I read this article today and found it a good Biblical reminder of what
forgiveness is from a Biblical perspective and also how we, as Christians,
are to properly forgive according to God's Word. It is timely for me due to
all the attacks by nonbelievers on the Usenet newsgroups. I hope this may
aid you as well.
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
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Forgiveness
by Dana Neel
There is a common teaching among Christians that claims we are to offer
unconditional forgiveness to all who do evil against us (and others),
followed by reconciliation. Some teach that we are to allow this cycle of
offense, forgiveness, then reconciliation to continue forever (70 times 7).
Is this really what Jesus commands us to do?
To forgive sin under all circumstances, unconditionally, and to reconcile
with the unrepentant offender communicates a false gospel. It is not
biblical. This is not what God does, nor is it what He commands us to do.
However, to be unforgiving of sins against us by others also communicates a
false gospel. So what is a believer to do?
In an attempt to answer these questions, I ask you to consider forgiveness
and reconciliation in the most radical sense in order to put these teachings
into perspective. Cast off petty offenses such as forgetting to bring a pie
to a long-ago Christmas dinner or being late for an appointment. Instead,
think of something truly wicked that has been done to you, or to someone you
love, not unknowingly, but with premeditation and malice-a situation in
which you have come face to face with evil. With that in mind, imagine the
perpetrator pridefully denying his or her wrongdoing and refusing to repent,
yet demanding your forgiveness and reconciliation because, "After all, you
are a Christian, and this is your obligation." Now what?
Forgiveness Defined
Before we delve into the subject, let's determine what forgiveness really
means. Some definitions include:
Merriam-Webster Dictionary: To pardon, absolve
To give up resentment of
To grant relief from payment of
Strong's Hebrew Definition: salach (saw-lakh')
To forgive:--forgive, pardon, spare
Strong's Greek Definition: aphiemi (af-ee'-ay-mee)
To cry, forgive, forsake, lay aside, leave, let (alone, be, go, have), omit,
put (send) away, remit, suffer, yield up
Perhaps it is more helpful to define what forgiveness is NOT.
Forgiveness is not ignoring, disregarding, tolerating, excusing,
overlooking, or closing one's eyes to the sin of another person. It is not
simply letting time pass after the offense has been committed and then
"getting over it." It is not resigning one's self to the other person's
sinful actions by saying, "Well, that's just the way s/he is and I'm stuck
with her/him for life, so I'll just accept it." It is not letting things
"roll off our backs"or agreeing to make a "fresh start" without confronting
the problem. To engage in these behaviors not only condones sin, but also
perpetuates it, and as Christians, we are forbidden to do so.
The Biblical Model of Forgiveness
Jesus himself gave us a three-step model of forgiveness among believers in
the Gospel of Luke. He said: "Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother
trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he
trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn
again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him" (Lk. 17:3-4)
(emphasis added).
Step One: Rebuke -- Jesus clearly tells us that if a "brother," meaning a
believer, sins against us, we are first to rebuke him. What does this mean?
To rebuke is to criticize sharply, to reprimand. This plays nicely into the
Christian principle of speaking the truth in love. To rebuke a brother is
not an act done with a hateful or prideful heart. No. In fact, it could
easily be compared to the behavior of a loving mother correcting her child
for a behavior that will bring harm to her child and/or others. She may
raise her voice and speak sternly, but she does so with a loving heart and
tongue. We are to rebuke our brothers privately, and with humble hearts.
Step Two: Repentance -- Jesus tells us that our forgiveness is conditional
upon the brother's repentance after the rebuke. To repent in the broad
biblical sense is to turn away from sin. Repentance is not simply a reform
of one's behavior, although genuine repentance ultimately results in
reformed behavior. Instead, repentance is the sincere feeling of remorse,
and a heartfelt search for forgiveness. A believer does not get to that
place without first feeling the burden of Holy Spirit conviction. The
natural response of a believer to Holy Spirit conviction is acknowledgement
that one has sinned, followed by true remorse and repentance. The kind of
repentance God demands, knowing the interaction of the indwelling Holy
Spirit with His children, is one that has visible results to others: fruits.
The great Apostle Paul discussed his gospel with King Agrippa, saying "that
they should repent and turn to God, doing works worthy of repentance" (Acts
26:20). Also, John the Baptist said, "Bring forth therefore fruits worthy of
repentance" (Lk. 3:8). True repentance is always evident and visible through
the changed hearts and fruit bearing works of the repentant. That kind of
transformation is evident to believers and unbelievers alike. It's obvious
to all who interact with the person and witness his or her daily conduct.
Jesus gives us more insight into this dilemma when he spoke these words:
"Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his
fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained
thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two
more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be
established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church:
but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man
and a publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth
shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be
loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on
earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them
of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered
together in my name, there am I in the midst of them" (Lk. 18:15-20).
In the practical and relational sense, repentance begins with the offender
recognizing his or her wrongdoing. This recognition always includes an
admission of guilt to the offended party. The person who has committed the
offense is required to confess the wrongdoing and express remorse to the
offended person for the sinful acts. Afterwards, the offender is to make a
commitment not to repeat the offense. Ultimately, the purpose of this
process is to express guilt and remorse to the offended person in an attempt
to gain forgiveness so that the two people can repair the relationship.
