| Topic: |
Sociology > Depression |
| User: |
"Rosena" |
| Date: |
10 Oct 2005 12:57:18 AM |
| Object: |
@ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
Thanks everyone,
All the people I trust a real lot have responded, I can't believe the
outpouring and it helps me cope and have reality check. Her father and
I saw one leg and one arm without waking her up. She is a mess. They
are not gashes or deep but many many tiny cuts and a couple of bad ones
all over. I went in my study and sobbed.
Thank Gawd she didn't wake up.
I don't know why I thought usenet - sometimes I really don't think. I
want her NOT on it at all. It just increases risk I think plus other
millon reasons not good idea.
She doesn't have school Thursday and Friday. I am going to let her be
with friend Friday but Thursday I am going to insist she is with me. I
am not going to push talking, just take her to school, have lunch,
maybe look at books, but give her space to talk.
She will balk. All she wants is friends right now. But even if she is
tugging to be toally independent, I feel I must force together time.
BTW, she balks but then always has great time.
Luna - art is key. I am going to see if I can make that a going thing
again. I am so so angry at myself. I can't express how angry. Truth?
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
I freaked when I had a baby and then my mama died right after. There
was just so much ***** in my childhood and it welled up inside when I
had a baby. I really didn't have a clue what normal mothering should,
could, look like.
I love Maria so damn much. It doesn't look like permanent teaching
this year and maybe this is God's way for Maria needs to stay put. We
are not moving. I have to not fret here and just make it better for
her.
Thank you so so so much everyone - so much -- you have all helped to
keep my eye on the right ball these last couple of days.
love,
Rosena
.
|
|
| User: "Luna" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 10:09:32 AM |
|
|
"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1128923838.271463.182210@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
Thanks everyone,
All the people I trust a real lot have responded, I can't believe the
outpouring and it helps me cope and have reality check. Her father and
I saw one leg and one arm without waking her up. She is a mess. They
are not gashes or deep but many many tiny cuts and a couple of bad ones
all over. I went in my study and sobbed.
Thank Gawd she didn't wake up.
I don't know why I thought usenet - sometimes I really don't think. I
want her NOT on it at all. It just increases risk I think plus other
millon reasons not good idea.
She doesn't have school Thursday and Friday. I am going to let her be
with friend Friday but Thursday I am going to insist she is with me. I
am not going to push talking, just take her to school, have lunch,
maybe look at books, but give her space to talk.
She will balk. All she wants is friends right now. But even if she is
tugging to be toally independent, I feel I must force together time.
BTW, she balks but then always has great time.
Luna - art is key. I am going to see if I can make that a going thing
again. I am so so angry at myself. I can't express how angry. Truth?
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
Sounds more like you hate yourself, Rosena. I doubt any mothers here hate
you at all, and believe me though I've never been faced with this issue in
my own girl it wouldn't have surprised me one bit and I probably would have
blamed myself just as you are now.
Anyway. Trick with Maria is to get her in touch with something she's
passionate about, whatever that may be, especially if it gives her an outlet
for her thoughts and emotions. I think that could go a long way.
Jean
I freaked when I had a baby and then my mama died right after. There
was just so much ***** in my childhood and it welled up inside when I
had a baby. I really didn't have a clue what normal mothering should,
could, look like.
I love Maria so damn much. It doesn't look like permanent teaching
this year and maybe this is God's way for Maria needs to stay put. We
are not moving. I have to not fret here and just make it better for
her.
Thank you so so so much everyone - so much -- you have all helped to
keep my eye on the right ball these last couple of days.
love,
Rosena
.
|
|
|
| User: "yuluwirri" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 03:07:49 PM |
|
|
x-no-archive: yes
On Mon, 10 Oct 2005 11:09:32 -0400, "Luna" <lunajean@gmail.com> wrote:
"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1128923838.271463.182210@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
Thanks everyone,
All the people I trust a real lot have responded, I can't believe the
outpouring and it helps me cope and have reality check. Her father and
I saw one leg and one arm without waking her up. She is a mess. They
are not gashes or deep but many many tiny cuts and a couple of bad ones
all over. I went in my study and sobbed.
Thank Gawd she didn't wake up.
I don't know why I thought usenet - sometimes I really don't think. I
want her NOT on it at all. It just increases risk I think plus other
millon reasons not good idea.
She doesn't have school Thursday and Friday. I am going to let her be
with friend Friday but Thursday I am going to insist she is with me. I
am not going to push talking, just take her to school, have lunch,
maybe look at books, but give her space to talk.
She will balk. All she wants is friends right now. But even if she is
tugging to be toally independent, I feel I must force together time.
BTW, she balks but then always has great time.
Luna - art is key. I am going to see if I can make that a going thing
again. I am so so angry at myself. I can't express how angry. Truth?
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
Sounds more like you hate yourself, Rosena. I doubt any mothers here hate
you at all, and believe me though I've never been faced with this issue in
my own girl it wouldn't have surprised me one bit and I probably would have
blamed myself just as you are now.
Anyway. Trick with Maria is to get her in touch with something she's
passionate about, whatever that may be, especially if it gives her an outlet
for her thoughts and emotions. I think that could go a long way.
