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| User: |
"Carl" |
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29 Dec 2007 01:54:05 PM |
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Paul's Prescription For Anger Management |
Continuing the theme of anger and how to deal with it from a Biblical
standpoint, I read the following sermon from Dean Meadows who turns to the
book of Ephesians for his lesson. I found it to help me and I hope it helps
the reader as well.
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
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Paul's Prescription For Anger Management
by Dean Meadows
Ephesians 4:26-5:2
A young girl who was writing a paper for school came to her father and
asked, "Dad, what is the difference between anger and exasperation?" The
father replied, "It is mostly a matter of degree. Let me show you what I
mean."
With that the father went to the telephone and dialed a number at random. To
the man who answered the phone, he said, "Hello, is Melvin there?" The man
answered, "There is no one living here named Melvin. Why don't you learn to
look up numbers before you dial"
"See," said the father to his daughter. "That man was not a bit happy with
our call. He was probably very busy with something and we annoyed him. Now
watch...." The father dialed the number again. "Hello, is Melvin there?"
asked the father. "Now look here!" came the heated reply. "You just called
this number and I told you that there is no Melvin here! You've got lot of
guts calling again!" The receiver slammed down hard.
The father turned to his daughter and said, "You see, that was anger. Now I'll
show you what exasperation means. "He dialed the same number, and when a
violent voice roared, "Hello!" The father calmly said, "Hello, this is
Melvin. Have there been any calls for me?"
We all face anger, and most of us experience it every day for all sorts of
causes; someone going under the speed limit in the left hand lane on the
interstate, or someone takes your parking space at Wal-Mart, or the copier
jams again.
You've probably heard the expressions like "boiling mad", or we had a
"heated argument" or "I have gotten so mad that steam was coming out of my
ears".
So we know it is enviable that we are going to "Blow our top" from time to
time, how are we to handle it? So this morning let's look at the advice we
read from Paul on anger management. First of all we must realize that.
Sometimes Anger is ok
Our text tells us, "Be angry, and do not sin". We have this idea that anger
itself is a sin. But it is not being angry that is the sin; it is the
reaction when we become angry is what can become the sin.
Anger when held in can be both physically and physiologically unhealthy.
That is where we get the saying that "I blew my top", in other words, I lost
control. Instead of me controlling my anger, it controlled me.
My wife Hope now has for a couple of years been saying that she wants a
heavy bag to hit. Now you might think that sounds bad, but considering the
alternative of her hitting me, I know what she is getting for Christmas next
year. Physical exertion can help you to blow off the steam.
You read about these kids who after many years of someone picking on them,
they take a gun and go into the schools for revenge. The same when you hear
about someone going into their employer or former employer and shooting it
up. They did not vent their anger till it was too late and they lost it.
But the release of anger does not have to be done behind closed doors. We
should be angry when we had innocent babies are being killed daily. We
should not be angry and want to do harm to the parents or the Doctor's as
some of these nuts do, killing the Doctor and then claiming that God told
them to.
We should be angry when we have minorities like the atheist and the
homosexuals trying to prevent me from expressing our beliefs in God. But God
doesn't promote hate crimes. Love the sinner, hate the sin.
There are things we should be angry about, and that is anything that is
contrary to what God is or says.
Why do I think this? We are to be Christ like, in other words we are to
model and mold our lives around Jesus Christ. We read in.
John 2:14-16 And He found in the temple those who sold oxen and sheep and
doves, and the moneychangers doing business. When He had made a whip of
cords, He drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen and
poured out the changers money and overturned the tables. And He said to
those who sold doves, "Take these things away! Do not make My Fathers house
a house of merchandise!"
So does this mean that Jesus got angry? I don't think He was asking
permission to overturn their tables. These men where taking a place of
worship and using it for their own personal gain. And I'm sure there were a
lot more of them then there then there were of those with Jesus. But He was
no wimp and I think they knew He meant business. And Jesus actions of
turning over the tables and chasing the dealers out was not an act of anger
toward the people as it was a healthy anger directed at the lack of respect
for God's house.
So some anger is ok, then.
Don't hold on to Anger
Paul said, "Do not let the sun go down on your wrath". So we are not to
allow our anger to fester or continue for a long time. Christians should
respond with controlled anger to sin and injustice, but they should never be
consumed by this anger. Instead they should seek opportunities to express
Christ love to everyone.
