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Sociology > Depression |
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"BTM Mike" |
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15 Dec 2005 03:29:10 PM |
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Conflict intimidates me... |
Dunno what it is, maybe it's because I'm too sensitive, but I always
hate conflict... you know? I mean, not the type were someone's angry
at me because of my opinions or something, but the type where people
get angry at me and it's not something I have anything to do with (or
can help with.) I'll go out of my way at times to avoid such
situations, and sometime that's not good...
Like for instance, I sometimes get calls in my order taken where
people are pissed, or too stupid to figure out what i"m trying to tell
them, and I try to explain things to them and they get all impatient
with me, and I know, I'm suppose to stay patient, walk them through
everyone, get the order finished or whatever, but often I just want so
bad to be somewhere else I just hang on them... even when they're not
really yelling or anything, but just starting to get exasperated...
I don't know why, but it seems with my emotions, I have only two ways
to deal with such a situation, to feel all crappy and sad cause
someone's pissed at me, or to get pissed back at the person and say,
"Screw 'em, I don't give a @#$#!"
Like when I was working at a crappy hotel, customers would get angry
and complain to me about the problems, problems I had nothing to do
with, and couldn't solve. I'm not sure why, but I have this deep
being yelled at... (well, like I said earlier, at more stuff that's
not my fault.)
I don't know, it's weird, I mean, if I get into a arguement with
someone because of a difference of opinion, then hell, that person
being mad at me doesn't bother me, and I won't back on how I feel, but
stuff like this, I fold like an accordian.
I wish there was a middle path for me... to be able to not let stuff
like this bother me, but it's hard... I wish I could figure out why
emotions can be so trigger happy and jumbled.
Anyway, just thought I should share that...
BTM
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| User: "alvintchase" |
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| Title: Re: Conflict intimidates me... |
15 Dec 2005 04:00:02 PM |
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I have a lot of trouble dealing with conflicts as well... It feels
good, and it's important for me to be assertive and express myself, but
it can be very emotionally draining for me... even on ASD, that's
something I've had to deal with....
-"Alvintchase"
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| User: "atomic" |
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| Title: Re: Conflict intimidates me... |
15 Dec 2005 04:21:21 PM |
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alvintchase wrote:
I have a lot of trouble dealing with conflicts as well... It feels
good, and it's important for me to be assertive and express myself, but
it can be very emotionally draining for me... even on ASD, that's
something I've had to deal with....
-"Alvintchase"
I always find people think I am being angry or assertive, or generally
over-serious, when I'm actually not feeling anything. This has been a
problem in the past, especially going to bars and such. It would seem
that no matter where I went, I would attract trouble. I always used to
say I was an ***** magnet.
Many times I have been king hit for absolutely nothing - never looked
at anyone, never said anything - I would just cop it.
Luckily I have a very high pain threshold. So I would generally just
get up and wonder over to ask why the person did that. Not with the
intention of starting anything, but of course they would think I am
coming to retalliate, so I would get hit again.
On the very odd occasion that I actually had to throw a punch, or
scuffle in some way, I would always just about cry afterwards. So much
emotion and adrenaline overwhelms me, and I just don't know what to do
with it. Enter breakdown in tears.
These days, because the 20 something males are so violent, I generally
don't go out anywhere. Mabye out for dinner, but that is about the
limit. And the whole time I am uncomfortable, just waiting for the next
***** to come along.
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| User: "Chartreuse Polyomino" |
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| Title: Re: Conflict intimidates me... |
15 Dec 2005 11:50:50 PM |
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I am very sensitive to other people getting emotionally aroused and when
that happens I clear the area. I strenuously avoid confrontation, even
when it is sorely needed, and I wish I had the guts to just go out there and
fight for what I believe and stick up for myself. Dave..
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