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"Used2be" |
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21 Dec 2005 08:42:41 AM |
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hubby blew out a tire last night... |
he was taking my 2 younger daughters to his parents house for a few days (he
will be staying with them...i will have the house mostly to myself the next
4 days except for the 17yr old who is working profusely). in texarkana on
I-30, at about 9:30 last night, his front tire completely disentigrated.
thankfully he was able to keep control and get the truck off the road
without injury to anyone or anything (other than the wheel). he said it was
tough. thank God the 15 yr old wasn't driving at the time!
anyway, this means the purchase of a new truck tire. ha ha ha ha ha ha. i
have to laugh so i don't collapse.
also, the ice maker on our fridge went out this week as well. we can
survive without that silly thing by using ice trays of course, but it all
just makes me wonder....
WHAT THE HECK IS NEXT???!!!!!
*losing my grip*
~u2b
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| User: "bunny" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
21 Dec 2005 02:41:22 PM |
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"Used2be" <used2be@nowhere.com> wrote
WHAT THE HECK IS NEXT???!!!!!
Aaaaaugh! Doesn't it drive you crazy?! At least please let you have an
uneventful next few days, for cripe's sake!
This is what drives you nuts about living on the edge. This kind of stuff
happens in the natural course of life. Stuff breaks down, things need to be
maintained, some stuff works great, some stuff stops working -- life
maintenance goes on. But when you're living on the edge and worrying about
making the basic utilities and stuff, the normal yet unpredictable
maintenance stuff can hit you like catastrophes and just stress you to the
ends of each hair. Okay, maybe that's me, your hair's probably a lot nicer
than mine -- but for me, this kind of stuff that wouldn't be that big of a
deal at other times just -- well, thank god for hair products, that's all I
can say.
I'm sorry Cindy! Aaaaugh!
I have a small confession to make. I know your hubby is really a sweet guy
in many ways, and I'm not demonizing him or anything, but I do have this
recurring fantasy where he's inside a pacman game and I'm pursuing him with
that little chomping thing. He's squealing and running and I'm laughing.
Sometimes it's you and me playing together, and we'll let him out when he
agrees to get another job.
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| User: "GreyWitch" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
22 Dec 2005 12:03:26 AM |
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On Wed, 21 Dec 2005 14:42:41 GMT, "Used2be" <used2be@nowhere.com> wrote:
. . .
*losing my grip*
~u2b
as I only retain water, remind us again why you stay with him?
I was in a relationship which I believed to be fairly decent yet every
month I would go into deep bouts of depression. I didn't know why. then
I started listening to myself, listening to what I was saying each time
it happened. I was saying the same things over and over and over, my
subconscious knew there was something wrong and it wasn't me.
I was depressive so, of course, it was my fault, my depression. but it
wasn't. regardless of what he said, he didn't love me and I knew it, I
was his housekeeper to him and his son. that's it.
it wasn't a bad relationship but it was bad for me. I left and lost 20
pounds, looked better and felt better. I didn't have him dragging me
down.
Cindy, you can't feel good about your life if there is nothing good in
your life to feel. Is the depression you or what the
relationship/situation is doing to you?
Listen to yourself, listen to what you are saying to yourself each time
you are depressed to this level. Is it you or him?
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:GreyWitch
:Thought for the journey:
If the energizer bunny attacks someone, is he charged with battery?
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| User: "Used2be" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
22 Dec 2005 10:16:51 AM |
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"GreyWitch" <greywitche@yahoo.com> wrote
as I only retain water, remind us again why you stay with him?
well, it seems that way because all i've done lately is complain about him.
because isn't that what we do? complain about the things our mates do that
drive us nuts? i mean, if i came in here everyday and said, "my hubby is
soooooooo perfect and wonderful and he does blah, blah, blah" wouldn't it
drive you guys nuts? you'd get sick of it and put me in your killfile! and
i wouldn't blame you! all i'm saying is that things are crappy right now,
and i'm blowing off steam. but i don't see it as a reason to destroy 3
children's lives and ruin a 20 year marriage just because i'm totally pissed
off at my husband these days. yeah, he's got faults! but don't we all?
yeah...we do. we just don't really sit here much and talk about our own
inadequacies. :/
I was in a relationship which I believed to be fairly decent yet every
month I would go into deep bouts of depression. I didn't know why. then
I started listening to myself, listening to what I was saying each time
it happened. I was saying the same things over and over and over, my
subconscious knew there was something wrong and it wasn't me.
i was struggling with depression before we got married. yes, some of what
he does is very depressing for me, but i realize that it's my own reaction
to what he is doing that is causing my depression, and not HIM. i'm not
excusing what he does, but i also must take responsibility for my own
feelings. it'd be different he was abusing me or cheating on me or abusing
our kids.