Have you ever got a splinter in your hand? If you don't remove the splinter
when you first get it, then you let the skin grow over and it will irate you
until you get it out. It can also get infected. That's what happens when you
have anger that you hold on to. You need to get rid of your anger before it
festers and infects you too.
Have you ever gone to bed mad? You know how much sleep you got then right.
That is why you need to take care of your anger before you go to bed. There
have been many times that I've had to say I'm sorry before I went to bed.
Anger when not dealt with in a timely fashion will cause you a lot of pain
in the future. So don't hold on to your anger, because if you do it can lead
to my next point.
Anger when not settled leads to opportunities for the Devil
Vs.27 nor give a place to the devil
When you hold on to your anger you are opining up a foothold for Satan.
Maybe you have heard the following expressions.
(1) "Give Satan an inch and he'll be a ruler."
(2) "Never give the devil a ride-he always wants to drive."
(3) "In the sentence of life, the devil may be a comma-but never let him be
the
period."
(4) "He who angers you controls you."
Satan will use anger so fast you won't know what hits you. For example,
there have been times that I have lost control when I got angry and I was so
mad that I had to be told what I did afterwards. I don't remember what I
said; I don't remember what I did; I totally lose control.
When we get angry and lose control we can lose a friendship, we can lose our
credibility, or we can even lose our job. But worse yet is we can and will
loose our testimony, our witness, our chance to share Christ with
effectiveness.
How many times have you gotten angry and let some words you shouldn't say
come out of your mouth at work? Then try inviting someone you work with then
to church with you.
I use to do an illustration with the youth when I worked with them and
parents this is good for you to use with your own kids at home. But get a
tube of toothpaste and take the contents out and put them on a plate. Then
have them try to put the toothpaste back in the tube. Now I've witnessed
some very creative ways of trying to accomplish this, but the point of this
experiment is that once something comes out of your mouth it is very hard to
take back.
Now you can say you're sorry and apologize for you mistakes but people have
a tendency to remember the bad. It can take years to gain a reputation of
being a Godly person and when you lose control of your temper, Satan will
destroy everything you have worked so hard to earn.
When someone is out of control, as we often are when angry, then we do tend
to be more vulnerable to those who would take advantage.
A man once told a friend, "When I fight with my wife, she gets historical."
"Oh, don't you mean 'hysterical'?" asked his friend.
"No, historical-she keeps bringing up the past."
Control is definitely an issue-don't allow the devil to take the helm by
giving him an edge.
And one of the things that Satan likes to control when we loose control when
we get angry is what comes out of our mouth.
Vs.29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for
necessary edification, that it may impact grace to the hearers.
What is the one quickest way to spread anger? Our tongue. If we yield
control of our tongue and allow anger to have all the voice it needs then it
can do a lot of damage. So do not allow Satan to get a foothold but there is
one more element of anger that need to be addressed.
Anger will ultimately distance us from God
Vs. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
Remember last week we talked about God being love. If God's nature is to
love then wouldn't anger be the opposite. Therefore it causes separation
between our creator and us. Anger is an easy path to take so how do we
overcome it.
Turn your bitter into better with Christ like qualities
Vs.31-5:2 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put
away from you with all malice. And be kind to one another, even as God in
Christ forgave you. Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk
in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering
and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling aroma.
Be imitators of God. That's a hard order to fill and even harder if we try
to do it in anger. The title of my sermon is anger management, which I am
not so sure I like that terminology. Management sounds like something you do
with your money or a rental property. I think rather than manage it; we need
to convert it into love. Turn your anger into kindness, tenderheartedness,
forgiveness, and into love as our text says.
Now with Christ there comes instead an anger release-as we receive His
life-giving love-and then in turn, allow Him to live that love through us.
Maybe you're here today, and no matter how hard you've tried, that release
does not seem to come. Maybe you've tried and tried, and it just seems to
continue in a spiral. Won't you come and find His sweet release?
Maybe you're here today, and things have been going pretty well, but there
is just that one little something that keeps nagging at you in the back of
your mind, and you recognize that little tempting voice calling you to
harbor that grudge a little longer. Won't you come and be free from it
instead, before it grows to an even greater strength?
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| User: "SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim" |
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| Title: Re: Paul's Prescription For Anger Management-tell yuor god to pay attention to it |
01 Jan 2008 11:04:11 AM |
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your god is the angry one, your HORSESHIT sky pixie gets his ***** panties
in a wad and MURDERS everyone every so often just because he doesn't like
the way things are going
DEATH TO THE SICK, SADISTIC ***** CALLED THE CHRISTIAN GOD
Shall we compare body counts in the bible?
