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"Codebreaker" |
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19 May 2007 01:53:59 PM |
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No Psycho Babble Parenting Here |
I can't believe there are still people like John Rosemond
who have not been infected
by modern days PSYCHO BABBLE parenting. Please read on
05/08/07
The world was better when children were taught respect, good manners
When I was a child, my parents found fairly frequent reason to tell me
that I was a small fish in a big pond. Sometimes, to keep me on my
toes, they would tell me that I was getting too big for my britches
and if I did not "size" myself to my britches quickly, they would have
to "size" them to me. Those reminders and admonitions served to keep
my self-esteem in check, as they were always delivered when I was
acting inconsiderate, prideful, and the like; in today's vernacular,
like "it was all about me."
I turn 60 this year-hard to believe since I feel just as good as I did
when I was 25, maybe even better (having shed the excesses of my youth-
most of them anyway). When I reminisce about my childhood with other
people my general age, I never fail to discover we all had pretty much
the same experiences. We all were expected to do chores around the
house. We were not paid for doing these chores, but we were punished
if we did not. Our parents were not "involved" with us, and none of us
can imagine anything more oppressive to a child than to have parents
who feel the need to be constantly doing something with or for you.
Our parents did not help us with our homework or our science projects,
yet at every grade we performed at a higher level than today's kids.
And nearly all of us were told on some regular basis that we were
small fish in big ponds and that we were getting too big for our
britches.
Today's kids don't grow up the way we did. They don't have chores.
That's a shame, because one learns good citizenship by first being a
responsible member of one's family. Their parents are involved, which
is too bad because that often is delivered so compulsively that it
prevents a child from learning how to swim with his own two fins. And
I'm certain that it's the rare child today who hears, even rarely,
"You need to be reminded, I can tell, that you are a small fish in a
big pond" and "If you don't size yourself to those britches, and right
now, I'm gonna size 'em to ya!"
It's evident to people my age that today's kids are allowed to think
it's all about them. That's understandable, because if you talk to
today's parents about their kids, it's obvious that the typical modern
parent thinks his/her kid is not just a big fish, but the ONLY FISH
THAT REALLY MATTERS. I have concluded that the reason today's kids
wear britches that are absurdly outsized is so they can never get too
big for them. All too many of today's kids are allowed to be rude,
inconsiderate, and disrespectful, and no one seems to possess the
gumption it takes to size them to their britches. This was all brought
home to me on Easter Day.
Every Easter, after church, Willie and I take our entire family-five
adults and six children-to a very nice eatin' place where most folks
come dressed in their Sunday best. As Willie and I are approaching the
entrance, a car pulls up and discharges a young teenage girl who looks
like she mimicking some actress she's seen getting out of a limo at
the Oscars. At the entrance stands a woman who is at least ten years
older than me. She nods and smiles at the girl in a way that suggests
she is her grandmother. The girl walks up, opens the door and instead
of holding it for her grandmother, she walks on through. I hold the
door for Grandma, who manages to hold onto a waning smile as she
enters.
Inside, I witness at least three children, all old enough to know
better (then again, one does not know better unless one is taught to
know better), push rudely in front of adults, one of whom nearly trips
and falls. Needless to say, not one "excuse me" is uttered, except by
the one adult who nearly trips and falls.
On all of these occasions, parents stood silent witness to children
who were acting like it was all about them. I suppose they didn't say
anything for fear of lowering their kids' self-esteem. Unfortunately,
the best research is clear that high self-esteem is associated with
anti-social behavior, of which bad manners are just the tip of the
iceberg.
I think the world was a much better place when children were little
fishes who dared not get too big for their britches (swimsuits?), but
perhaps such nostalgia is the province of those who are about to turn
60
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Dear Lord multiply Rosemond by thousand.
Codebreaker, the one who breaks codes
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| Title: Re: No Psycho Babble Parenting Here |
19 May 2007 05:42:59 PM |
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On May 19, 2:53 pm, Codebreaker <Codebrea...@bigsecret.com> wrote:
I think the world was a much better place when children were little
fishes who dared not get too big for their britches (swimsuits?), but
perhaps such nostalgia is the province of those who are about to turn
60
You have to accept that the world doesn't exist for you. It will
continue to evolve beyond its present state. I'm not happy with
society either but there's no way I can co-exist if I keep insisting
the world to be orderly.
Remember, we are technically born to die.
This fulcrum lends itself to the fact that whatever we accomplish
along the way of life is merely for the feeling of unconscious urgency
that we have to "leave our marks" as nothing of us will eventually
remain.
And so what if kids today do not share the same ethics as their
elders? It'll be their problem as they get older and we cease to
exist.
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| User: "Codebreaker" |
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| Title: Re: No Psycho Babble Parenting Here |
20 May 2007 02:01:59 PM |
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On May 19, 6:42 pm, wrote:
On May 19, 2:53 pm, Codebreaker <Codebrea...@bigsecret.com> wrote:
I think the world was a much better place when children were little
fishes who dared not get too big for their britches (swimsuits?), but
perhaps such nostalgia is the province of those who are about to turn
60
You have to accept that the world doesn't exist for you. It will
continue to evolve beyond its present state. I'm not happy with
society either but there's no way I can co-exist if I keep insisting
the world to be orderly.
Remember, we are technically born to die.
This fulcrum lends itself to the fact that whatever we accomplish
along the way of life is merely for the feeling of unconscious urgency
that we have to "leave our marks" as nothing of us will eventually
remain.
And so what if kids today do not share the same ethics as their
elders? It'll be their problem as they get older and we cease to
exist.
JUST GARBAGE
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| User: "Codebreaker" |
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| Title: Re: No Psycho Babble Parenting Here |
20 May 2007 02:05:03 PM |
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On May 19, 6:42 pm, wrote:
On May 19, 2:53 pm, Codebreaker <Codebrea...@bigsecret.com> wrote:
I think the world was a much better place when children were little
fishes who dared not get too big for their britches (swimsuits?), but
perhaps such nostalgia is the province of those who are about to turn
60
You have to accept that the world doesn't exist for you. It will
continue to evolve beyond its present state. I'm not happy with
society either but there's no way I can co-exist if I keep insisting
the world to be orderly.
Remember, we are technically born to die.
This fulcrum lends itself to the fact that whatever we accomplish
along the way of life is merely for the feeling of unconscious urgency
that we have to "leave our marks" as nothing of us will eventually
remain.
And so what if kids today do not share the same ethics as their
elders? It'll be their problem as they get older and we cease to
exist.
JUST GARBAGE... ON WHAT BASIS SHOULD I ACCEPT
YOUR ASSUMPTION THAT LIFE IS MERELY FOR THE FEELING
OF UNCONSCIONCIOUS URGENCY?
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