I was diagnosed about six motnhs ago with manic depression, psychotic,
and something else because of a test and the crap I am going through in
my life these past two years.
I got married two years ago to a woman that had a child. Bear in mine,
I am 37, and never been married. We bought a house, lived with my
morther in law for a year, been constantly remodeling, and have a
wonderful baby. My wife constantly bitches at me to do stuff, and we
get in a fight. The thing is I feel I do everything, I dont spend money
except on the house and fuel for my car, which is $100/2 weeks. She
spends money like its going out of style and bitches at me when my
checking account overdrafts (happened twice), yet she has the whole
moeny of 2 paychecks to spend. When I want to talk about finiances she
suts up and says "WELL, WE NEED THIS OR WE NEED THAT"
Even my parents think its my fault, I am sick of this going on and on
and on, and want out in some way. BUT there is a 8 month old baby
involved, also.
Well, that is the short end of what has happened to me. Any help? I
cant find any happiness in my life. Sitting with my baby girl is fun,
but the wife takes her away from me to feed her and such. I feel like I
cant be trusted with her and the only WAY is my wifes way.
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11 Jan 2007 11:23:27 AM |
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<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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I was diagnosed about six motnhs ago with manic depression, psychotic,
and something else because of a test and the crap I am going through in
my life these past two years.
I got married two years ago to a woman that had a child. Bear in mine,
I am 37, and never been married. We bought a house, lived with my
morther in law for a year, been constantly remodeling, and have a
wonderful baby. My wife constantly bitches at me to do stuff, and we
get in a fight. The thing is I feel I do everything, I dont spend money
except on the house and fuel for my car, which is $100/2 weeks. She
spends money like its going out of style and bitches at me when my
checking account overdrafts (happened twice), yet she has the whole
moeny of 2 paychecks to spend. When I want to talk about finiances she
suts up and says "WELL, WE NEED THIS OR WE NEED THAT"
Even my parents think its my fault, I am sick of this going on and on
and on, and want out in some way. BUT there is a 8 month old baby
involved, also.
Well, that is the short end of what has happened to me. Any help? I
cant find any happiness in my life. Sitting with my baby girl is fun,
but the wife takes her away from me to feed her and such. I feel like I
cant be trusted with her and the only WAY is my wifes way.
if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
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11 Jan 2007 11:39:56 AM |
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if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That would
suck
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| User: "%" |
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11 Jan 2007 12:41:09 PM |
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<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That would
suck
the laws won't let that happen unless you are somehow unfit to do so
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11 Jan 2007 01:05:37 PM |
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% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168537196.463367.211060@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That would
suck
the laws won't let that happen unless you are somehow unfit to do so
Thanks for the input.
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11 Jan 2007 01:10:54 PM |
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<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168537196.463367.211060@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said
when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That
would
suck
the laws won't let that happen unless you are somehow unfit to do so
Thanks for the input.
i know how you feel ,
i've gone through the exact same thing a couple of times ,
and trust me as hard as it is , its better to get out of it ,
it hurts at first , a lot , but it gets better and sometimes ,
you even end up with a partner that doesn't just use you for whatever ,
and give back nothing in return and then you get to ,
deal with all the you don't deserve all this good , feelings ,
so the fun still continues
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11 Jan 2007 03:03:38 PM |
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% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168542334.377513.288540@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168537196.463367.211060@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said
when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That
would
suck
the laws won't let that happen unless you are somehow unfit to do so
Thanks for the input.
i know how you feel ,
i've gone through the exact same thing a couple of times ,
and trust me as hard as it is , its better to get out of it ,
it hurts at first , a lot , but it gets better and sometimes ,
you even end up with a partner that doesn't just use you for whatever ,
and give back nothing in return and then you get to ,
deal with all the you don't deserve all this good , feelings ,
so the fun still continues
Just knowing that there WILL BE happiness makes me want to leave
quickly.