Let's see, the loving, caring christian god character drowned the whole
world, killed the firstborn of Egypt as well as its army after a devastating
series of plagues, ordered and personally participated in the slaughter of
countless
individuals during a genocidal rampage of his chosen people, fathered a
son specifically to be killed, and personally tortured a poor slob named
Job on a bet, and don't forget about demanding that Abraham MURDER his only
son.
The dreaded satan character did... Uhh... I don't know. I suppose he might
have killed someone at some point, but I'm not sure.
The satan character is a sweetheart compared to the evil monster
COLD-HEARTED ***** character called the christian god.
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| User: "Carl" |
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| Title: Re: Paul's Prescription For Anger Management |
01 Jan 2008 01:08:41 PM |
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"SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim" <killgod@killgod.com> wrote in message
news:13nkskd6m3c4vca@corp.supernews.com...
your god is the angry one, your HORSESHIT sky pixie gets his *****
panties in a wad and MURDERS everyone every so often just because he
doesn't like the way things are going
DEATH TO THE SICK, SADISTIC ***** CALLED THE CHRISTIAN GOD
Shall we compare body counts in the bible?
Let's see, the loving, caring christian god character drowned the whole
world, killed the firstborn of Egypt as well as its army after a
devastating
series of plagues, ordered and personally participated in the slaughter of
countless
individuals during a genocidal rampage of his chosen people, fathered a
son specifically to be killed, and personally tortured a poor slob named
Job on a bet, and don't forget about demanding that Abraham MURDER his
only
son.
The dreaded satan character did... Uhh... I don't know. I suppose he might
have killed someone at some point, but I'm not sure.
The satan character is a sweetheart compared to the evil monster
COLD-HEARTED ***** character called the christian god.
Ps 14:1; 53:1
The fool says in his heart, "There is no God ." (NIV)
Ps 53:1
The fool says in his heart, "There is no God." They are corrupt, and their
ways are vile; there is no one who does good. (NIV)
[Atheists, whether in opinion or practice, are the greatest fools in the
world. Those that do not seek God do not understand; they are like
brute-beasts that have no understanding; for man is distinguished from the
brutes, not so much by the powers of reason as by a capacity for religion.
The workers of iniquity, whatever they pretend to, have no knowledge; those
may truly be said to know nothing that do not know God, v. 4. (from Matthew
Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible: New Modern Edition)]
Prov 6:16-17
There are six things the Lord hates...a lying tongue... (NIV)
Prov 10:18
He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a
fool. (NIV)
Prov 10:23
A fool finds pleasure in evil conduct, but a man of understanding delights
in wisdom. (NIV)
Prov 12:16
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
(NIV)
Prov 12:22
The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful. (NIV)
Prov 13:16
Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly. (NIV)
Prov 14:8
The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of
fools is deception. (NIV)
Prov 14:16
A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and
reckless. (NIV)
Prov 14:24
The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields folly.
(NIV)
Prov 15:2
The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes
folly. (NIV)
Prov 15:7
The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools. (NIV)
Prov 18:2
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own
opinions. (NIV)
Prov 23:9
Do not speak to a fool, for he will scorn the wisdom of your words. (NIV)
Prov 26:4
Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you will be like him
yourself. (NIV)
Prov 26:11
As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly. (NIV)
Prov 27:3
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but provocation by a fool is heavier than
both. (NIV)
Prov 27:22
Though you grind a fool in a mortar, grinding him like grain with a pestle,
you will not remove his folly from him. (NIV)
Eccl 7:5
It is better to heed a wise man's rebuke than to listen to the song of
fools. (NIV)
Eccl 7:6
Like the crackling of thorns under the pot, so is the laughter of fools.
This too is meaningless. (NIV)
Eccl 7:9
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of
fools. (NIV)
Rom 1:22
Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools... (NIV)
It's interesting that those God calls fools and liars are not intelligent
enough to figure out why I don't respond with anything other than scripture
with them. God was right about them when He said that "although they claimed
to be wise, they became fools."