Without this process being fulfilled in its entirety, forgiveness is
impossible.
Step Three: Forgiveness -- If the first two steps have been completed, and
the fruits of sincere repentance have been observed, Jesus commands the
offended party to forgive his brother, as He has forgiven us.
What about the unbeliever?
This is what the Scriptures say about how we are to conduct ourselves among
unbelievers:
"After these things the Lord appointed other seventy also, and sent them two
and two before his face into every city and place, whither he himself would
come. Therefore said he unto them, The harvest truly is great, but the
labourers are few: pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he would
send forth labourers into his harvest. Go your ways: behold, I send you
forth as lambs among wolves. Carry neither purse, nor scrip, nor shoes: and
salute no man by the way. And into whatsoever house ye enter, first say,
Peace be to this house. And if the son of peace be there, your peace shall
rest upon it: if not, it shall turn to you again. And in the same house
remain, eating and drinking such things as they give: for the labourer is
worthy of his hire. Go not from house to house. And into whatsoever city ye
enter, and they receive you, eat such things as are set before you: And heal
the sick that are therein, and say unto them, The kingdom of God is come
nigh unto you. But into whatsoever city ye enter, and they receive you not,
go your ways out into the streets of the same, and say, Even the very dust
of your city, which cleaveth on us, we do wipe off against you:
notwithstanding be ye sure of this, that the kingdom of God is come nigh
unto you. But I say unto you, that it shall be more tolerable in that day
for Sodom, than for that city" (Lk. 10:1-12).
We must be very careful here because we are commanded never to judge the
hearts of others with regard to their salvation. To do so would be assuming
godship, which is a sin. Even so, the Lord has given us permission, in Holy
Spirit discernment, to shake the dust from our sandals and to move on, when
we don't meet with peace in His name. God has given us specific instruction
in this regard, and we should obey His words. He even warns us about how we
are to interact with unbelievers: in wisdom and with gentleness; to be in
the world but not of the world, because we are His chosen, and are set apart
as the salt and light of the world. He explains this concept in the
following passage:
"Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh
the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Be not ye therefore
partakers with them. For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in
the Lord: walk as children of light: (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all
goodness and righteousness and truth;) Proving what is acceptable unto the
Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but
rather reprove them. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which
are done of them in secret. But all things that are reproved are made
manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light. Wherefore
he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ
shall give thee light. See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools,
but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Wherefore be ye
not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is" (Eph. 5:6-11).
Back to the Original Issue of Forgiveness
Unconditional forgiveness is canceling a debt to all those who intentionally
offend us, whether or not they own up to what they have done and repent.
Offering forgiveness without repentance, however, does not follow the
biblical model of forgiveness, as previously outlined in Luke 17:3-4.
The Bible says we are to forgive as God forgave us. It is written in
Ephesians 4:32, "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you," and Colossians
3:13 states, "Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man
have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye."
However, God withholds His forgiveness until we repent: "And saying, The
time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe
the gospel" (Mk. 1:15). "I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall
all likewise perish. Or those eighteen, upon whom the tower in Siloam fell,
and slew them, think ye that they were sinners above all men that dwelt in
Jerusalem? I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise
perish" (Lk. 13:3-5). "Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins
may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the
presence of the Lord" (Acts 3:19).
God does not grant forgiveness to those of us who continue to act with
prideful arrogance against Him, and against our brothers and sisters in
Christ. We must recognize our sin and repent to receive and enjoy God's
merciful forgiveness. We must exhibit this same behavior in our
relationships in the Body. God requires repentance and so must we.
An unrepentant person maintains a false sense of control over his life
through pride, which inevitably leads to destruction, violence, and
animosity. This is because an unrepentant heart is conceived in the child of
the devil: "The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and
the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate" (Prov. 8:13). "Pride goeth
before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall" (Prov. 16:18). "A
man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in
spirit" (Prov. 29:23).
Turning toward God is necessary to break the cycle of destructive behaviors
and patterns of relating to others. If, as believers, we don't require
repentance on the part of the offender, we stand in the way of that person
coming to see his or her need for God and experiencing His forgiveness. To
put it simply, forgiveness is a two-way process: repentance on the part of
the offender and pardon on the part of the offended.
How To Deal with the Unrepentant
The ultimate purpose of forgiveness is the healing of a relationship. This
healing occurs only when the offender repents and demonstrates remorse, and
when the offended one grants a pardon and demonstrates loving acceptance.
When the offender does not take the first step, we have no other choice but
to exercise inward forgiveness for the sake of our own peace of mind and
tranquility. This is when we choose to no longer be a party to the
unfavorable emotions we experience when we think of the malicious behavior.
Although we are not required to forgive the unrepentant offender, we are
commanded to pray that our enemies would come to repentance, especially of
their sins before Christ, if they are not saved. "But I say unto you, Love
your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and
pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be
the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to
rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the
unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even
the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more
than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as
your Father which is in heaven is perfect" (Matt. 5:44-48).
Outward forgiveness, in the case of an unrepentant offender, is something we
turn over to God himself. Outwardly, only God can extend forgiveness to our
enemies. This is a burden He gladly accepts on our behalf if we will simply
allow Him to deliver us from the pain of this burden.
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