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05 May 2006 02:54:08 PM |
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expanding your comfort zone |
it's strange how when you are really in your comfort zone, you feel
very calm, relaxed, light hearted, low key... but when you are out of
your comfort zone, you feel nervous, anxious, your thoughts start to
race out of control, you go blank... I guess the key is figuring out
how to expand your comfort zone... It seems that the more you do
something, the more it becomes part of your comfort zone, that's been
true many times... if only there were short cuts though to speed up the
process... It does help at times to try to "borrow" from yourself, but
even that doesn't usually happen right away... it takes a bit of
time... I guess you just have to remember that the discomfort will
pass...
-"jordie"
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| User: "Violet" |
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| Title: Re: expanding your comfort zone |
05 May 2006 03:35:31 PM |
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wrote:
it's strange how when you are really in your comfort zone, you feel
very calm, relaxed, light hearted, low key... but when you are out of
your comfort zone, you feel nervous, anxious, your thoughts start to
race out of control, you go blank... I guess the key is figuring out
how to expand your comfort zone... It seems that the more you do
something, the more it becomes part of your comfort zone, that's been
true many times... if only there were short cuts though to speed up the
process... It does help at times to try to "borrow" from yourself, but
even that doesn't usually happen right away... it takes a bit of
time... I guess you just have to remember that the discomfort will
pass...
-"jordie"
Now you've put it into words, it's so true, but I didn't think of it
like that. My comfort zone is at home, in my room on my own, without
anyone calling "Muuuuum" I suppose I'd better work on extending that a
bit. But all I can manage is to post, although I can't always do that.
That's why I post such rubbish sometimes, just to make myself
communicate rather than shrivel up even more. ;-/
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| User: "CyberDroog" |
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| Title: Re: expanding your comfort zone |
06 May 2006 03:49:25 AM |
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On 5 May 2006 12:54:08 -0700, wrote:
it's strange how when you are really in your comfort zone, you feel
very calm, relaxed, light hearted, low key... but when you are out of
your comfort zone, you feel nervous, anxious, your thoughts start to
race out of control, you go blank...
Why does that seem strange to you. It seems self-evident to me. The human
mind is designed to be wary of unfamiliar territory, both physical and
mental.
I guess the key is figuring out
how to expand your comfort zone... It seems that the more you do
something, the more it becomes part of your comfort zone, that's been
true many times... if only there were short cuts though to speed up the
process... It does help at times to try to "borrow" from yourself, but
even that doesn't usually happen right away... it takes a bit of
time... I guess you just have to remember that the discomfort will
pass...
Is there some specific uncomfortable zone you are speaking of?
I know that when I am depressed, my ability to handle new things is
terrible. Speaking to strangers is nearly impossible. About the only time
it works is when I am depressed and just happen to run into someone who is
manic. A manic person can carry the conversation and cause me to open up
whereas a normie usually gives up pretty quickly when he finds my responses
to be rather terse.
Manic people seem to be like battery chargers for other bipolar people who
are currently depressed.
Yet when I am hyper, I can talk to anybody and I'll try new things that I
would go out of my way to avoid when I'm depressed.
The division is startling. For instance when very depressed I will avoid
eye contact with beautiful women (that's okay, I'm a foot man so casting my
eyes downward at least has some rewards...) When hypomanic I can flirt
with any women on earth. And the flirting almost always works. The few
times that it hasn't, I just shrugged off. That, to me, is amazing.
Rejection, when I'm depressed, is devastating. When hypomanic, I don't
even consider it to be rejection - it's just a lack of taste on the other
persons part.
But the battery charger idea seems valid. Quite often when I am hypomanic
I have had to carry a conversation and it often resulted in bringing out
another bipolar person's brighter side.
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