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"Kim " |
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26 Oct 2003 10:38:54 PM |
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feeling lower then ever before..... |
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels like I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I don't know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
Kim
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| User: "sijka" |
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| Title: Re: feeling lower then ever before..... |
31 Oct 2003 09:09:41 PM |
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DEFINITELY filling charges
then get to a women's shelter --don't move out oaf your house--just get the
support.
Change the locks in your house--don't let him back in!!
Don't repeat what too many other women do--it usually takes 6-7 times for a
man to batter his wife before the woman leaves--buck the odds!!
Get a lawyer-the women's group can suggest a good one--and get ALL you
can--you won't get another chance!!
Sijka
"Kim " <kthompson1013@aol.com> wrote in message
news:20031026233854.27688.00000189@mb-m04.aol.com...
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out
my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my
leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels like
I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I don't
know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something
dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
Kim
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| User: "Whiskers" |
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| Title: Re: feeling lower then ever before..... |
27 Oct 2003 04:02:21 PM |
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In alt.support.depression on Monday 27 Oct 2003 4:38 am, Kim
<kthompson1013@aol.com> wrote:
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I just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
I've no advice, but I'm sure you will be able to move on. I'm sorry you've
been betrayed.
--
-- ^^^^^^^^^^ Interested in Citroens?
-- Whiskers <http://www.aacit.net>
-- ~~~~~~~~~~ <news:alt.autos.citroen>
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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| Title: Re: feeling lower then ever before..... |
26 Oct 2003 11:46:34 PM |
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Kim wrote:
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels like I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I don't know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
An assault and battery charge on the swine might be a good start.
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| User: "Tracy Barber" |
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| Title: Re: feeling lower then ever before..... |
26 Oct 2003 10:47:00 PM |
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On 27 Oct 2003 04:38:54 GMT, (Kim ) wrote:
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels like I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I don't know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
Well, it certainly sounds like hubby should've hit the road a few days
before he did that to you.
When people get violent like that, it sux. Nobody should have to go
through that. To be sure, what comes around goes around. Hopefully,
his won't be any less painful.
Sometimes, it seems like we throw all our eggs in the same basket. If
you stop, think for a moment or 2, you may be able to write down the
names of some people you could talk to - unless they are involved with
the current "episode".
There's a bunch of people here that won't hurt you like that. Many of
us here have been through what you have and can I.D. with you.
Right here, right now, this is about you. Take care of yourself...
Tracy Barber
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| User: "Kim " |
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| Title: Re: feeling lower then ever before..... |
26 Oct 2003 11:07:21 PM |
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thanks for the support Tracy
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| User: "Tracy Barber" |
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26 Oct 2003 11:23:47 PM |
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On 27 Oct 2003 05:07:21 GMT, (Kim ) wrote:
thanks for the support Tracy
No prob. If ya wanna talk some more, go for it. I'll be hittin' the
sack in a minute, though... Trying to get back on schedule for
tomorrow. Maybe I can start getting up a bit earlier than usual. :^)
Tracy Barber
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| User: "Janithor" |
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27 Oct 2003 04:58:56 AM |
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x-no-archive: yes
Kim wrote:
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels like I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I don't know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
Kim
Ouch. I hope you're safe. Is there a women's shelter you can turn to?
I'm just tossing out the idea, I would guess that they could help you
find some support. Any kids involved?
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| User: "Hedda" |
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27 Oct 2003 09:51:59 AM |
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"Janithor" <Janithor@comcast.net> wrote in message
news:3F9CF9F1.4030807@comcast.net...
x-no-archive: yes
Kim wrote:
So much has happened in the past month of my life, basically I found out
my
husband has been cheating on me. When I confronted him he became angry
and
pushed me into a wall mirror which broke and gave me a laceration on my
leg
that took 40+ stitches to close. And now he has disappeared. It feels
like I
don't have a friend in the world and that I have nowhere to turn. I
don't know
what to do to ease my pain and I am scared I am going to do something
dumb. I
just wish I knew what to do and had the strength to do it.
Kim
Ouch. I hope you're safe. Is there a women's shelter you can turn to?
I'm just tossing out the idea, I would guess that they could help you
find some support. Any kids involved?
I hate to hear stuff like this.... I hope your ok. it does nothing for
ones self esteem to find out that some you love and trusted has cheated. I
feel for you and you will have quite a rollercoaster ride for a while....
trying to figure out where everything stands.
cheating occurs more than some would like to think, and although it
hurts terribly it isn't un fixable. although in you case it sounds like
there are other factors i.e. the fact that he physically harmed you ( bad
news..i'm assuming this isn't the first time?) i suggest getting away from
him.
I think that if he doesn't have a history of violence , he was probably
felt trapped by the fact that you busted him and perhaps reacted out of
desperation. (benefit of the doubt or he's just a selfish mean bass-turd)
I want to tell you one thing (speaking from experience)
first DON'T blame yourself (some people who are depressed tend to think
all that's wrong with the world is somehow their fault) even if he tries to
misplace his guilt and tell you it was something you weren't doing that made
him turn away...DON'T believe this you are not responsible for his
happiness and visa-versa. it just a ploy to make himself feel less guilty,
provided he has emotions (some people don't)
good luck and i hope you find some comfort and support here. my heart
goes out to you i know how bad a broken heart hurts :-(
Hedda
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| User: "Kim " |
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27 Oct 2003 11:41:25 PM |
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Ouch. I hope you're safe. Is there a women's shelter you can turn to?
I'm just tossing out the idea, I would guess that they could help you
find some support. Any kids involved?
I hate to hear stuff like this.... I hope your ok. it does nothing for
ones self esteem to find out that some you love and trusted has cheated. I
feel for you and you will have quite a rollercoaster ride for a while....
trying to figure out where everything stands.
cheating occurs more than some would like to think, and although it
hurts terribly it isn't un fixable. although in you case it sounds like
there are other factors i.e. the fact that he physically harmed you ( bad
news..i'm assuming this isn't the first time?) i suggest getting away from
him.
I think that if he doesn't have a history of violence , he was probably
felt trapped by the fact that you busted him and perhaps reacted out of
desperation. (benefit of the doubt or he's just a selfish mean bass-turd)
I want to tell you one thing (speaking from experience)
first DON'T blame yourself (some people who are depressed tend to think
all that's wrong with the world is somehow their fault) even if he tries to
misplace his guilt and tell you it was something you weren't doing that made
him turn away...DON'T believe this you are not responsible for his
happiness and visa-versa. it just a ploy to make himself feel less guilty,
provided he has emotions (some people don't)
good luck and i hope you find some comfort and support here. my heart
goes out to you i know how bad a broken heart hurts :-(
Hedda
Luckily there are no children involved in this situation. Right now the only
person being affected is me. I feel so broken down but am trying to keep myself
together. Part of what is keeping me from drowning is because I don't want him
to win. I do saddly enough still love even after all he has done but am
realizing that I can not be with a person like that. The thoughts of this other
woman is very distressing and so much of me wants to get revenge, but I am not
even sure that is the best idea. But I want to thank everyone for there
support, it is nice to feel for a little while that I am not all alone.
Kim
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