I also feel I would be VERY much happier also, but parents want me to
try yet again to work it out for the daughter sake. <sigh>
I dont knwo if I could trust anyone else. She changed the day we moved
into the house we live in. I mean THE DAY, there was this different
woman now that I was married to.
I cant wait to leave. I will be in a few months
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11 Jan 2007 03:08:27 PM |
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<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168549418.623380.230650@i56g2000hsf.googlegroups.com...
% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168542334.377513.288540@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
% wrote:
<zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1168537196.463367.211060@k58g2000hse.googlegroups.com...
if you're not happy in the situation get out of it ,
cause it looks like its not going to change on its own
I am on meds. Weird - been hospitalized, and that what others said
when
i was hospitalized, in the group therapy thing I was in.
Bad thing is I think she would keep me from our 8 month old. That
would
suck
the laws won't let that happen unless you are somehow unfit to do so
Thanks for the input.
i know how you feel ,
i've gone through the exact same thing a couple of times ,
and trust me as hard as it is , its better to get out of it ,
it hurts at first , a lot , but it gets better and sometimes ,
you even end up with a partner that doesn't just use you for whatever ,
and give back nothing in return and then you get to ,
deal with all the you don't deserve all this good , feelings ,
so the fun still continues
Just knowing that there WILL BE happiness makes me want to leave
quickly.
I also feel I would be VERY much happier also, but parents want me to
try yet again to work it out for the daughter sake. <sigh>
I dont knwo if I could trust anyone else. She changed the day we moved
into the house we live in. I mean THE DAY, there was this different
woman now that I was married to.
I cant wait to leave. I will be in a few months
i know i sound cold in my replies ,
but i'm really just trying to offer my point of view ,
tell your parents to live with her for a while ,
good luck in whatever way you choose to go ,
and if you can , let me know how it turns out
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11 Jan 2007 03:22:27 PM |
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I didnt take them as being cold, but will look you up in the future.
Thanks for taking the time to share.
Happiness - isnt that what we are supposed to look for or be full of?
Thanks again,
BT
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22 Jan 2007 03:22:57 PM |
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wrote:
I was diagnosed about six motnhs ago with manic depression, psychotic,
and something else because of a test and the crap I am going through in
my life these past two years.
I got married two years ago to a woman that had a child. Bear in mine,
I am 37, and never been married. We bought a house, lived with my
morther in law for a year, been constantly remodeling, and have a
wonderful baby. My wife constantly bitches at me to do stuff, and we
get in a fight. The thing is I feel I do everything, I dont spend money
except on the house and fuel for my car, which is $100/2 weeks. She
spends money like its going out of style and bitches at me when my
checking account overdrafts (happened twice), yet she has the whole
moeny of 2 paychecks to spend. When I want to talk about finiances she
suts up and says "WELL, WE NEED THIS OR WE NEED THAT"
Even my parents think its my fault, I am sick of this going on and on
and on, and want out in some way. BUT there is a 8 month old baby
involved, also.
Well, that is the short end of what has happened to me. Any help? I
cant find any happiness in my life. Sitting with my baby girl is fun,
but the wife takes her away from me to feed her and such. I feel like I
cant be trusted with her and the only WAY is my wifes way.
My wife now knows that we are going to split apart, not that she hasn't
probably guessed it, already. She emailed my parents, and they were on
the phone for a while with me pleading for me to make it work. I have
sent her an email message, because the emails she sent back she stated
that she is hurt at the momment. I have not heard anything back from
her since. And the last time we almost split, she told me "...at this
moment, I am fine with it"
This has come to this now 4 times in our two years, two months of
marriage. I think this is the end. I been thinking of this for a
lllooooonnnngggg time. I aint happy, and when I state why I am not
happy, I am attacked by her for saying that I am attacking her. So I
thought I would be prepared, but....MAN, I FEL LIKE COMPLETE POO.
