used2be wrote:

"justpackrat" <maddie_75@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1161853903.508434.289950@m73g2000cwd.googlegroups.com...

too easy, give my heart too easy. I need to be a hard, cold hearted
***** just looking out for my own needs. When will I learn?

maybe you need a LONG break from men and relationships, hun. you need
time
to work on yourself. you haven't had anytime to heal from the hurt of
your
exhusband before you already have a new ex. :( give yourself some
TIME!!!

*hugs*

~u2b

ummm, with all due respect, I didn't have any contact, casual dates or
anything for over 2 years after my divorce. The divorce itself took a
year, so was alone then as well. Only had one horribly strange
experience after my 2, or was it 3?? I lost track, but only one brief
relationship/encounter after my divorce 2 or 3 years afterwards.

This current relationship isn't broken as of any means yet, just lots
of struggles and questions right now. I waited for 3 years prior to
entering into this one knowing I needed time to heal from my nightmare
of a marriage I came from. Knowing I was male hating and wasn't ready,
nor wanting to put another man in my life, much less my kids life.

After over 3 years and my brief encounter, although something that was
a joke/mistake/was taken advantage and kicked while down, blah, blah
blah. The encounter showed me one thing, once recovered from it, and I
did take lots of time to recoup from that as well, it showed me that I
did miss companionship and made me look at the possibility of opening
myself up to men/dating/ all that.

So in my long rambling way, what I"m saying, is I did take time, lots
of time before I even dated, much less entered in any relationship.

My current hurt is coming from some struggles I don't feel comfortable
going into details online and that my heart is more involved than his.
He's not bad to me or my kids. I just have to figure out is this
enough and is it enough to continue on? Lots of things to sort
through. He is a good man and the hurt he has caused me hasn't been
out of an abusive nature or trying to, just out of being oblivious to
my needs and possibly not being either mature enough to meet them or
the sort of person wired to meet them. I"m probably not making sense.
I've been so ready to just pack up and leave on so many occassions, but
there is so much good in him and in the relationship that it's hard to
just walk away because things aren't exactly what I want. Again, so
hard to explain without going into lots of detail, the history and
everything else.

I hope, HOPE, that when I've come here this time around depressed over
life and relationships that I haven't made him out to be a *****, which
my ex truely is. This is a good person, good man, I just have to
figure if we can make it work and can get past the hurdles. Also a age
difference that I'm much more hung up on than he is...I'm older.