Think of it this way. Who would you rather spend time with: Someone
who is reasonably cheerful, compassionate, enjoyable to be with, and
has no obvious problems? Or someone who can't participate in a
coversation, acts oddly, is anxious, depressed, and irritable much of
the time?

I think the answer is obvious, even if it seems harsh. People want to
have as friends those whose friendship provides a return (in the form
of pleasant conversation, fun activities, support, and reliability) on
their investment of the same. Providing that investment in a
relationship with someone who doesn't provide similar returns is a
waste.

So you have several strikes against you. Rather than bewail the
unfairness of your situation, you are likely to be better off (in my
opinion) by both (A) improving your behaviors, especially your empathy
and compassion for others, and (B) looking for friendships among
people who are more like you, and less "normal." (Support groups, for
example.)

You might, for exsample, consider doing volunteer (charity) work for
an organization you think well of, that puts you in contact with
people who share some of your interests (like pets).

Political opinions, and the way you express them, reveal things about
you above and beyond political issues. Suppose you like the ASPCA
(which you do). You could be a nice person who likes animals, or a
screaming harpy who wants to kill everyone who isn't a vegetarion.
Your "political belief" here is that it is good to treat animals well,
but the extent to which you adopt extreme positions, and how you
express them, conveys different messages--pleasant in one case,
unpleasant in the other.

I doubt very much that anyone is going to dislike you for supporting
the ASPCA. On the other hand, if your political views demonize a
particular segment of humanity, and you routinely express hatred for
them, this says a lot about the kind of person you are. It says you
are the kind of person who hates easily, and exhibits scapegoating
behavior. Whether or not there are specific instances of behaviors by
some members of the group you dislike, which deserve criticism, is,
frankly, much less important to just about everyone than the simple
fact that you are full of hatred. That your hatred is directed towards
a particular ethnic or national group is significant but
secondary--the point is that you are a hater. And no one likes a
hater. Do you? I would doubt it.

So what to do? Decide which is more important to you: Continuing to
hate and express it, or finding a way to let go of hatred and become a
more personable fellow.

I have seen you express compassion and caring for others, and you are
a much more appealing person when you do. The contrast might be worth
thinking about.

I truly do wish you luck in making a happier life for yourself.

"millipede man" <milliman@millipede.net> wrote in message
news:Xns97DFC3D005AF7millieNOTSORTANOTSOR@207.115.17.102...

I deserve to have a full life with friends, a girlfriend/wife etc. I
feel
it is a gross injustice that I'm being denied it. I live a miserable
life,
just working, eating, and sleeping. I hate my life. If I could, I'd
give it
back to God and ask for a new, better one.

I understand what you are saying. I'm going to try to give some honest
answers to your questions. I hope you won't take offense.

It is true that I'm withdrawn, and very fearful and distrustful of
other
people. It is true that I'm not always the nicest person to deal
with. It
is true that I generally freeze and don't know what to say or do
when I'm
trying to start or maintain a conversation with someone. It is true
that I
probably act very strangely, very differently from everybody else.
Why
don't "normal" people understand what it is like to always be very
anxious,
and depressed or hypomanic most of the time without the proper
medication?
Why don't "normal" people accept those who have anxiety and
depression?

Think of it this way. Who would you rather spend time with: Someone
who is reasonably cheerful, compassionate, enjoyable to be with, and
has no obvious problems? Or someone who can't participate in a
coversation, acts oddly, is anxious, depressed, and irritable much of
the time?

I think the answer is obvious, even if it seems harsh. People want to
have as friends those whose friendship provides a return (in the form
of pleasant conversation, fun activities, support, and reliability) on
their investment of the same. Providing that investment in a
relationship with someone who doesn't provide similar returns is a
waste.

So you have several strikes against you. Rather than bewail the
unfairness of your situation, you are likely to be better off (in my
opinion) by both (A) improving your behaviors, especially your empathy
and compassion for others, and (B) looking for friendships among
people who are more like you, and less "normal." (Support groups, for
example.)

You might, for exsample, consider doing volunteer (charity) work for
an organization you think well of, that puts you in contact with
people who share some of your interests (like pets).

I have a strong and not unfounded feeling that there are people out
to get
me - to retaliate against me for my unpopular political opinions.

Political opinions, and the way you express them, reveal things about
you above and beyond political issues. Suppose you like the ASPCA
(which you do). You could be a nice person who likes animals, or a
screaming harpy who wants to kill everyone who isn't a vegetarion.
Your "political belief" here is that it is good to treat animals well,
but the extent to which you adopt extreme positions, and how you
express them, conveys different messages--pleasant in one case,
unpleasant in the other.

I doubt very much that anyone is going to dislike you for supporting
the ASPCA. On the other hand, if your political views demonize a
particular segment of humanity, and you routinely express hatred for
them, this says a lot about the kind of person you are. It says you
are the kind of person who hates easily, and exhibits scapegoating
behavior. Whether or not there are specific instances of behaviors by
some members of the group you dislike, which deserve criticism, is,
frankly, much less important to just about everyone than the simple
fact that you are full of hatred. That your hatred is directed towards
a particular ethnic or national group is significant but
secondary--the point is that you are a hater. And no one likes a
hater. Do you? I would doubt it.

So what to do? Decide which is more important to you: Continuing to
hate and express it, or finding a way to let go of hatred and become a
more personable fellow.

I have seen you express compassion and caring for others, and you are
a much more appealing person when you do. The contrast might be worth
thinking about.

I truly do wish you luck in making a happier life for yourself.
--
Nom dePlume, Ph.D.
Why, yes, in fact, I am a rocket scientist.

Guide to Medications for Mental Illness:
http://www.geocities.com/nomdeplume1000/

=====

You will find someone, when you least expect it. In the meantime,
enjoy your multilegged critters.

You were feeling better a few days ago. Can you
pinpoint anything that might have made a change?

I'm not saying you can. Often I cannot. That's "not"
y'hear?

Feeling bad can be much worse when it contrasts
with a recent better past.

You were feeling better a few days ago. Can you
pinpoint anything that might have made a change?

I'm not saying you can. Often I cannot. That's "not"
y'hear?

Feeling bad can be much worse when it contrasts
with a recent better past.

millipede man wrote:

I deserve to have a full life with friends, a girlfriend/wife etc. I feel
it is a gross injustice that I'm being denied it. I live a miserable
life,
just working, eating, and sleeping. I hate my life. If I could, I'd give
it
back to God and ask for a new, better one.

It is true that I'm withdrawn, and very fearful and distrustful of other
people. It is true that I'm not always the nicest person to deal with. It
is true that I generally freeze and don't know what to say or do when I'm
trying to start or maintain a conversation with someone. It is true that
I
probably act very strangely, very differently from everybody else. Why
don't "normal" people understand what it is like to always be very
anxious,
and depressed or hypomanic most of the time without the proper
medication?
Why don't "normal" people accept those who have anxiety and depression?

I have a strong and not unfounded feeling that there are people out to
get
me - to retaliate against me for my unpopular political opinions.

--
- millipede man
----------
Web sites worth visiting:
Washington Report on Middle East Affairs - http://www.wrmea.com/
Antiwar.com - devoted to non-interventionism - http://antiwar.com/
Green Party of the United States - http://www.gp.org/
American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals -
http://www.aspca.org/site/PageServer

maybe you would have more of a social life ir your wernt such a
miseable *****?

the negativity in you oozes out.