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
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| User: "SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim" |
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| Title: Re: Paul's Prescription For Anger Management |
01 Jan 2008 02:59:35 PM |
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It's interesting to noe that carl is a brainwashed christian fuckhead and
for some reason won't post any OBJECTABLE, VERIFIABLE EVIDENCE of the
existence of his HORSESHIT SKY PIXIE
carl, hasn't your ***** god given you anything new to say lately?
why are you still posting the ***** ramblings from some superstitious
cave dwellers and goat fuckers carl?
people don't live in caves and ***** goats anymore.
so, supposedly the ALL-POWERFUL JERK christian god was doing miracles, and
saying all of sorts of things back in the days of superstitious cave
dwellers and goat fuckers when no one could really verify anything, however
now, that the source can actually be VERIFIED WITH OBJECTABLE, VERIFIABLE
EVIDENCE, and people aren't living in caves and fucking goats anymore, then
all of a sudden, the ALL-POWERFUL SKY PIXIE IS NEVER HEARD FROM AGAIN.
Hmmmmmmmmm
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: Paul's Prescription For Anger Management-tell yuor god to payattention to it |
01 Jan 2008 11:17:24 AM |
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On Jan 1, 12:04=A0pm, "SheBlewHimDidYouBlowHim" <kill...@killgod.com>
wrote:
your god is the angry one, your HORSESHIT sky pixie gets his ***** panti=
es
in a wad and MURDERS everyone every so often just because he doesn't like
the way things are going
DEATH TO THE SICK, SADISTIC ***** CALLED THE CHRISTIAN GOD
Shall we compare body counts in the bible?
=A0Let's see, the loving, caring christian god character drowned the whole=
world, killed the firstborn of Egypt as well as its army after a devastati=
ng
series of plagues, ordered and personally participated in the slaughter of=
countless
=A0individuals during a genocidal rampage of his chosen people, fathered a=
=A0son specifically to be killed, and personally tortured a poor slob name=
d
=A0Job on a bet, and don't forget about demanding that Abraham MURDER his =
only
son.
=A0The dreaded satan character did... Uhh... I don't know. I suppose he mi=
ght
=A0have killed someone at some point, but I'm not sure.
=A0The satan character is a sweetheart compared to the evil monster
COLD-HEARTED ***** character called the christian god.
Ps 14:1; 53:1
The fool says in his heart, "There is no God ." (NIV)
Ps 53:1
The fool says in his heart, "There is no God." They are corrupt, and
their ways are vile; there is no one who does good. (NIV)
[Atheists, whether in opinion or practice, are the greatest fools in
the world. Those that do not seek God do not understand; they are like
brute-beasts that have no understanding; for man is distinguished from
the brutes, not so much by the powers of reason as by a capacity for
religion. The workers of iniquity, whatever they pretend to, have no
knowledge; those may truly be said to know nothing that do not know
God, v. 4. (from Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible: New
Modern Edition)]
Prov 6:16-17
There are six things the Lord hates...a lying tongue... (NIV)
Prov 10:18
He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander
is a fool. (NIV)
Prov 10:23
A fool finds pleasure in evil conduct, but a man of understanding
delights in wisdom. (NIV)
Prov 12:16
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an
insult. (NIV)
Prov 12:22
The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful.
(NIV)
Prov 13:16
Every prudent man acts out of knowledge, but a fool exposes his folly.
(NIV)
Prov 14:8
The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the
folly of fools is deception. (NIV)
Prov 14:16
A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and
reckless. (NIV)
Prov 14:24
The wealth of the wise is their crown, but the folly of fools yields
folly. (NIV)
Prov 15:2
The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool
gushes folly. (NIV)
Prov 15:7
The lips of the wise spread knowledge; not so the hearts of fools.
(NIV)
Prov 18:2
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his
own opinions. (NIV)
Prov 23:9
Do not speak to a fool, for he will scorn the wisdom of your words.
(NIV)
Prov 26:4
Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you will be like him
yourself. (NIV)
Prov 26:11
As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly. (NIV)
Prov 27:3
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but provocation by a fool is heavier
than both. (NIV)
Prov 27:22
Though you grind a fool in a mortar, grinding him like grain with a
pestle, you will not remove his folly from him. (NIV)
Eccl 7:5
It is better to heed a wise man's rebuke than to listen to the song of
fools. (NIV)
Eccl 7:6
Like the crackling of thorns under the pot, so is the laughter of
fools. This too is meaningless. (NIV)
Eccl 7:9
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the
lap of fools. (NIV)
Rom 1:22
Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools... (NIV)
It's interesting that those God calls fools and liars are not
intelligent enough to figure out why I don't respond with anything
other than scripture with them. God was right about them when He said
that "although they claimed to be wise, they became fools."
May God bless,
Carl
my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
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