I was depressive so, of course, it was my fault, my depression. but it
wasn't. regardless of what he said, he didn't love me and I knew it, I
was his housekeeper to him and his son. that's it.
there *is* great love in our marriage. it's just that we've both gotten a
bit lost over the last few years. and we need to find our way back to each
other.
it wasn't a bad relationship but it was bad for me. I left and lost 20
pounds, looked better and felt better. I didn't have him dragging me
down.
i'm glad that you feel better now, girl. i understand how you could have
felt "dragged" down by all that. i don't really feel that way. in fact, i
look pretty darn good for a 41 yr old mother of 3! <hee hee> i do take
pride in my appearance for the most part, and i do that for ME. not for my
hubby or anyone else. just for myself.
Cindy, you can't feel good about your life if there is nothing good in
your life to feel. Is the depression you or what the
relationship/situation is doing to you?
see, this is where i feel sad about what i've written lately. i feel sad
that people would read my posts and see nothing good in my life. maybe it's
because you haven't been around here very long to read the good stuff (or
haven't been BACK here very long, whatever the case may be). see, my life
IS good. yeah, there is some really bad stuff going on right now, and i'm
struggling terribly with some anger and resentment and depression issues
because of that, but that doesn't mean there is nothing good in my life to
feel. when i look at my girls, i feel tremendous love and joy. when i look
at my home, i feel blessed. even if i lose this house, i will still be a
blessed person. even if i lose all material possessions, i am still a
blessed person. my family is everything to me. yeah, i'm angry as all get
out for the bad way things are going right now. and i'm angry as all get
out at my hubby. but i still love him. and want the best for him. and
want what's best for my family. he's a bit "lost" right now, and i just
hope to God that he finds his way back out. and i will help him to do that
in any way i can. that's all i can do.
Listen to yourself, listen to what you are saying to yourself each time
you are depressed to this level. Is it you or him?
it would be easy to blame him for all of my problems, but that isn't really
fair. i do appreciate what you are saying girl and i can see how it would
look like i've attached myself to someone who is ruining my life...but i
know what kind of life i would have without him, and i know what it would do
to my girls to lose their daddy, and i'm not interested in that kind of
life. this will work out. things will get better. or they won't. either
way, i'm in this for the long haul. because it just means that much to me.
*he* means that much to me.
thanks for making me "think"!!!! it helped!!!
*hugs*
~u2b
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| User: "GreyWitch" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
21 Dec 2005 11:18:20 PM |
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On Wed, 21 Dec 2005 14:42:41 GMT, "Used2be" <used2be@nowhere.com> wrote:
. . .
*losing my grip*
~u2b
I seriously think you need to walk (as your vehicle is out of
commission) down to New Orleans and find yourself a witch.
I will do what I can from here but the ocean my dilute the effect.
<POOF>
see if that helped.
<u2b> if your life weren't so overpoweringly debilitating, it would
make a great comedy.
maybe if you went to the library and started reading up on spellcraft,
started fighting back? hey, at this stage, can it hurt?
--
:GreyWitch
:Thought for the journey:
If at first you don't succeed, quit. No sense making a damn fool of yourself.
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| User: "Used2be" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
22 Dec 2005 09:55:57 AM |
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"GreyWitch" <greywitche@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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On Wed, 21 Dec 2005 14:42:41 GMT, "Used2be" <used2be@nowhere.com> wrote:
. . .
*losing my grip*
~u2b
I seriously think you need to walk (as your vehicle is out of
commission) down to New Orleans and find yourself a witch.
nahhh...i've got you right here in ASD!! i can just sit down in my computer
chair, click a few buttons, and then *poof*...there you are.
I will do what I can from here but the ocean my dilute the effect.
<POOF>
see if that helped.
i'm not really into witchcraft and all, but i do appreciate the good vibes.
:) what side of the ocean are you on, anyway?
<u2b> if your life weren't so overpoweringly debilitating, it would
make a great comedy.
yes, wouldn't it though? :-D
maybe if you went to the library and started reading up on spellcraft,
started fighting back? hey, at this stage, can it hurt?
well, seein as how i'm a christian, i think God might get a little perturbed
at me if i turned on Him like that and starting practicing witchcraft. <g>
i know He's a forgiving God and all, but i think that might be pushing my
luck just a little far right now. :-D
btw....ummmm...you ARE a good witch aren't you????
