Know that each primate folk (person) is the product of a long
evolutionary process that certainly includes insanity as an evolved
means in that process. That certainly includes sex. We are each
insane in our dealing with sex issues. The insanity is 'built in'.
There is no way out to 'sanity'.

PRESCRIPTIONS FOR SEXUAL SANITY

Know that your body is innocent, just the way it is,
just the way it
normally and naturally works. Be completely at ease
with your body and
with everything that it normally and naturally
does. Live completely
free of bodily shame. Don=B9t feel upset or embarassed
when other people
see your naked body, or see you having sex or using the toilet or
engaging in any other activity appropriate to your body.

Know that other people=B9s bodies are as innocent as your own. Be
completely at ease with other people=B9s bodies and
with all the things
that their bodies normally and naturally do. Be completely free of
prudishness. Don=B9t feel embarassed or offended when you see other
people=B9s naked bodies, or witness them having sex or
using the toilet or
engaging in any other activity appropriate to their bodies.

Know that your curiosity about other people=B9s bodies
and how they work
is natural and innocent. Never suppress this natural
curiosity or feel
ashamed of it. Rather feel free to satisfy your
curiosity in any way
that=B9s comfortable for other people, and free to
satisfy other people=B9s
curiosity in any way that=B9s comfortable for you.
But when your curiosity
is satisfied, move on to other things. Be free
of prurience, free of
that chronic shame-laden preoccupation with
the body and its functions
which develops when what people find naturally and instinctively
interesting is shamed and concealed.

Know that affectionate non-sexual touch is
innocent and nurturing.
Affectionate touching and embracing can be a beautiful and supportive
part of our communication with one another, and
can promote a communal
feeling of love and connectedness among us. Know that affectionate
non-sexual touch is especially important for our
children, helping them
to feel loved and valued.

Know that your sexual feelings are natural and
innocent. Your sexuality
is an integral and delightful aspect of your embodiment, so be
completely comfortable with all your sexual urges and desires. Be
completely at ease when your body shows signs of sexual arousal or
desire, and don=B9t be embarassed or upset when you see
that someone else
is sexually excited.

Know that you are always completely at choice
about whether to be sexual
and how to be sexual. Celibacy, freely chosen,
is a legitimate and
honorable way of life. A sexually active way of
life, freely chosen and
responsibly practiced, is equally legitimate and
honorable. Know as well
that you are always free to choose not to engage in sexual activity, and
to decline to participate in any kind of sexual
activity that you don=B9t
enjoy.

Know that pleasuring yourself sexually is natural and innocent.
Self-pleasuring is a normal and appropriate form
of sexual activity,
gratifying in its own right, and useful both as a
means for exploring
your own sexual sensibilities and as a means of enjoying yourself
sexually in the absence of a partner. Don=B9t be ashamed to be seen
pleasuring yourself sexually by people who are
comfortable seeing you,
and don=B9t be offended or embarassed when you see others pleasuring
themselves. But in the presence of those who would be
offended by seeing
you pleasuring yourself, act with consideration and restraint
appropriate to the situation.

Know that any form of harmless sexual activity or relationship is
morally right, and that only harmful sexual activities
and relationships
are morally wrong. Feel completely uninhibited and free
of guilt about
engaging in any kind of sexual activity or relationship,
so long as you
act responsibly, so long as

=80 the activity or relationship is not physically harmful to anyone
engaged in it;
=80 the activity or relationship is not in itself
upsetting or offensive,
independent of learning or custom, to people affected by it;
=80 everyone involved insures that appropriate measures are taken to
prevent inappropriate pregnancy and the transmission of disease;
=80 the activity or relationship does not endanger any
existing viable
beneficial intimate relationship;
=80 everyone involved is competent to give informed consent to the
activity or relationship, and freely gives such consent.

Know that there are many harmless and rewarding kinds of sexual
relationships. Feel completely free to be sexually
involved with one
partner or with more than one, purely for enjoyment or as an
expression of deep committed love, in a long term
commitment or just for
the moment, with a partner of your same sex or the
other sex, so long as
your relationship is consistent with the well-being
of everyone involved
in it. Freely choose among all these forms of relationship, taking into
account your personal sexual orientation, your
values, your preferences,
and the circumstances of your life.

