Certianly - except for medical or pyschological reasons, sex can be a
barometer of the rest of the relationship, healthy men and women both want
to have sex, it's a basic need, given an otherwise healthy relationship,
sex is usually welcome, disinterest in sex usually means that something is
wrong elsewhere.

And I am not trying to imply that men have to be studs in bed, for my wife
and I, over the years, the sex was always good, but has also improved as
we paid attention to each other, but if something happened and one of us
became not "healthy enough for sexual intercourse," it would not be the
end of the world, there's always cuddling on the couch, snuggling in bed,
footsie under the table, and little touches while passing in the hall.

"Randy" <pulpitfire@gmail.com> wrote in message
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"Randy" <pulpitfire@gmail.com> wrote in message

The thing is to quit using the Bible as a club to beat your wife up with
and to try being a loving and attentive spouse yourself.


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laundry - I can do whites fine, but I have yet to figure out her sorting
system for colors).

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1 Corinthians 7

4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and
likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the
wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time,
that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together
again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Neither spouse has power over their own body, but God gives that power
to their spouse. Make no mistake, it is the spouse who tries to
defraud their spouse of the power which God has given them, by
refusing to render "due benevolence", who is abusing power, in
relation to sex, so they can wield their own veto power over both what
God and the Bible says. Defrauders play politics to get their own
tyrannical way over God,the Bible, and their spouses!

Are we to take it then that you are lousy in the sack, your wife receives
little or no pleasure and thus really isn't interested? Unless the wife
has
a medical problem, the primary reason a woman loses interest in sex is her
partner.

I'm sure your response will provide some comedic relief for those who
want to wield veto power over God and their spouses.

It should provide some material for soul-searching.

Here is more - it could be just that she's worn out. Women today have to
work outside the home in order for the family to make it. And yet, most of
them are still expected to do all the house cleaning, laundry, child
rearing, cooking, etc.

I found a long time ago that, while my wife does like some flowers
(delivered to work where her co-workers can tell how wonderful her husband
is) for no reason, the biggest aphrodiziac is for me to sneak into the
kitchen after a big meal and do the dishes (she doesn't trust me to do
laundry - I can do whites fine, but I have yet to figure out her sorting
system for colors).

Sexually, although I'm not 100%, I try to hold back until she has her
pleasure at least once or twice, before mine and always remember that the
afterplay is the beginning of the foreplay for next time.

At my age and medical history, these days my wife desires sex much more
frequently than I do of late and it is me that has to work up a head of
steam to accomedate her sometimes. Fortunately, over the years, we have
learned where the "buttons" we each have are.

The thing is to quit using the Bible as a club to beat your wife up with and
to try being a loving and attentive spouse yourself.