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Sociology > Depression |
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"GlennT" |
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19 Oct 2003 06:43:50 PM |
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Floating on certain expectations |
I am beginning to realize how much expectation is a part of being.
Expectation is 'life force' personified. It is what motivates and
drives us. It is what gives us a meter as to how we are doing in
life.
Lack of expectation can come from a lack of self awareness. Needs
that may not be apparent. Or it can come from a desire to stifle
need as an anaesthetic to failure. I used to hate my expectations
because I was convinced they would never be realized, I would always
fail. I was wrong and I was hurting myself. Now I know that they are
oxygen to my suffocating soul.
To demand is to be. To expect is to live. Achievement is a red
herring... for it disarms you from your expectations.
GlennT
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| User: "Wrecking Ball" |
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| Title: Re: Floating on certain expectations |
19 Oct 2003 07:02:53 PM |
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GlennT wrote:
I am beginning to realize how much expectation is a part of being.
Expectation is 'life force' personified. It is what motivates and
drives us. It is what gives us a meter as to how we are doing in
life.
Lack of expectation can come from a lack of self awareness. Needs
that may not be apparent. Or it can come from a desire to stifle
need as an anaesthetic to failure. I used to hate my expectations
because I was convinced they would never be realized, I would always
fail. I was wrong and I was hurting myself. Now I know that they are
oxygen to my suffocating soul.
To demand is to be. To expect is to live. Achievement is a red
herring... for it disarms you from your expectations.
GlennT
Expectations are a double-edge sword. They are needed in terms of goals
which are healthy----but they can also be a means of us labeling
ourselves as a failure.
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| User: "GlennT" |
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| Title: Re: Floating on certain expectations |
19 Oct 2003 09:13:15 PM |
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Wrecking Ball wrote:
GlennT wrote:
I am beginning to realize how much expectation is a part of being.
Expectation is 'life force' personified. It is what motivates and
drives us. It is what gives us a meter as to how we are doing in
life.
Lack of expectation can come from a lack of self awareness. Needs
that may not be apparent. Or it can come from a desire to stifle
need as an anaesthetic to failure. I used to hate my expectations
because I was convinced they would never be realized, I would always
fail. I was wrong and I was hurting myself. Now I know that they are
oxygen to my suffocating soul.
To demand is to be. To expect is to live. Achievement is a red
herring... for it disarms you from your expectations.
GlennT
Expectations are a double-edge sword. They are needed in terms of goals
which are healthy----but they can also be a means of us labeling
ourselves as a failure.
and it is up to each one of us to decide which it's to be.
GlennT
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: Floating on certain expectations |
20 Oct 2003 01:38:01 AM |
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In article <3F9321B6.98D94BB6@noname.com>, GlennT <askme@noname.com>
writes
I am beginning to realize how much expectation is a part of being.
Expectation is 'life force' personified. It is what motivates and
drives us. It is what gives us a meter as to how we are doing in
life.
Lack of expectation can come from a lack of self awareness. Needs
that may not be apparent. Or it can come from a desire to stifle
need as an anaesthetic to failure. I used to hate my expectations
because I was convinced they would never be realized, I would always
fail. I was wrong and I was hurting myself. Now I know that they are
oxygen to my suffocating soul.
To demand is to be. To expect is to live. Achievement is a red
herring... for it disarms you from your expectations.
Expectations have to be realistic - we have to be able to expect them.
They're an aspect of one's predictions.
To me, the life force is hope rather than expectation - what we want to
happen, and sort of think might just occur if we think positive thoughts
about it, and cross our fingers. You can have bad expectation but still
hope for good things, and keep going. Lose hope, and you've given up.
That's life force, isn't it?
--
Alan@harding.demon.co.uk = Alan Harding =
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The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "GlennT" |
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| Title: Re: Floating on certain expectations |
21 Oct 2003 05:06:49 PM |
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Alan Harding wrote:
In article <3F9321B6.98D94BB6@noname.com>, GlennT <askme@noname.com>
writes
I am beginning to realize how much expectation is a part of being.
Expectation is 'life force' personified. It is what motivates and
drives us. It is what gives us a meter as to how we are doing in
life.
Lack of expectation can come from a lack of self awareness. Needs
that may not be apparent. Or it can come from a desire to stifle
need as an anaesthetic to failure. I used to hate my expectations
because I was convinced they would never be realized, I would always
fail. I was wrong and I was hurting myself. Now I know that they are
oxygen to my suffocating soul.
To demand is to be. To expect is to live. Achievement is a red
herring... for it disarms you from your expectations.
Expectations have to be realistic - we have to be able to expect them.
They're an aspect of one's predictions.
That what makes them so powerful. They are based on our belief
structure and are an indication of it's state of health. Expectation
is what you think you deserve rather than what you would like to
get.
To me, the life force is hope rather than expectation - what we want to
happen, and sort of think might just occur if we think positive thoughts
about it, and cross our fingers. You can have bad expectation but still
hope for good things, and keep going. Lose hope, and you've given up.
That's life force, isn't it?
I don't think so. Hope has no teeth, no cost and no expenditure. It
is a salve rather than a cure. Expectation can be created through a
defined sense of belief and it takes courage to define belief. I can
hope I will win the lottery but I don't expect it. Therefore I
rarely buy a ticket.
Does that mean I should buy more tickets and believe I will win? No,
of course not. I am not going to believe in something that has
little chance of success. Yet when I stop and decide what it is I
really can achieve and create a way of doing so through defined
expectation it always seems to get me further along than not doing
so.
If expectation is not life force then it is a way of focusing life
force into useful action.
GlennT
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