Know that honest communication about our bodies
and their functions is
innocent and beneficial. Don=B9t be ashamed or
embarassed to speak freely
about having sex or using the toilet, and don=B9t
be offended if others
speak freely and frankly about these activities.
If it=B9s normal and
natural to do something, then feel at ease talking
about doing it and
hearing other people talking about doing it. But
in the presence of
others who would be offended by such frankness,
speak with consideration
and restraint appropriate to the situation.

Know that communicating your sexual feelings
is natural and innocent.
Feel free to be open and frank about your feelings
of sexual attraction
or desire. But don't assume any obligation by the
other person to return
your feelings or to act on them; and if they don=B9t
reciprocate your
feelings, accept their choice with good grace.
Likewise be completely at
ease when other people let you know that they
are attracted to you. But
don't feel any obligation to return their feelings
or to act on them;
and if you don=B9t want to be sexual with them, express your lack of
interest with gentleness and considerateness. In
the presence of others
who would be offended by such honest communication, speak with
appropriate consideration and restraint.

Know that since your sexual feelings are natural and innocent, being
aroused by erotic pictures and performances and stories is natural and
innocent. Freely enjoy sexually explicit pictures and performances and
stories, and freely enjoy the arousal that such productions are intended
to evoke.

Know that sexual engagements with =B3outsiders=B2 don=B9t necessarily en=

your primary relationships. If you are in an intimate relationship, and
your partner feels comfortable with your having responsible sex with
other people, feel completely free to participate in such =B3outside=B2
activities; and be equally comfortable when your partner has responsible
sex with other people.

Know that you can have a sexually open marriage and still be an
effective loving parent to your children. Rearing children, and lovingly
nurturing them, is a matter of extreme importance for any community, and
a stable family of whatever form is the most reliable and effective
known environment for such an endeavor. But know that you and your
spouse can parent a stable family while still opening your marriage to
responsible sexual encounters with outsiders.

Know that your children=B9s curiosity about sex is natural and
innocent.Know that children of all ages are normally and naturally
curious about their own and others' bodies, and particularly about their
sexuality; and that this curiosity normally and naturally gives rise to
exploratory behavior. Be completely at ease with this curiosity, and
with the exploration that it naturally evokes. Always satisfy your
children=B9s curiosity about sex in an honest and accurate way,
appropriate to their capacity for understanding. Encourage your
children to explore their developing sexuality responsibly, in ways that
are voluntary, consensual, and harmless for every participant.

Know that your teenagers=B9 sexual activity is natural and normal, and is
innocent so long as they engage in it responsibly. Be completely at ease
with the developing sexuality of your teenagers. Know that puberty marks
the natural onset of sexual maturity, and that it is normal and natural
for teenagers to be sexual with one another. But teach your sons and
daughters to be responsible in their sexual interactions as well as
being sexually free and uninhibited. Completely accept
for them that
degree of sexual freedom commensurate with their
demonstrated capacity
for biological and emotional responsibility.

Know that you can=B9t force anyone to adopt these beliefs and
attutudes.Don=B9t try to impose this perspective of
freedom, openness, and
candor upon anyone who finds it abhorrent. But
adamantly reject and
oppose any attempt by anyone to restrict your practice of
body-acceptance and responsible sexual freedom..

Know that a community that lives in such natural innocence is a
community worth establishing and protecting. Deeply believe in the
natural innocence of human embodiment in all its aspects. In the sexual
aspect of your life, as in others, act and speak with responsible
freedom, yet with consideration for the needs and sensibilities of
others. Work for the establishment and spread of a humane society which
teaches, practices, and celebrates such innocence, responsibility,
considerateness, and freedom.

--
"Without faith we might relapse into scientific or rational thinking,
which leads by a slippery slope toward constitutional democracy."
- Robert Anton Wilson