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22 Jan 2007 03:33:03 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169500977.867730.165520@a75g2000cwd.googlegroups.com...
zuel62703@yahoo.com wrote:
I was diagnosed about six motnhs ago with manic depression, psychotic,
and something else because of a test and the crap I am going through in
my life these past two years.
I got married two years ago to a woman that had a child. Bear in mine,
I am 37, and never been married. We bought a house, lived with my
morther in law for a year, been constantly remodeling, and have a
wonderful baby. My wife constantly bitches at me to do stuff, and we
get in a fight. The thing is I feel I do everything, I dont spend money
except on the house and fuel for my car, which is $100/2 weeks. She
spends money like its going out of style and bitches at me when my
checking account overdrafts (happened twice), yet she has the whole
moeny of 2 paychecks to spend. When I want to talk about finiances she
suts up and says "WELL, WE NEED THIS OR WE NEED THAT"
Even my parents think its my fault, I am sick of this going on and on
and on, and want out in some way. BUT there is a 8 month old baby
involved, also.
Well, that is the short end of what has happened to me. Any help? I
cant find any happiness in my life. Sitting with my baby girl is fun,
but the wife takes her away from me to feed her and such. I feel like I
cant be trusted with her and the only WAY is my wifes way.
My wife now knows that we are going to split apart, not that she hasn't
probably guessed it, already. She emailed my parents, and they were on
the phone for a while with me pleading for me to make it work. I have
sent her an email message, because the emails she sent back she stated
that she is hurt at the momment. I have not heard anything back from
her since. And the last time we almost split, she told me "...at this
moment, I am fine with it"
This has come to this now 4 times in our two years, two months of
marriage. I think this is the end. I been thinking of this for a
lllooooonnnngggg time. I aint happy, and when I state why I am not
happy, I am attacked by her for saying that I am attacking her. So I
thought I would be prepared, but....MAN, I FEL LIKE COMPLETE POO.
of course she's upset , she's loosing her waiter and her gravy train
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22 Jan 2007 03:53:51 PM |
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of course she's upset , she's loosing her waiter and her gravy train
That is it, I could not explain it to the P's. She told them she been
busting her ***** to keep us going along, and I seriously cant recall
anything to that, other then getting on my last nerve constantly. Some
way I hope she is home, in some way I dont.
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| User: "%" |
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22 Jan 2007 04:00:41 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169502830.969488.169000@q2g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
of course she's upset , she's loosing her waiter and her gravy train
That is it, I could not explain it to the P's. She told them she been
busting her ***** to keep us going along, and I seriously cant recall
anything to that, other then getting on my last nerve constantly. Some
way I hope she is home, in some way I dont.
its a tough thing to go through ,
but if staying isn't working ,
it really doesn't go any other way ,
its a damned if you do damned if you don't thing ,
and who's to say its permanent ,
couples have been known to reconcile after a time apart
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22 Jan 2007 04:10:52 PM |
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% wrote:
"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169502830.969488.169000@q2g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
of course she's upset , she's loosing her waiter and her gravy train
That is it, I could not explain it to the P's. She told them she been
busting her ***** to keep us going along, and I seriously cant recall
anything to that, other then getting on my last nerve constantly. Some
way I hope she is home, in some way I dont.
its a tough thing to go through ,
but if staying isn't working ,
it really doesn't go any other way ,
its a damned if you do damned if you don't thing ,
and who's to say its permanent ,
couples have been known to reconcile after a time apart
I have told her that is how I felt before, damned if I do and damned if
I dont. On one side I got a baby girl (9months) that I have no say in
on raising her already, and trying to keep everyone happy. On the other
I see freedom and happiness, which mad tells me I wont, while
supposrting my baby girl and still having no say in how she is raised.
Becuase I have been told numerous times by her "Look how you have been
raised"
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22 Jan 2007 04:13:38 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169503852.555497.108190@51g2000cwl.googlegroups.com...
