I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very stressfull.
I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I suppose I have trust
issues. When I do let someone in I always manage to find a way to sabotage
the relationship. I always expect to be rejected by people & when I dont
hear from them I automatically expect the worst & rant & rave at them for
some perceived wrong doing until of course they do then reject me because I
have hurt them & they wont forgive me no matter how apologetic & remorseful
I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked this week
& he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him really. Im an awful
person & I wish I could be swallowed up & disappear. I am sure many people
would be greatly relieved.
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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| Title: Re: Advice |
24 Jul 2004 09:00:06 AM |
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"Kellie" <fallenangel@kooee.com.au> wrote in message
news:41026842$1_1@news.iprimus.com.au...
I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very
stressfull.
I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I suppose I have
trust
issues. When I do let someone in I always manage to find a way to sabotage
the relationship. I always expect to be rejected by people & when I dont
hear from them I automatically expect the worst & rant & rave at them for
some perceived wrong doing until of course they do then reject me because
I
have hurt them & they wont forgive me no matter how apologetic &
remorseful
I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked this
week
& he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him really. Im an awful
person & I wish I could be swallowed up & disappear. I am sure many people
would be greatly relieved.
yea ok , but what did you want advice for ?
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| User: "used2be" |
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| Title: Re: Advice |
24 Jul 2004 10:05:54 AM |
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"Kellie" <fallenangel@kooee.com.au> wrote in message
news:41026842$1_1@news.iprimus.com.au...
I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very
stressfull.
I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I suppose I have
trust
issues. When I do let someone in I always manage to find a way to sabotage
the relationship. I always expect to be rejected by people & when I dont
hear from them I automatically expect the worst & rant & rave at them for
some perceived wrong doing until of course they do then reject me because
I
have hurt them & they wont forgive me no matter how apologetic &
remorseful
I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked this
week
& he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him really. Im an awful
person & I wish I could be swallowed up & disappear. I am sure many people
would be greatly relieved.
sounds like you could use some therapy/counseling. have you tried that
route yet? there are also many good books out there as well.
good luck,
u2b
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| User: "Jernau Gurgeh" |
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| Title: Re: Advice |
24 Jul 2004 07:09:40 PM |
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Kellie wrote in alt.support.depression:
I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very
stressfull. I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I
suppose I have trust issues. When I do let someone in I always manage
to find a way to sabotage the relationship. I always expect to be
rejected by people & when I dont hear from them I automatically expect
the worst & rant & rave at them for some perceived wrong doing until
of course they do then reject me because I have hurt them & they wont
forgive me no matter how apologetic & remorseful I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked
this week & he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him
really. Im an awful person & I wish I could be swallowed up &
disappear. I am sure many people would be greatly relieved.
I don't know about anxiety, but I do know that cognitive behaviour
therapy can help with that black and white thinking you seem to apply to
yourself as well to others.
See: http://tinyurl.com/dmro
Jernau
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Truth, I have learned, differs for everybody. Just as no two people ever
see a rainbow in exactly the same place - and yet both most certainly see
it, while the person seemingly standing right underneath it does not see
it at all - so truth is a question of where one stands, and the direction
one is looking in at the time.
Inversions - IMB
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| User: "Howian" |
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| Title: Re: Advice |
07 Aug 2004 08:50:41 PM |
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Not being a psychologist let me try some logical advice.
1. Take some time to diagnose the problem as you have done.
2. Forgive yourself for whatever has gone on in the past. Recognize that
blaming yourself is unproductive. However recognize that change is needed.
3. Make a list of things you should do to change the behavior. Radical changes
may not be needed. For example, lending people you knew $5,000 or sleeping
with someone on a first date would involve an unrealistic amount of trust.
Develop some realistic levels, perhaps getting some input from others.
4. Start trying to implement your suggestions.
Subject: Re: Advice
From: Jernau Gurgeh jernaugurgeh@*****.this.*****
Date: 7/24/2004 8:09 PM Eastern Standard Time
Message-id: <Xns953115E5FD7F7SynchronizeUrDogmas@127.0.0.1>
Kellie wrote in alt.support.depression:
I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very
stressfull. I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I
suppose I have trust issues. When I do let someone in I always manage
to find a way to sabotage the relationship. I always expect to be
rejected by people & when I dont hear from them I automatically expect
the worst & rant & rave at them for some perceived wrong doing until
of course they do then reject me because I have hurt them & they wont
forgive me no matter how apologetic & remorseful I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked
this week & he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him
really. Im an awful person & I wish I could be swallowed up &
disappear. I am sure many people would be greatly relieved.
I don't know about anxiety, but I do know that cognitive behaviour
therapy can help with that black and white thinking you seem to apply to
yourself as well to others.
See: http://tinyurl.com/dmro
Jernau
--
Truth, I have learned, differs for everybody. Just as no two people ever
see a rainbow in exactly the same place - and yet both most certainly see
it, while the person seemingly standing right underneath it does not see
it at all - so truth is a question of where one stands, and the direction
one is looking in at the time.
Inversions - IMB
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| User: "Kellie" |
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| Title: Re: Advice |
24 Jul 2004 09:50:29 PM |
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Thanks Jernau
I have made an appointment to talk to someone tomorrow & hopefully with some
advice & alot of hard work on my part I can work this ***** out. I appreciate
your advice
Kellie
"Jernau Gurgeh" <jernaugurgeh@*****.this.*****> wrote in message
news:Xns953115E5FD7F7SynchronizeUrDogmas@127.0.0.1...
Kellie wrote in alt.support.depression:
I suffer from anxiety depression and find new relationships very
stressfull. I have difficulty letting people get too close to me, I
suppose I have trust issues. When I do let someone in I always manage
to find a way to sabotage the relationship. I always expect to be
rejected by people & when I dont hear from them I automatically expect
the worst & rant & rave at them for some perceived wrong doing until
of course they do then reject me because I have hurt them & they wont
forgive me no matter how apologetic & remorseful I am afterwards..
I really need to break this cycle, Ive hurt someone I really liked
this week & he wont talk to me nor forgive me. I dont blame him
really. Im an awful person & I wish I could be swallowed up &
disappear. I am sure many people would be greatly relieved.
I don't know about anxiety, but I do know that cognitive behaviour
therapy can help with that black and white thinking you seem to apply to
yourself as well to others.
See: http://tinyurl.com/dmro
Jernau
--
Truth, I have learned, differs for everybody. Just as no two people ever
see a rainbow in exactly the same place - and yet both most certainly see
it, while the person seemingly standing right underneath it does not see
it at all - so truth is a question of where one stands, and the direction
one is looking in at the time.
Inversions - IMB
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