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Sociology > Depression |
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"Anonymous Sender" |
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07 Jan 2004 01:40:20 PM |
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I am codependent. |
It means that in your relationships, you are conditioned
to accept a lot of crap from people. First, in your family, and then
you are drawn to problematic people in your adult relationships.
Your marry alcoholics, and people like that - and stay with them.
Your focus is on pleasing others at your own expense.
My family is the source of it. My mother has multiple personalities
and can alternate between hateful, screaming monster and
extremely nice, gentle, loving lady. Actually she has yet
another one, which is all about guilt.
I cannot take these emotional roller-coasters anymore.
Too many emotional problems, pure and simple. And doesn't really
want a close relationship with me, so why should I pursue it?
I know if I end it, she will play her usual "I've done so
much for you".
But, I cannot stay any longer.
I will never, ever associate with another person who screams
at me. First time it happens - I am gone.
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| User: "Whateverafter" |
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| Title: Re: I am codependent. |
07 Jan 2004 06:28:53 PM |
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Subject: I am codependent.
From: Anonymous Sender
Date: 1/7/2004 1:40 PM Central America Standard Time
Message-id: <76b38e45caa8f90ac46bff377c63c63e@remailer.metacolo.com>
It means that in your relationships, you are conditioned
to accept a lot of crap from people. First, in your family, and then
you are drawn to problematic people in your adult relationships.
Your marry alcoholics, and people like that - and stay with them.
Your focus is on pleasing others at your own expense.
My family is the source of it. My mother has multiple personalities
and can alternate between hateful, screaming monster and
extremely nice, gentle, loving lady. Actually she has yet
another one, which is all about guilt.
I cannot take these emotional roller-coasters anymore.
Too many emotional problems, pure and simple. And doesn't really
want a close relationship with me, so why should I pursue it?
I know if I end it, she will play her usual "I've done so
much for you".
But, I cannot stay any longer.
I will never, ever associate with another person who screams
at me. First time it happens - I am gone.
I know; I can't take it either if someone screams at me or is just mad at
me. I have to say away from ppl when it is like that. But does your mother
maybe have some stuff going on in her won life that could contribute to the way
she acts?
I mean, she's your mother, so no matter how badly she acts, she might really
love you inside, and just has gone so far past seeing what she is doing that
she can't see how it affects you. could you have a conversation about how it
makes you feel, without it getting to accusations? Maybe she needs to know.
But with love.
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