Jean
And may I tag on here, Rosena, introduce her to journaling. I bought
my daughter a very large satchel with a lock and key and she has
written in it for years now. It is an excellent outlet for her strong
emotions. Perhaps Maria could benefit by doing this also. Good luck to
you all.
G
I freaked when I had a baby and then my mama died right after. There
was just so much ***** in my childhood and it welled up inside when I
had a baby. I really didn't have a clue what normal mothering should,
could, look like.
I love Maria so damn much. It doesn't look like permanent teaching
this year and maybe this is God's way for Maria needs to stay put. We
are not moving. I have to not fret here and just make it better for
her.
Thank you so so so much everyone - so much -- you have all helped to
keep my eye on the right ball these last couple of days.
love,
Rosena
--
yuluwirri
~~~~~~~
Fish know.
~~~~~~~
yuluwirri@hotmail.com
.
|
|
|
|
|
| User: "Rhiannon" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 08:40:17 AM |
|
|
"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1128923838.271463.182210@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
Why on earth would we hate you? This isn't even about you. It's about your
daughter. Remember? Besides, I don't even hate Andrea Yates and she
drowned her five children in a bathtub.
--
Rhiannon
rhianon@sympatico.ca
The Labyrinth
http://thelabyrinthofr.blogspot.com
.
|
|
|
|
| User: "jill" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 10:05:45 AM |
|
|
Rosena wrote:
Thanks everyone,
All the people I trust a real lot have responded, I can't believe the
outpouring and it helps me cope and have reality check. Her father and
I saw one leg and one arm without waking her up. She is a mess. They
are not gashes or deep but many many tiny cuts and a couple of bad ones
all over. I went in my study and sobbed.
Thank Gawd she didn't wake up.
I don't know why I thought usenet - sometimes I really don't think. I
want her NOT on it at all. It just increases risk I think plus other
millon reasons not good idea.
She doesn't have school Thursday and Friday. I am going to let her be
with friend Friday but Thursday I am going to insist she is with me. I
am not going to push talking, just take her to school, have lunch,
maybe look at books, but give her space to talk.
She will balk. All she wants is friends right now. But even if she is
tugging to be toally independent, I feel I must force together time.
BTW, she balks but then always has great time.
Luna - art is key. I am going to see if I can make that a going thing
again. I am so so angry at myself. I can't express how angry. Truth?
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
I freaked when I had a baby and then my mama died right after. There
was just so much ***** in my childhood and it welled up inside when I
had a baby. I really didn't have a clue what normal mothering should,
could, look like.
I love Maria so damn much. It doesn't look like permanent teaching
this year and maybe this is God's way for Maria needs to stay put. We
are not moving. I have to not fret here and just make it better for
her.
Thank you so so so much everyone - so much -- you have all helped to
keep my eye on the right ball these last couple of days.
love,
Rosena
You are doing all the right things. Franz is right about trust. It
is good she didn't wake up. Trust is key! Present a united front,
you and Lief, and just keep letting her now how much you love her, how
she is worth loving. How she is a good person!!! good luck! jill
.
|
|
|
|
| User: "Nom dePlume nomdeplume1000-at-yahoo.com" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 01:17:47 AM |
|
|
You're welcome. Good luck to all of you.
--
Nom dePlume, Ph.D.
Why, yes, in fact, I am a rocket scientist.
Guide to Medications for Mental Illness:
http://www.geocities.com/nomdeplume1000/
=====
"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1128923838.271463.182210@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
Thanks everyone,
All the people I trust a real lot have responded, I can't believe
the
outpouring and it helps me cope and have reality check. Her father
and
I saw one leg and one arm without waking her up. She is a mess.
They
are not gashes or deep but many many tiny cuts and a couple of bad
ones
all over. I went in my study and sobbed.
Thank Gawd she didn't wake up.
I don't know why I thought usenet - sometimes I really don't think.
I
want her NOT on it at all. It just increases risk I think plus
other
millon reasons not good idea.
She doesn't have school Thursday and Friday. I am going to let her
be
with friend Friday but Thursday I am going to insist she is with me.
I
am not going to push talking, just take her to school, have lunch,
maybe look at books, but give her space to talk.
She will balk. All she wants is friends right now. But even if she
is
tugging to be toally independent, I feel I must force together time.
BTW, she balks but then always has great time.
Luna - art is key. I am going to see if I can make that a going
thing
again. I am so so angry at myself. I can't express how angry.
Truth?
And yes all mothers go ahead and hate me. . .
I freaked when I had a baby and then my mama died right after.
There
was just so much ***** in my childhood and it welled up inside when I
had a baby. I really didn't have a clue what normal mothering
should,
could, look like.
I love Maria so damn much. It doesn't look like permanent teaching
this year and maybe this is God's way for Maria needs to stay put.
We
are not moving. I have to not fret here and just make it better for
her.
Thank you so so so much everyone - so much -- you have all helped to
keep my eye on the right ball these last couple of days.
love,
Rosena
.
|
|
|
|
| User: "Used2be" |
|
| Title: Re: @ I saw - BTW Thanks @ |
10 Oct 2005 08:53:19 AM |
|
|
take care of yourself, rosena...and of maria to.
nothing else really matters...
~u2b
.
|
|
|
|
|
Related Articles |
|
|
