Religions > Atheism > Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life.
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15 Dec 2006 09:04:13 AM |
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Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. |
You are most fortunate as atheists to have this forum here where
thoughts can be shared and discussed. Sometime I get the feeling that
members are scared to be shamed in public by less 'charitable' atheist
members. If you do not feel comfortable talking about your personal
issues, then seek out another forum with a little more charity to
support your efforts. feel free to write to me if you need help with
this matter.
As for myself, I try to not let others define my self worth when they
hurl insults and profanities my way. I always try to remember such
individuals must be great pain and know of no other way than trying to
tear down others in their misguided quest to make themselves feel good.
I am not always sop charitable with my efforts, as I am only human and
an imperfect one at that. We should always remember that you can only
kick a dog so much before it snaps back.
As I told you before, tearing others down appeals to ones ego and
pride. As you instill seeds of peace within others you plant the same
seeds and water these seeds within you as well. As you give so you
receive. Do we like to be beaten down? Whenever we take it upon
ourselves to beat down others, we are headed in a direction of
destroying peace. We destroy our own peace as well as others peace. It
takes no energy from me to pass something by and leave it alone in
peace. But it takes my energy as well as my peace to pick something up
to destroy it.
Putting our complaints down on pen and paper first crystallizes in our
heads what needs to be changed or accepted in our lives. Getting it all
out and putting it all down is the first start of this recognition
process that leads us to change. Without this recognition, that
something is wrong in our lives, we cannot develop the desire for
change. We don't even know what is wrong to change!
Writing your problems down is the first start to making the roadmap for
restructuring your life. Restructuring our lives is very important if
we want to get peace. Those things that cannot be restructured need to
be accepted. Either way we can find peace -- by change or acceptance.
When you write, it uses a different part of the brain that mere
speaking uses and I seem to get amazing results from writing as
compared to just talking. Writing helps crystallize your thoughts. Just
remember what the Buddhists say in the eightfold path about right
actions. We have to use the right thoughts, the right actions and take
the right direction with change. Just spinning our wheels in the wrong
direction does little, so write about things that matter to you and
your change.
An important thing to remember with any plan for change is the 3-D's:
Desire, Determination and Diligence.
Desire:
Desire is the foundation for all recovery quests. You cannot help
someone without the desire in them to be helped. Desire is what gets us
taking that first step in the right direction when all seems hopeless.
Have you every tried to give advice or help someone in need and they
respond: "I don't care." They lack the desire or at least this is what
they say. Desire must come from within, you cannot force someone to
change, they must change themselves.
To develop a desire to change, we must first recognize there is a
problem or sickness in us. Recognition or awareness is the first step
leading to desire. After we recognize we are sick or an area of our
lives is out of balance, we can start accepting the fact that we need
to take action in this area. When we label addicts or people as "in
denial," we are saying the person is not able to recognize there is a
problem in their lives that needs addressing.
Now some people recognize there is a problem in their life, but still
don't develop a burning desire for change, but at least they have a
somewhat true picture of things and just haven't made the crossover to
developing the desire to change bad enough. Whether their block is out
of fear, laziness or staying in a comfortable place, they will have to
figure out what is blocking them before they can take the next step. As
I said, we cannot force someone to change, they must change themselves
and it must be from the inside out.
Determination:
Determination serves two purposes here. When something is "determined"
it is accepted as fact. We have determined that we are powerless over
our addiction and our lives are unmanageable. We have determined we
must abstain from certain people, places or things that we cannot
comfortably have in our lives. We are in the process of determining a
new set of rules on how to live. We have also determined what injuries
we have caused and what needs to be repaired through taking personal
inventory.
Determination serves a second purpose and that is it keeps us on the
long road to recovery. We cannot keep on this long road without being
determined to change our lives day in day out. Whether it is debt
recovery, clutter, restructuring our complex lives or losing weight it
all takes time and determination to stay on the path of recovery. Many
distractions, detours and set backs along the way, but we should always
be determined to keep pointed in the direction of recovery.
