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"Rosena" |
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24 Oct 2005 04:12:54 PM |
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@ Yes, Venting @ |
Helping Maria is nuts because of other people setting terms. The people
at hospital do not think Maria needs partial but is better off health
wise in school while at the same time they are setting her up for a
complete evaluation (and she is doing weekly therapy). The question
is: will the school take her back while she is waiting for her
appointment or does the poor girl have to tag around with me until
possibly Nov. 3 before an evaluation is done??
This feels like politics with her school instead of helping my
daughter. We have been going back and forth all morning and I am
frustrated (not heard back from school yet to see if will go for this
plan).
AND - in middle I am trying to take Roman Law take home exam which is
very intense and I really want to SCREAM - not at anyone just nice
hysterical sobbing gut wrenching screams. But I can't, so I won't.
Posted here instead.
Okay - stay calm Rosena - if school does not do what Doctor thinks is
best, I will just find another damn school for Maria. Problem is, she
is so depressed to be out of school.
Rosena
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| User: "Used2be" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
24 Oct 2005 04:36:57 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1130188374.518399.144560@z14g2000cwz.googlegroups.com...
Helping Maria is nuts because of other people setting terms. The people
at hospital do not think Maria needs partial but is better off health
wise in school while at the same time they are setting her up for a
complete evaluation (and she is doing weekly therapy). The question
is: will the school take her back while she is waiting for her
appointment or does the poor girl have to tag around with me until
possibly Nov. 3 before an evaluation is done??
This feels like politics with her school instead of helping my
daughter. We have been going back and forth all morning and I am
frustrated (not heard back from school yet to see if will go for this
plan).
AND - in middle I am trying to take Roman Law take home exam which is
very intense and I really want to SCREAM - not at anyone just nice
hysterical sobbing gut wrenching screams. But I can't, so I won't.
Posted here instead.
Okay - stay calm Rosena - if school does not do what Doctor thinks is
best, I will just find another damn school for Maria. Problem is, she
is so depressed to be out of school.
perhaps this will be good for her in the long run. kind of like being
grounded. now that she is out of school, she misses it. so she'll be much
more likely to be on her best behavior when she goes back so that this won't
happen again. i wouldn't make it much fun for her while she's out
either...that way it's all the more incentive for her to be "good" when she
goes back!!
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
24 Oct 2005 10:03:23 PM |
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I suppose you are right, but the focus of the school should be on doing
what health professionals think, not what they think. I wrote the
principle as the doctor asked me too and I know she checks her email
but I have not heard from her yet so I am assuming the doctor wanting
her back in school now has thrown her into a tizzy. Geesh.
I am doing exam now. But I am pooped - Maria is happily planning her
rock and roll band (she did practice on drums today) and though I am
not as you say to make things too fun I am trying to give her time (she
went to school with me for I did not want to risk cutting by leaving
her home) and we laughed a lot. . .it is good to see her laugh and
happy.
Hope you and all ASDers are hanging well.
Rosena
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
24 Oct 2005 10:07:55 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1130209403.527766.62500@g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
I suppose you are right, but the focus of the school should be on doing
what health professionals think, not what they think. I wrote the
principle as the doctor asked me too and I know she checks her email
but I have not heard from her yet so I am assuming the doctor wanting
her back in school now has thrown her into a tizzy. Geesh.
I am doing exam now. But I am pooped - Maria is happily planning her
rock and roll band (she did practice on drums today) and though I am
not as you say to make things too fun I am trying to give her time (she
went to school with me for I did not want to risk cutting by leaving
her home) and we laughed a lot. . .it is good to see her laugh and
happy.
Hope you and all ASDers are hanging well.
Rosena
why are there things in the house she could cut with
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
24 Oct 2005 10:29:48 PM |
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you can't hide or get rid of everything - and indeed I have found kids
can be very creative (a bent paper clip for example). There aren't
many things around, but I also don't want her here all alone for hours
while I am in school. She is engaged and happy being at university
with me until this things gets properly organized or she is back in
school or both.
Rosena
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
24 Oct 2005 10:38:31 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1130210988.779257.101650@g47g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
you can't hide or get rid of everything - and indeed I have found kids
can be very creative (a bent paper clip for example). There aren't
many things around, but I also don't want her here all alone for hours
while I am in school. She is engaged and happy being at university
with me until this things gets properly organized or she is back in
school or both.
