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Sociology > Depression |
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"stewardess" |
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19 Oct 2003 06:54:27 PM |
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Disappointment |
Is there a difference between being generally disappointed in life or
being perpetually negative versus being depressed? When trying to
approach life rationally and logically rather than emotionally, I try to
challenge myself to think of the good things: the kids are healthy, the
spouse is doing well, the house didn't burn down last night, the dog is
a riot. However, when I think about the bad things that have happened or
are happening (job not going well, minor loss of hearing in one ear,
aggravating numbness in one hand, friend turned out not to be a real
friend) I find it much easier to let the negative outweigh the positive.
Moreover, it seems that I have to search for the positive while the
negative prominently presents itself.
There just doesn't seem to be a lot to be positive or optimistic about.
I saw the Lucy TV movie where she appeared to be depressed continuously
and made a statement, "There's always a hammer." The statement hit me
between the eyes as it generally reflects my attitude, if I allow my
feelings to overtake my logical mind.
My doctor prescribed Lexapro for grins, but it made me nauseous to take
it. He, however, does not think I'm clinically depressed.
Any thoughts or web sites to help me better understand my situation?
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| User: "Whiskers" |
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| Title: Re: Disappointment |
20 Oct 2003 02:15:35 PM |
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In alt.support.depression on Monday 20 Oct 2003 12:54 am, stewardess
<stewardess@bellsouth.net> wrote:
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Any thoughts or web sites to help me better understand my situation?
Your physical problems must be rather worrying, as well as annoying.
I don't think it's possible to make a diagnosis from a web-site, but there
are various 'multi-choice tests' you can take and get some idea of where
your mood is. <http://www.mentalhealth.com/> is a useful place to start, I
think; it may give you a few answers, or things to discuss here and/or with
your doctor. <http://www.meowkitty.net/asd/> is a web-site associated with
this group and has some interesting info and links.
Welcome to ASD :))
--
-- ^^^^^^^^^^ Interested in Citroens?
-- Whiskers <http://www.aacit.net>
-- ~~~~~~~~~~ <news:alt.autos.citroen>
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| User: "stewardess" |
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| Title: Re: Disappointment |
21 Oct 2003 06:57:52 AM |
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Whiskers wrote:
In alt.support.depression on Monday 20 Oct 2003 12:54 am, stewardess
<stewardess@bellsouth.net> wrote:
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Any thoughts or web sites to help me better understand my situation?
Your physical problems must be rather worrying, as well as annoying.
I don't think it's possible to make a diagnosis from a web-site, but there
are various 'multi-choice tests' you can take and get some idea of where
your mood is. <http://www.mentalhealth.com/> is a useful place to start, I
think; it may give you a few answers, or things to discuss here and/or with
your doctor. <http://www.meowkitty.net/asd/> is a web-site associated with
this group and has some interesting info and links.
Welcome to ASD :))
Thanks. I had forgotten about the depression tests. Seems like a good
place to start.
I started taking Lexapro yesterday. The first time I took it, I got
sick. It now appears that the sickness was a "bug" that had nothing to
do with the medication.
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| User: "Tracy Barber" |
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| Title: Re: Disappointment |
19 Oct 2003 07:24:20 PM |
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On Sun, 19 Oct 2003 19:54:27 -0400, stewardess
<stewardess@bellsouth.net> wrote:
Is there a difference between being generally disappointed in life or
being perpetually negative versus being depressed? When trying to
approach life rationally and logically rather than emotionally, I try to
challenge myself to think of the good things: the kids are healthy, the
spouse is doing well, the house didn't burn down last night, the dog is
a riot. However, when I think about the bad things that have happened or
are happening (job not going well, minor loss of hearing in one ear,
aggravating numbness in one hand, friend turned out not to be a real
friend) I find it much easier to let the negative outweigh the positive.
Moreover, it seems that I have to search for the positive while the
negative prominently presents itself.
This seems like a continuous theme over the past few days. Several
other people have had someone close to them "dump" them for whatever
reason.
I can't live my life for them. I live with them in my life. If the
person is intimate with me, I take it rather badly, sadly, until the
feeling passes and I become rational again. I then look at what
happened. Sometimes it has been my fault, others not my fault.
A lot of people don't like their jobs. Either they got into something
just because of money, need, etc. but wind up hating it because of the
same reason. People keep telling me to put up with it or get a new
job. Well, since I work for myself, that could be difficult! For
someone in a job they don't like, or personalities therein, there are
distractions within the job to keep you busy and away from said people
until the closing bell rings. Then you're back at the castle again,
for a break in the action.
In a current contract job, there's a few people who want to
micro-manage a plan that was laid out for me to do the work. It gets
very annoying because they tell me to go about doing it, but seem to
come up with a complaint when it isn't quite like they want -or- they
only see a part of it and don't see the entire forest for the trees.
Love those people, eh?
I almost told them goodbye, but stayed on and completed something that
made me feel challenged. :^)
There just doesn't seem to be a lot to be positive or optimistic about.
I saw the Lucy TV movie where she appeared to be depressed continuously
and made a statement, "There's always a hammer." The statement hit me
between the eyes as it generally reflects my attitude, if I allow my
feelings to overtake my logical mind.
Feelings havd a habit of doing that, don't they? It's that
bi-directional life we have - feelings vs. thought. If we worked off
feelings all the time, there'd be no stability. If we worked off of
thought all the time, there'd be no empathy. A balance of power is
needed!
My doctor prescribed Lexapro for grins, but it made me nauseous to take
it. He, however, does not think I'm clinically depressed.
Heh. Maybe another doctor / meds, or maybe it's just a situational
time in your life right now that's stressful. Many people go through
this and don['t need pdocs / meds. If you feel it's that bad, maybe
some investigation further is warranted.
Any thoughts or web sites to help me better understand my situation?
Dunno about web sites. Not as handy as those here who can quote line
and verse about this stuff, but rather like to share life experiences
than data.
Keep the faith!
Tracy Barber
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