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"lisa in mass." |
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30 Aug 2006 05:27:52 PM |
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he's home |
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't signed up
for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus home. didn't
think to call, either to let us know or so that we could give
him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his missed
appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
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| User: "David" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 06:15:34 PM |
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"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
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3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't signed up
for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus home. didn't
think to call, either to let us know or so that we could give
him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his missed
appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
I would talk with his therapist and try to get ideas. It may be that he's
influenced somehow, perhaps by his illness to do this or just wants to try
something new. The three of you talking together might also be a good
suggestion. I would say it isn't out of the question, I am just concerned
about how you reacted to his decision.
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 06:46:09 PM |
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David wrote...
"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
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3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up
for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus home.
didn't think to call, either to let us know or so that we
could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
I would talk with his therapist and try to get ideas. It
may be that he's influenced somehow, perhaps by his illness
to do this or just wants to try something new. The three of
you talking together might also be a good suggestion. I
would say it isn't out of the question, I am just concerned
about how you reacted to his decision.
we did all three talk together, and we'll discuss it at his
next therp appt. he just did what seemed logical to him,
without telling us that he wouldn't be where we expected him
to be. that's majorly not ok, and we have to make that point
now, before it becomes a pattern.
-lisa
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 10:09:12 PM |
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lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't signed up
for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus home. didn't
think to call, either to let us know or so that we could give
him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his missed
appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
You go, girl. Moms rock!
Bobbie
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 10:13:33 PM |
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Bobbie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus
home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or so
that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
You go, girl. Moms rock!
Bobbie
thanks bobbie. i'm paying for it, too. he comes to me to mope
about having nothing to do since he can't play computer games.
-lisa
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
31 Aug 2006 07:43:09 AM |
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lisa in mass. wrote:
Bobbie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus
home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or so
that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
You go, girl. Moms rock!
Bobbie
thanks bobbie. i'm paying for it, too. he comes to me to mope
about having nothing to do since he can't play computer games.
Yes, but that is HIS problem, not yours. We moms suffer alot because we
take the responsibility for the happiness of everyone in the family,
even when it's not our job. If he's bored, that's the result of his
behavior.
I know how hard it can be. I have a moper, too. Sometimes when when we
discipline her, it feels more like I'm punishing myself. Hang in there.
Bobbie
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| User: "used2be" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
31 Aug 2006 08:10:04 AM |
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<crysalis7@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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lisa in mass. wrote:
Bobbie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus
home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or so
that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
You go, girl. Moms rock!
Bobbie
thanks bobbie. i'm paying for it, too. he comes to me to mope
about having nothing to do since he can't play computer games.
Yes, but that is HIS problem, not yours. We moms suffer alot because we
take the responsibility for the happiness of everyone in the family,
even when it's not our job. If he's bored, that's the result of his
behavior.
I know how hard it can be. I have a moper, too. Sometimes when when we
discipline her, it feels more like I'm punishing myself. Hang in there.
you also don't have to put yourself in the same room with them. if they are
going to mope, tell them they can do it somewhere away from you because it
isn't YOUR fault that they made a poor decision that they must now pay the
consequences for.
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
31 Aug 2006 12:33:52 PM |
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used2be wrote...
<crysalis7@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:1157028189.213599.6780@74g2000cwt.googlegroups.com...
lisa in mass. wrote:
Bobbie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00
bus home. didn't think to call, either to let us know
or so that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
You go, girl. Moms rock!
Bobbie
thanks bobbie. i'm paying for it, too. he comes to me to
mope about having nothing to do since he can't play
computer games.
Yes, but that is HIS problem, not yours. We moms suffer
alot because we take the responsibility for the happiness
of everyone in the family, even when it's not our job. If
he's bored, that's the result of his behavior.
I know how hard it can be. I have a moper, too. Sometimes
when when we discipline her, it feels more like I'm
punishing myself. Hang in there.
you also don't have to put yourself in the same room with
them. if they are going to mope, tell them they can do it
somewhere away from you because it isn't YOUR fault that
they made a poor decision that they must now pay the
consequences for.
i'm computing in my room and he keeps coming to me to play a
game with him for something to do. this afternoon, i'm going
to force a book on him.
-lisa
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| User: "purpleveggie" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 06:18:55 PM |
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lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't signed up
for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus home. didn't
think to call, either to let us know or so that we could give
him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his missed
appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
he's home,thats all that matters.
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
30 Aug 2006 06:47:21 PM |
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purpleveggie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus
home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or so
that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
he's home,thats all that matters.
that's certainly the most important thing.
-lisa
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| User: "used2be" |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
31 Aug 2006 08:08:49 AM |
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"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns982FC94567F23mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4...
purpleveggie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00 bus
home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or so
that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
he's home,thats all that matters.
that's certainly the most important thing.
it is the most important thing like lisa said, but it ain't *all* that
matters, pv. if he gets away with it, he'll do it again and possibly worse
next time. you can't let stuff like this go. i'm pretty sure lisa knows
that already tho. :)
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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| Title: Re: he's home |
31 Aug 2006 12:32:02 PM |
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used2be wrote...
"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns982FC94567F23mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4...
purpleveggie wrote...
lisa in mass. wrote:
3 1/2 hours late. said he missed the 2:00 bus, wasn't
signed up for the 3:00 bus, so he had to take the 5:00
bus home. didn't think to call, either to let us know or
so that we could give him a ride.
no computer until saturday and he has to pay for his
missed appt.
at least he's finally home.
-lisa
he's home,thats all that matters.
that's certainly the most important thing.
it is the most important thing like lisa said, but it ain't
*all* that matters, pv. if he gets away with it, he'll do
it again and possibly worse next time. you can't let stuff
like this go. i'm pretty sure lisa knows that already tho.
:)
sure do. that's why it's hurting him recreationally and in his
pocket for the appt cost, since insurance won't pay for a
missed one. that'll take a chunk out of his savings. i doubt
it'll happen again.
-lisa
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