Rosena
then put her in a place where she can't cut ,
if having her not cut herself is what you want ,
of course she's happy now ,
she has oodles of attention ,
and no responsibilities ,
how could anyone not be happy like that ,
you're teaching her how well her behaviour works ,
oh one more thing , yes , you can get rid of everything
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| User: "Bev Thornton" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 02:22:42 PM |
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On 2005-10-25, % wrote:
oh one more thing , yes , you can get rid of everything
Should her fingernails be pulled off, too?
Escalating an issue is no solution, all it does is produce more conflict.
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All wrong doing arises because of mind.
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 02:33:06 PM |
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Bev is absolutely right and took words out of my mouth - the point is
not to make Maria feel a freak. Moreover some close time with her mama
to help her feel more secure and better about herself is not a bad
thing. She is not a criminal, she is a kid with problems.
She is being good about doing therapy, is calmer than a couple of weeks
ago, likes her therapist, was open with doctor and showed him her arm
and leg, and is trying as best she can to regroup. I say YAY for Maria,
Dave.
Rosena
Bev Thornton wrote:
On 2005-10-25, % wrote:
oh one more thing , yes , you can get rid of everything
Should her fingernails be pulled off, too?
Escalating an issue is no solution, all it does is produce more conflict.
--
<reply.4.bev@xoxy.net> Support: <http://www.sudan-relief.org/>
<http://microsoft.com/protect>
All wrong doing arises because of mind.
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 03:59:59 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1130268785.882616.323250@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
Bev is absolutely right and took words out of my mouth - the point is
not to make Maria feel a freak. Moreover some close time with her mama
to help her feel more secure and better about herself is not a bad
thing. She is not a criminal, she is a kid with problems.
She is being good about doing therapy, is calmer than a couple of weeks
ago, likes her therapist, was open with doctor and showed him her arm
and leg, and is trying as best she can to regroup. I say YAY for Maria,
Dave.
Rosena
Bev Thornton wrote:
On 2005-10-25, % wrote:
oh one more thing , yes , you can get rid of everything
Should her fingernails be pulled off, too?
Escalating an issue is no solution, all it does is produce more
conflict.
--
<reply.4.bev@xoxy.net> Support:
<http://www.sudan-relief.org/>
<http://microsoft.com/protect>
All wrong doing arises because of mind.
well if you want to reward her for cutting thats up to you ,
so carry on your're going the right way
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 06:49:07 PM |
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On 25 Oct 2005 12:33:06 -0700, "Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com>
wrote:
<(((*> She is being good about doing therapy, is calmer than a couple of weeks
<(((*> ago, likes her therapist, was open with doctor and showed him her arm
<(((*> and leg, and is trying as best she can to regroup. I say YAY for Maria,
Okay, and you & Leif are being good about doing therapy too? You
& Leif like your therapist(s)? You & Leif are open with doctor?
You & Leif are trying as best you can to regroup?
Maria is doomed to fail unless you & Leif are carrying your share
of the load.
So when do we say YAY for you & Leif?
Tara J. Ballance
Montreal, Canada
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 08:34:43 PM |
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I am doing therapy - I am open with her Tara - I cannot force Leif to
do anything. But I am well aware that I have a lot to work out and
work on. Maria knows I think this is a family project and not a Maria
project.
Rosena
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
25 Oct 2005 08:49:59 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1130290483.147894.187850@z14g2000cwz.googlegroups.com...
I am doing therapy - I am open with her Tara - I cannot force Leif to
do anything. But I am well aware that I have a lot to work out and
work on. Maria knows I think this is a family project and not a Maria
project.
Rosena
yea and she will ingnore you until you stop encouraging herc
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: @ Yes, Venting @ |
26 Oct 2005 08:41:18 PM |
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On 25 Oct 2005 18:34:43 -0700, "Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com>
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<(((*> I am doing therapy -
Then you are working on your share of the solution, and YAY! for
you.
<(((*> I am open with her Tara - I cannot force Leif to
<(((*> do anything.
I don't want you to force Leif to do anything. I hope that, as
Maria's dad, he WANTS to do this in order to help her.
<(((*> But I am well aware that I have a lot to work out and
<(((*> work on. Maria knows I think this is a family project and not a Maria
<(((*> project.
I think that as you deal with your own issues, you will find that
Maria is able to deal with hers. I also think that as long as you
don't deal with your issues, Maria can't deal with hers.
But you & Maria are taking those first steps, and that's the
hardest part. I'm pulling for you guys.
Tara J. Ballance
Montreal, Canada
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