the faithful for her
unflappable devotion to and trust in God, her nurturing of the Son of
Man, and her deep love for all humanity.

Today's college girl looks to Ally McBeal, the trollops of Sex in the
City, and the floozies on Friends to set their moral compasses.

The sad truth is that college girls are so desperate to find love that
they are willing to degrade themselves to get it. But true love can
only be understood in the context of the Word of God. Any other notion
of "love" is secular and, by definition, limited and finite.


(3) The costs of sex have rapidly declined.

The explosion in availability of the birth control pill fueled the
so-called sexual revolution of the '60s, the consequences of which we
still see today. With the ability to partially regulate the probability
of pregnancy, women can choose to have sex more liberally. Expanded
abortion-on-demand services have also permitted young women to engage
in more sex because of the greater ease with which a major consequence
of sex can be disposed. Abortion providers have recognized the
prevalence of sex by college girls in their choice to locate close to
our nation's colleges and universities.

Perhaps just as important as the reduction in the economic costs of sex
is the decline in the psychic costs of sex - specifically, the social
stigma associated with nonmarital sex. In an earlier era, young women
who chose to engage in sex were socially ostracized and their behavior
denounced. Today, if a young woman engages in a one-night-stand
("random hook-up") she is a liberated studette.


(4) Marriage has been devalued by young women and replaced not only by
cohabitation but also by new, bizarre social arrangements such as
"friends with benefits."

Young women have traditionally looked to men for marriage and family
formation. This is no longer true. College girls look at men not as
marriage material, but as sex partners and roommates. Many college
women live and sleep with their boyfriends. This is the norm.

Additionally, other sex-based relationships have become commonplace. In
recent years, a new and disturbing arrangement known as "friends with
benefits" has emerged. In this arrangement, men are not even forced
to perform the normal duties of boyfriends, i.e. flowers, Valentine's
Day cards, rides to the abortion clinic, etc. Instead, girls consider
these guys "just friends" whom they happen to screw every now and
again. No strings, no attachments, no dinners. Just sex when they feel
like it.

This type of arrangement is the next logical step in the direction that
young women have drifted in the last few decades. These women have
become unpaid whores. At least prostitutes made a buck off of their
trade. These women just give it away.

The truth is that women actually lose power by becoming tramps. When
they give away one of their main sources of bargaining power in a
relationship - sex - men gain total power by achieving everything
they want...free sex with no obligation.


(5) "You know exactly who's to blame...the mother and the
father." - The Oompa Loompas in Willy Wonka and the Chocolate
Factory

College girls are clearly responsible for their own behavior, but their
parents have shaped their values. The verdict is in -- their parents
have failed. Too many parents, particularly mothers, have eschewed
their moral obligations to raise their daughters to be respectable
ladies.

Instead, many moms want to be their daughters' friends, talking late
at night about boyfriends, parties, who's hot, etc. Young women do
not need more friends, they need mothers who will provide moral
guidance. Unfortunately, these self-absorbed moms cannot deal with the
fact that they are old and will never again see their early 20s. Thus,
they attempt to live their sorority days all over again through their
slutty daughters.

"Now Sabia," you say, "you've been very hard on young women.
But don't young men deserve some blame? Aren't you just a bitter,
cranky, rapidly-aging misogynist?"

The answer to both questions is 'yes.'

Young men are awful and they have gotten worse over the years. And let
me be clear - young men are responsible for their own behavior.

But women have historically been the civilizing forces for men. That is
biological. Moreover, several verses in the Scriptures refer to the
important role that women have in the moral uplift of men.

It should surprise no one that sexual activity has historically been
more frequent among gay men than among heterosexuals. This is because
there is no civilizing female force in the gay community. Whenever men
want to have sex, they just go ahead and do it. Neither of the partners
has much of an incentive to refrain from sex since monogamous
relationships and traditional familes are generally not the final goals
of these partnerships. Recently, the behavior of young heterosexuals
has begun to resemble that of gay men because young women are imitating
men in their sexual promiscuity.

The result of young women's abdication of responsibility has been
significant moral decay on America's college campuses. Can the moral
high ground ever be reclaimed? Perhaps...one church pew at a time.