Diligence:
Diligence keeps us from going backwards once we finally arrive at the
recovery place we are aiming for. It takes diligence once we get to
where we want to be to maintain that serene spot, otherwise we fall
back on our old "natural" ways of living. Once you lose the fat, once
you pay off your debts, once you lose the clutter, once you get sober
and abstinent from your drug of choice it takes diligence to keep you
that way. James Allen calls this watchfulness.
"Victories attained by right thought can only be maintained by
watchfulness. Many give way when success is assured and rapidly fall
back into failure."
As A Man Thinketh by James Allen.
Good Luck,
V (Male)
Agnostic Freethinker
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| User: "Robibnikoff" |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. |
18 Dec 2006 11:16:00 AM |
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"V" <vfr44@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1166195053.726361.284830@l12g2000cwl.googlegroups.com...
You are most fortunate
Only if you stopped posting your ***** here.
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Robyn
Resident Witchypoo
#1557
I think religion is so popular because even the village idiot can feel like
Einstein without any effort. - Denis Loubet
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| User: "Dubh Ghall" |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. |
15 Dec 2006 08:03:28 PM |
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On 15 Dec 2006 07:04:13 -0800, "V" <vfr44@aol.com> wrote:
You are most fortunate as atheists to have this forum here where
thoughts can be shared and discussed. Sometime I get the feeling that
members are scared to be shamed in public by less 'charitable' atheist
members. If you do not feel comfortable talking about your personal
issues, then seek out another forum with a little more charity to
support your efforts. feel free to write to me if you need help with
this matter.
Another school yard psychologist.
Is there no end to them?
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| User: "John Baker" |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. |
15 Dec 2006 12:15:22 PM |
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On 15 Dec 2006 07:04:13 -0800, "V" <vfr44@aol.com> wrote:
And not forcing your incoherent blathering onto others is the second
step. I see you haven't gotten that far yet.....
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| User: "Mark K. Bilbo" |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap forrestructuring your life. |
15 Dec 2006 09:22:50 AM |
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On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 07:04:13 -0800, V wrote:
You are most fortunate as atheists to have this forum here where
thoughts can be shared and discussed. Sometime I get the feeling that
members are scared to be shamed in public by less 'charitable' atheist
members
Oh great. He gets emails...
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Mark K. Bilbo
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"As a result of the war, corporations have been enthroned
and an era of corruption in high places will follow, and
the money power of the country will endeavor to prolong
its reign by working upon the prejudices of the people until
all wealth is aggregated in a few hands and the Republic
is destroyed. I feel at this moment more anxiety than ever
before, even in the midst of war. God grant that my suspicions
may prove groundless." -Abraham Lincoln
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| User: "Kate " |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. |
15 Dec 2006 11:04:03 AM |
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On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 09:22:50 -0600, "Mark K. Bilbo"
<gmail@com.mkbilbo> wrote:
On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 07:04:13 -0800, V wrote:
You are most fortunate as atheists to have this forum here where
thoughts can be shared and discussed. Sometime I get the feeling that
members are scared to be shamed in public by less 'charitable' atheist
members
Oh great. He gets emails...
LOL, they all pretend that, don't they? V must be pretty pathetic if
he has to go that far.
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| User: "Mark K. Bilbo" |
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| Title: Re: Writing is the first start to making the roadmap forrestructuring your life. |
15 Dec 2006 11:18:00 AM |
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On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 11:04:03 -0600, Kate wrote:
On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 09:22:50 -0600, "Mark K. Bilbo"
<gmail@com.mkbilbo> wrote:
On Fri, 15 Dec 2006 07:04:13 -0800, V wrote:
You are most fortunate as atheists to have this forum here where
thoughts can be shared and discussed. Sometime I get the feeling that
members are scared to be shamed in public by less 'charitable' atheist
members
Oh great. He gets emails...
LOL, they all pretend that, don't they? V must be pretty pathetic if
he has to go that far.
The Voices tell him that the *good atheists are being beaten down by us
*bad ones!
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Mark K. Bilbo
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"There is something feeble and a little contemptible about
a man who cannot face the perils of life without the help of
comfortable myths. Almost inevitably some part of him is
aware that they are myths and that he believes them only
because they are comforting. But he dare not face this
thought! Moreover, since he is aware, however dimly, that his
opinions are not rational, he becomes furious when they are
disputed." -Bertrand Russell
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