:)
~u2b
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
21 Dec 2005 11:20:34 PM |
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maybe they need moe lonelyness
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| User: "Franz Bestuchev" |
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22 Dec 2005 03:12:09 PM |
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% wrote:
maybe they need moe lonelyness
Maybe they just need to hear some babble about witchcraft.
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| User: "Gayle" |
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21 Dec 2005 09:12:23 AM |
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Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking
out updates on the displaced folks from
the Gulf Coast to get the perspective
that minimizes my own tribulations. It's
definitely fanning my sense of gratitude
for what I've got and for what I've been
spared. Mileage varies on this practice,
of course.
Gayle
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| User: "Franz Bestuchev" |
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21 Dec 2005 11:43:33 AM |
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Gayle wrote:
Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking out updates on the displaced folks
from the Gulf Coast to get the perspective that minimizes my own
tribulations. It's definitely fanning my sense of gratitude for what
I've got and for what I've been spared. Mileage varies on this practice,
of course.
Gayle
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
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| User: "Gayle" |
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21 Dec 2005 02:10:11 PM |
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Franz Bestuchev wrote:
Gayle wrote:
Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking out updates on the displaced
folks from the Gulf Coast to get the perspective that minimizes my own
tribulations. It's definitely fanning my sense of gratitude for what
I've got and for what I've been spared. Mileage varies on this
practice, of course.
Gayle
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
May he rest in peace. Hey, I'm luckier
than Warren!
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| User: "bunny" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
21 Dec 2005 02:27:05 PM |
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"Gayle" <gayleco@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:tfydnXFzB6I5KzTenZ2dnUVZ_v-dnZ2d@rcn.net...
Franz Bestuchev wrote:
Gayle wrote:
Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking out updates on the displaced folks
from the Gulf Coast to get the perspective that minimizes my own
tribulations. It's definitely fanning my sense of gratitude for what
I've got and for what I've been spared. Mileage varies on this practice,
of course.
Gayle
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
May he rest in peace. Hey, I'm luckier than Warren!
On this day of uber-stress, you just made me laugh out loud, so thank,
restraining order sister! Luckier indeed! Hehehehehehehe!
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: hubby blew out a tire last night... |
21 Dec 2005 02:37:37 PM |
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"bunny" <bunnynospam@nospam.blarg.net> wrote in message
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"Gayle" <gayleco@rcn.com> wrote in message
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Franz Bestuchev wrote:
Gayle wrote:
Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking out updates on the displaced
folks
from the Gulf Coast to get the perspective that minimizes my own
tribulations. It's definitely fanning my sense of gratitude for what
I've got and for what I've been spared. Mileage varies on this
practice,
of course.
Gayle
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
May he rest in peace. Hey, I'm luckier than Warren!
On this day of uber-stress, you just made me laugh out loud, so thank,
restraining order sister! Luckier indeed! Hehehehehehehe!
on this ... the day of my daughters wedding
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| User: "Franz Bestuchev" |
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21 Dec 2005 08:17:53 PM |
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% wrote:
"bunny" <bunnynospam@nospam.blarg.net> wrote in message
news:tUiqf.16962$%X.1388@fe07.news.easynews.com...
"Gayle" <gayleco@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:tfydnXFzB6I5KzTenZ2dnUVZ_v-dnZ2d@rcn.net...
Franz Bestuchev wrote:
Gayle wrote:
Used2be wrote:
*losing my grip*
It might sound awful, but I'm seeking out updates on the displaced
folks
from the Gulf Coast to get the perspective that minimizes my own
tribulations. It's definitely fanning my sense of gratitude for what
I've got and for what I've been spared. Mileage varies on this
practice,
of course.
Gayle
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
May he rest in peace. Hey, I'm luckier than Warren!
On this day of uber-stress, you just made me laugh out loud, so thank,
restraining order sister! Luckier indeed! Hehehehehehehe!
on this ... the day of my daughters wedding
I liked to ask you a favor, but if you need to come to me for something
in the future that's OK.
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| User: "bunny" |
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21 Dec 2005 02:56:40 PM |
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"%" <persent@Gmail.com> wrote
on this ... the day of my daughters wedding
Really? Wow. Congratulations, dad!
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| User: "%" |
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21 Dec 2005 04:14:09 PM |
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"bunny" <bunnynospam@nospam.blarg.net> wrote in message
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"%" <persent@Gmail.com> wrote
on this ... the day of my daughters wedding
Really? Wow. Congratulations, dad!
oh come on , where's your sense of The Godfather
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| User: "GreyWitch" |
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21 Dec 2005 11:21:14 PM |
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On Wed, 21 Dec 2005 10:43:33 -0700, Franz Bestuchev
<franz.bestuchev@gmail.com> wrote:
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
I'd rather feel bad than feel nothing at all.
