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"John H." |
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23 Feb 2004 07:10:16 PM |
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experience with employers and depression? |
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
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| User: "Mz R." |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
01 Mar 2004 02:42:35 PM |
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(John H.) wrote in message news:<8fcd3b96.0402231710.534ed591@posting.google.com>...
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
Had a job where I was being stalked by a whacked out coworker.
I was this girl's supervisor but she decided that I had to go, one way
or another.
Anyway, when I finally forced the administration to see what was going
on and deal with it, they sat down with me and asked me what was
wrong.. with ME.
I did let them know that the problem was making my depression worse.
Which the admin ***** then ran with and used to fire me so they
wouldn't have to deal with crazy coworker.
slightly different situation but none the less, they did use my
depression to remove me.
Mz. R.
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| User: "Lucida" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
01 Mar 2004 09:00:59 PM |
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On 1 Mar 2004 12:42:35 -0800, (Mz R.) wrote:
johnjay2707@yahoo.com (John H.) wrote in message news:<8fcd3b96.0402231710.534ed591@posting.google.com>...
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
piggybacking here because the original message is not on my list...
I have been very upfront with my employer about my depression. It
affects my work, and it was easier for me to tell them what the
problem was than to try and hide it.
They have been very okay with it, except that the owner wishes I was
there more often- as if I didn't wish that, too... Unfortunately, I
also realize that I will have to find a different job eventually, as
this job makes it hard for me to fix some behavioral issues I have,
and I know that I need to do that if I have any chance at staying on
an even keel in the future.
Even my co-workers know, since sometimes I am just not on my game, and
if they know why, they are less likely to be upset that I dropped the
ball. Hell, I even keep my psychiatrist's business card tacked up on
my wall for when I have to call him because the latest medication is
keeping me from being able to function at work...
I think that you really have to play it by ear. Not all employers are
alike. Good luck in figuring out what to do...
Lucida
Had a job where I was being stalked by a whacked out coworker.
I was this girl's supervisor but she decided that I had to go, one way
or another.
Anyway, when I finally forced the administration to see what was going
on and deal with it, they sat down with me and asked me what was
wrong.. with ME.
I did let them know that the problem was making my depression worse.
Which the admin ***** then ran with and used to fire me so they
wouldn't have to deal with crazy coworker.
slightly different situation but none the less, they did use my
depression to remove me.
Mz. R.
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| User: "GlennT" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
23 Feb 2004 09:52:48 PM |
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John H. wrote:
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
Yeah I did it and it cost me. I've been self employed ever since.
It's not that they were mean or discriminating. It's more that they
lost trust and started to expect less of me at a time when I needed
to be building confidence, not having it removed.
GlennT
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| User: "Trishamolson" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
01 Mar 2004 04:43:44 AM |
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t's more that they
lost trust and started to expect less of me at a time when I needed
to be building confidence, not having it removed.
Exactly!
Rosena
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| User: "JPT" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
24 Feb 2004 08:57:12 PM |
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On 23 Feb 2004 17:10:16 -0800, (John H.) wrote:
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
No direct experience here, but my opinion is that you might want to
think carefully about this option before following through with it.
Working for a big company, I can get lost in the noise on my bad days.
I try to make up for it on my good days so that on average my
performance is ok.
I would reserve telling the boss unless you get backed into a corner
and have no way out. I just don't see what good can come out of it...
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"Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way"
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| User: "Nathan Stehle" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
23 Feb 2004 08:31:01 PM |
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in article 8fcd3b96.0402231710.534ed591@posting.google.com, John H. at
johnjay2707@yahoo.com wrote on 2/23/04 7:10 PM:
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
I've done it, and it can lead to understanding-especially if you are having
problems. But, that does not excuse low performance on a continual basis.
Companies cannot discriminate, but it can be very hard to prove too.
Are you getting help with your depression?
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"Nothing contributes so much to tranquility of the mind as a steady purpose
- a point to which the soul may fix its intellectual eye."
Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
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| User: "John H." |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
24 Feb 2004 12:35:46 PM |
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Yes i am getting help with it. I'm doing a pretty good job, and i'm
putting in lots of hours when I feel good to try to make up for it. I
just wish i could focus and get the same amount of work done during my
normal workday.
Biggest thing is when i feel really down, I just don't even want to be
there.
Know what i mean?
Nathan Stehle <nwstehle@spamcop.net> wrote in message news:<BC601385.74CB5%nwstehle@spamcop.net>...
in article 8fcd3b96.0402231710.534ed591@posting.google.com, John H. at
johnjay2707@yahoo.com wrote on 2/23/04 7:10 PM:
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm tired
of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am scatterbrained
while at work and am debating telling my boss what the deal is,
however i've heard that it can be a major strike against you with some
companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
I've done it, and it can lead to understanding-especially if you are having
problems. But, that does not excuse low performance on a continual basis.
Companies cannot discriminate, but it can be very hard to prove too.
Are you getting help with your depression?
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| User: "old coyote" |
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| Title: Re: experience with employers and depression? |
24 Feb 2004 01:17:48 PM |
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(John H.) wrote in
news:8fcd3b96.0402241035.57f67b96@posting.google.com:
Yes i am getting help with it. I'm doing a pretty good job, and i'm
putting in lots of hours when I feel good to try to make up for it. I
just wish i could focus and get the same amount of work done during my
normal workday.
Biggest thing is when i feel really down, I just don't even want to be
there.
Know what i mean?
Nathan Stehle <nwstehle@spamcop.net> wrote in message
news:<BC601385.74CB5%nwstehle@spamcop.net>...
in article 8fcd3b96.0402231710.534ed591@posting.google.com, John H.
at wrote on 2/23/04 7:10 PM:
Adding on to a similar post by another user. Anyone been totally
honest with an employer and told them you have depression? I'm
tired of making up excuses for why I can't make it in or am
scatterbrained while at work and am debating telling my boss what
the deal is, however i've heard that it can be a major strike
against you with some companies.
Any thoughts or experiences?
I've done it, and it can lead to understanding-especially if you are
having problems. But, that does not excuse low performance on a
continual basis.
Companies cannot discriminate, but it can be very hard to prove too.
Are you getting help with your depression?
I know exactly what you mean.
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"you do not need to bargain your well being" - %
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