I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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07 Apr 2007 12:01:01 PM |
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wrote:
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
I doubt drugs will help with your situation. But it's pretty much all
some pdocs and therps know to do.
Some people, for whatever reason (mental illnesses, neurological
conditions, learning disabilities, etc.), have difficulty with
assimilating and understanding social skills. People normally learn
social skills by observation. But some folks just aren't "wired" that
way. It takes them far longer to figure out how properly to behave
around and communicate with others. (Some never do learn.) You might do
better with finding someone who can effectively teach you how to comport
yourself in public than you would by taking FXR. And that's my
unprofessional opinion.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 05:03:04 PM |
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Noon Cat Nick wrote:
borophyll@gmail.com wrote:
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
I doubt drugs will help with your situation. But it's pretty much all
some pdocs and therps know to do.
Some people, for whatever reason (mental illnesses, neurological
conditions, learning disabilities, etc.), have difficulty with
assimilating and understanding social skills. People normally learn
social skills by observation. But some folks just aren't "wired" that
way. It takes them far longer to figure out how properly to behave
around and communicate with others. (Some never do learn.) You might do
better with finding someone who can effectively teach you how to comport
yourself in public than you would by taking FXR. And that's my
unprofessional opinion.
Exactly! Unfortunately, the shrink profession is not equipped to do
this, for me, they made the problem worse. It took time, effort on my
part, and changing my environment before I finally started to click and
find a way to fit into society on some level.
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
08 Apr 2007 08:22:55 AM |
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On Apr 8, 8:03 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
Thanks all for your responses, I think ur right to some extent about
the social skills, but I never had a problem in school or in my early
20's, I fit in quite well and never had a problem with socializing,
now everything seems different. I shouldn't say that the drugs dont
do anything, I was just drunk and ***** the other night. They
have helped me to feel relaxed and less emotional, so that now I can
actual function instead of just crying all day, but they also seem to
make me detached. Instead of blaming myself (which my therapist said
I shouldn't do) I'm blaming others, which is also no good. I now have
more contempt for people, and I dont want it to get to the point of
sociopathy. I'll talk it over with the doc anyway...
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| User: "David" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 11:16:02 AM |
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I would give the Effexor some time to work, it usually takes six months to a
year for an antidepressant to get into your system. You might also look into
getting a mood stabalizer and a small amount of antipsychotic. It's a good
medication to start with. I hope this is of help.
<borophyll@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1175953857.278557.176260@q75g2000hsh.googlegroups.com...
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 10:02:35 AM |
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David wrote...
I would give the Effexor some time to work, it usually
takes six months to a year for an antidepressant to get
into your system. You might also look into getting a mood
stabalizer and a small amount of antipsychotic. It's a good
medication to start with. I hope this is of help.
Make that up to a couple of months for the Effexor to work. If
it's not helping at that point, it's probably time to try
something else.
-lisa
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| User: "Haunt" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 09:02:32 AM |
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On Apr 7, 2:50 pm, wrote:
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
Because you are a stupid piece of worthless trash who marched in this
group the slagged off Haunt and said for all to hear that you didn't
care.
Ok, play it your way, i don't care either about your stupid over-
inflated self-worth that you call depression.
A lot of you depressed people are all the same:
LOOK AT ME! COMFORT ME! I FEEL BAD! LET'S DRAG EVERYBODY DOWN WITH ME!
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 09:05:53 AM |
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no one cares
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| User: "jordy" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 09:31:04 AM |
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On Apr 7, 9:50 am, wrote:
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
I think I understand what you mean by the language problem... I
think and talk differently then most people do... I guess
all you can do it try to relate to other people on at least some
level... and be thankful for the friends that you do have... and be
assertive with your coworkers.. don't let them give you a hard
time...
-"Jordy"
-"Jordy"
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: Disconnection |
07 Apr 2007 05:01:06 PM |
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borophyll@gmail.com wrote:
I feel disconnected from people. My therapist says that maybe I'm not
opening up to people. Which perhaps was true, considering I would
maybe step outside of my unit once a week. But now that I have a job,
I tried doing just that, but I just get strange looks. It's like I've
come from the 1950's and my language is old and uncool or something.
People can understand what I say but they don't get me. I consider
myself to be a fairly nice person to the point of being submissive and
non-confrontational. I never offend even when I am upset with
someone. I caught one of my coworkers rolling there eyes at one of my
questions the other day behind my back. This may seem trivial, but it
is huge for me, who has no friends. Well, I have some friends, but I
only see them when I make the effort, so I don't consider them to be
true friends. They never contact me. This is just so fucked, my
therapist put me on Effexor to help me with my problem. What is my
fucking problem exactly? I'm not suicidal or anything, but I don't
want to live this way...
Ps the drugs dont do *****...
It sounds like you're acting like a doormat. The nicer you try to be,
the more you will alienate people. wombn explained it to me once - when
you're overly "nice" like that, people feel like you're a burden. They
have to walk on eggshells trying to not to hurt you, and that stresses
them out. It sounds like you need social skills, not drugs. I was in a
situation very much like what you describe, and it made me
suicidal/homicidal. I couldn't figure out what was going on around me,
all I knew was that I didn't fit in and people avoided me or treated me
like crap.
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