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Sociology > Depression |
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"aaron from suburbia" |
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16 Jun 2006 05:27:09 AM |
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feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess". or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
/'__'\ <= face expressing the look of "tired of all the strife, toil,
crap, and worthless meaningless things of life"
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| User: "Bacon" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 06:14:08 AM |
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On Fri, 16 Jun 2006 04:27:09 -0600, "aaron from suburbia"
<suburbanlife@mail.com> wrote:
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess". or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
/'__'\ <= face expressing the look of "tired of all the strife, toil,
crap, and worthless meaningless things of life"
Good morning...coffee Aaron
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| User: "Blondie3476" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 12:30:34 PM |
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Yeah, kicking a dent in something sounds awesome...or doing demo on a
house or something.
Since I'm a 110 pound girl, lifting weights and the like is not
something I would probably channel my energy into. The idea of
channeling anger is great --- I paint pictures, write dark twisted
poetry, get another tattoo...it doesn't always work: maybe i would feel
better if i took a sledgehammer to something or kicked a dent in
something!
Bacon wrote:
On Fri, 16 Jun 2006 04:27:09 -0600, "aaron from suburbia"
<suburbanlife@mail.com> wrote:
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess". or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
/'__'\ <= face expressing the look of "tired of all the strife, toil,
crap, and worthless meaningless things of life"
Good morning...coffee Aaron
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| User: "Gerrit Vicin" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 05:02:08 AM |
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aaron from suburbia schrieb:
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess".
Yeah, I think I know what you mean. I feel I often can avoid to drop
into some bad mood, but then I don't. Don't know why.
or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
- walk the dog :-)
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
/'__'\ <= face expressing the look of "tired of all the strife, toil,
crap, and worthless meaningless things of life"
I like your other one better. Hope you'll soon have reason to type the
smiling one!
gerriT
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 01:14:33 PM |
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aaron from suburbia wrote:
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess". or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
exersize sounds like a good idea... this is a topic I have a lot of
trouble with... all of my life it's been tough for me to express
anger... often I take it out on myself, or it come out in very indirect
ways towards others... I think I'm better able to control it these
days... when I was young, I'd go into these rages, that I really had
very little awareness or control over... I've always been bookish and
extremly introverted, so I have a hard time getting my anger out in
physical ways, but going for a brisk walk has always calmed me down
somewhat... but yeah, it is tough to know how to deal with anger...
-"jordie"
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| User: "aaron from suburbia" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 05:29:33 AM |
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and other than that, i feel just fine this morning.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 05:33:18 AM |
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x-no-archive: yes
aaron from suburbia wrote:
and other than that, i feel just fine this morning.
:-)
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: feeling bitter, angry, resentful |
16 Jun 2006 05:46:07 AM |
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x-no-archive: yes
aaron from suburbia wrote:
right now, im feeling bitterness and anger towards certain people. some of
whom I know very well, other's that ive met only in passing. regardless, im
feeling angry, bitter, resentful. etc. you know, that kind of thing. for
various reasons. i could have avoided it all, but i didn't. i got myself
into the "mess". or rather, messes. Now i gotta channel this anger and
bitterness in a constructive way. it is SO friggin' easy to channel it in
the DE-structive ways. so very easy. because it's just so much easier to do
that instead of channeling in positive constructive ways. so tempting to
just be friggin' mean and vengeful.
i should...
-punch a punching bag
-lift some weights
-volunteer to break down something that needs to be taken down, or build
something that needs to be built
-reply to some like-mind people going through the same or even somewhat
similar experiences, letting them know that "hey i'm going through this
too".
-or just 'kick a dent in somethin' ( which seems to be the popular 'thing'
to say here these days)
/'__'\ <= face expressing the look of "tired of all the strife, toil,
crap, and worthless meaningless things of life"
Sounds smart. Also, if you react angrily to events, rather than
responding with forethought, you can frequently make things worse. e.g.
punching a hole through drywall. Not that I've ever done anything like
that. :-X
One thing that's really helped me learn to deal with people is my
business (with wombn's help.) I had one customer chew me out, telling
me that my people weren't doing *****, cussing at me, blah blah blah. I
was baffled, because the cleaning was fine, I know when we're doing bad
work, and it wasn't the case in this building. I kept my cool, and just
tried to focus on understanding what was REALLY bugging him. Part of it
was that he saw my people clean, and saw how fast they do it (this is
the best couple I've ever had, yeah, they're fast, but they do more in
1/2 time than most anybody else I might hire. Same if I cleaned the
building.) The other problem was that the building is old and ratty.
It's hard to make it look nice, because it's just so old and ratty. It
doesn't need a good clean, it needs to be gutted and remodeled. I can
only do so much.
So, on a whim, I scrubbed and waxed the guy's floors. Bingo. They
LOVED the floors. I haven't had a complaint since; before they used to
come once every 3 months, like clockwork. Building looks the same it's
always looked, only now they have shiny floors. Same people cleaning
that have been cleaning it since I started cleaning it 5 years ago, the
same people who "weren't doing *****" before, now I get no complaints.
And they are doing the same work they did 5 years ago.
People are goofy. Keep your cool, respond rather than react. You'll
feel your power rise significantly. You can't control how people react
to you, but you can control how you react to them.
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