--
:GreyWitch
:Thought for the journey:
If you're against logging, try wiping your ***** with plastic.
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| User: "%" |
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21 Dec 2005 11:23:36 PM |
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feel free to feel as you do
"GreyWitch" <greywitche@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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On Wed, 21 Dec 2005 10:43:33 -0700, Franz Bestuchev
<franz.bestuchev@gmail.com> wrote:
Warren Zevon: I thought of my friends and the troubles they've had to
keep me from thinking of mine.
I'd rather feel bad than feel nothing at all.
--
:GreyWitch
:Thought for the journey:
If you're against logging, try wiping your ***** with plastic.
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| User: "aaron from suburbia" |
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21 Dec 2005 05:01:02 PM |
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holy crap - glad everyone in your family is SAFE, Used2be
driving in winter conditions is NOT fun. I don't recommend it.
Used2be wrote:
he was taking my 2 younger daughters to his parents house for a few days (he
will be staying with them...i will have the house mostly to myself the next
4 days except for the 17yr old who is working profusely). in texarkana on
I-30, at about 9:30 last night, his front tire completely disentigrated.
thankfully he was able to keep control and get the truck off the road
without injury to anyone or anything (other than the wheel). he said it was
tough. thank God the 15 yr old wasn't driving at the time!
anyway, this means the purchase of a new truck tire. ha ha ha ha ha ha. i
have to laugh so i don't collapse.
also, the ice maker on our fridge went out this week as well. we can
survive without that silly thing by using ice trays of course, but it all
just makes me wonder....
WHAT THE HECK IS NEXT???!!!!!
*losing my grip*
~u2b
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| User: "Janithor" |
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21 Dec 2005 08:50:08 AM |
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x-no-archive: yes
Used2be wrote:
he was taking my 2 younger daughters to his parents house for a few days (he
will be staying with them...i will have the house mostly to myself the next
4 days except for the 17yr old who is working profusely). in texarkana on
I-30, at about 9:30 last night, his front tire completely disentigrated.
thankfully he was able to keep control and get the truck off the road
without injury to anyone or anything (other than the wheel). he said it was
tough. thank God the 15 yr old wasn't driving at the time!
anyway, this means the purchase of a new truck tire. ha ha ha ha ha ha. i
have to laugh so i don't collapse.
also, the ice maker on our fridge went out this week as well. we can
survive without that silly thing by using ice trays of course, but it all
just makes me wonder....
WHAT THE HECK IS NEXT???!!!!!
*losing my grip*
~u2b
Doesn't he see the reality of the situation? I don't get it. Does he
deny what's going on, or does he just not care? Seems like pretty
self-evident math: we have $X dollars going out, therefore, we need
Y>=coming in. What does he think is going to happen once all the
possible sources of cash in, other than work, are exhausted?
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| User: "Used2be" |
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21 Dec 2005 08:55:44 AM |
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"Janithor" <Janithor@comcast.net> wrote in message
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x-no-archive: yes
Used2be wrote:
he was taking my 2 younger daughters to his parents house for a few days
(he will be staying with them...i will have the house mostly to myself
the next 4 days except for the 17yr old who is working profusely). in
texarkana on I-30, at about 9:30 last night, his front tire completely
disentigrated. thankfully he was able to keep control and get the truck
off the road without injury to anyone or anything (other than the wheel).
he said it was tough. thank God the 15 yr old wasn't driving at the
time!
anyway, this means the purchase of a new truck tire. ha ha ha ha ha ha.
i have to laugh so i don't collapse.
also, the ice maker on our fridge went out this week as well. we can
survive without that silly thing by using ice trays of course, but it all
just makes me wonder....
WHAT THE HECK IS NEXT???!!!!!
*losing my grip*
~u2b
Doesn't he see the reality of the situation? I don't get it. Does he
deny what's going on, or does he just not care? Seems like pretty
self-evident math: we have $X dollars going out, therefore, we need
Y>=coming in. What does he think is going to happen once all the possible
sources of cash in, other than work, are exhausted?
he thinks that we'll sell everything and go live in a trailer in the woods.
that is his fondest dream. he would be ecstatic if it were to happen. i'm
not kidding.
call me a snob or whatever, but there is no damn way i'll be living in a
rotting trailer out in the middle of freakin nowhere!!! NO WAY BUSTER!!!!!
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