% wrote:
"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169502830.969488.169000@q2g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
of course she's upset , she's loosing her waiter and her gravy train
That is it, I could not explain it to the P's. She told them she been
busting her ***** to keep us going along, and I seriously cant recall
anything to that, other then getting on my last nerve constantly. Some
way I hope she is home, in some way I dont.
its a tough thing to go through ,
but if staying isn't working ,
it really doesn't go any other way ,
its a damned if you do damned if you don't thing ,
and who's to say its permanent ,
couples have been known to reconcile after a time apart
I have told her that is how I felt before, damned if I do and damned if
I dont. On one side I got a baby girl (9months) that I have no say in
on raising her already, and trying to keep everyone happy. On the other
I see freedom and happiness, which mad tells me I wont, while
supposrting my baby girl and still having no say in how she is raised.
Becuase I have been told numerous times by her "Look how you have been
raised"
no matter how you deal it out you need a break from it all ,
even a week away from things , plan a fishing trip or something ,
see how it feels for you when you're not there
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22 Jan 2007 04:18:02 PM |
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good point.
See what she says about that, if she is home tonight. Her mother lives
4 blocks away, and she will probably stay there tonight. (Which is a
whole different issue) Who knows what to expect.
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22 Jan 2007 04:20:29 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169504282.121131.141260@51g2000cwl.googlegroups.com...
good point.
See what she says about that, if she is home tonight. Her mother lives
4 blocks away, and she will probably stay there tonight. (Which is a
whole different issue) Who knows what to expect.
well i just think you all need a break from it all ,
it sounds like its just going around and around with no resolve ,
and that's no good for anyone and children can key in on that stuff ,
and it can be really confusing and scary
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| User: "Zuel62640" |
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22 Jan 2007 04:23:34 PM |
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I will see what happens tonight. If she isnt there, I planned on not
calling since she is so upset. I dont think she would anser anyway, but
is that sounds cool?
Am I whining? I dont want to sound like a whiner, and can really use
the help, which I appreciate %
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22 Jan 2007 04:28:36 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169504614.923563.59860@38g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
I will see what happens tonight. If she isnt there, I planned on not
calling since she is so upset. I dont think she would anser anyway, but
is that sounds cool?
Am I whining? I dont want to sound like a whiner, and can really use
the help, which I appreciate %
its a good lesson here for me too ,
because it reminds me of my times like yours ,
and makes me glad i'm out and away from those times ,
i feel for you , the confusion , the sense of loss , maybe failure ,
i went through it more than once but i believe in each case ,
leaving was the best thing i could've done because it wasn't going to change
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22 Jan 2007 04:41:30 PM |
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I agree. I have been told that before by a support group, when i did
put myself in the hospital. My parents think it was because I was
suicidal, but it was to get away from my wife, her kid, her mother. The
thing that got me thru it faster then anything, was seeing my baby girl
then, and of course the drugs.
There was one lady in that group who had tried to commit suicide by
driving her car into another car. She said she is tired of playing the
games, tired of being what everyone wants, and she spoke it that way,
and I believed her. She told me the very same thing you are telling me.
"You need to get yourself outta there."
I guess I let you know tomorrow. Its 4:40 here and I am almost outta
here (work). Talk at you tomorrow.
Have a good one.
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22 Jan 2007 04:42:26 PM |
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"Zuel62640" <zuel62703@yahoo.com> wrote in message news:1169505690.508993.240220@s48g2000cws.googlegroups.com...
I agree. I have been told that before by a support group, when i did
put myself in the hospital. My parents think it was because I was
suicidal, but it was to get away from my wife, her kid, her mother. The
thing that got me thru it faster then anything, was seeing my baby girl
then, and of course the drugs.
There was one lady in that group who had tried to commit suicide by
driving her car into another car. She said she is tired of playing the
games, tired of being what everyone wants, and she spoke it that way,
and I believed her. She told me the very same thing you are telling me.
"You need to get yourself outta there."
I guess I let you know tomorrow. Its 4:40 here and I am almost outta
here (work). Talk at you tomorrow.
Have a good one.
good luck with however it goes
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