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Sociology > Depression |
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"Ariel" |
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10 Mar 2006 10:13:41 PM |
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I don't know what to do . . . . |
I'm 19 years old and an undergraduate at a four year southern
university. For all of my life I've been fighting depression, but I
wasn't diagnosed until last year. I'm an extremely shy person, and I
don't make friends very easily. I'm not in a sorority, which is a
major deal at my school. I live with my boyfriend, who is totally
supportive of me, and does anything he can to help me and make me feel
better. But that's not enough. I don't have any friends that I can
talk to or hang out with or go see a movie with. Don't get me wrong, I
love my boyfriend with all my heart, but my life can't revolve around
him. I've tried making friends, but I keep getting rejected. I don't
know why. I'm about to give up. My family is pretty understanding
except for my mother. My mom is outgoing, and has no idea about what
depression or anxiety is. Everytime I go home, my depression gets
worse and worse, as does our relationship. I dread going home. But I
can't tell my mom about this because I know it would hurt her feelings.
I don't know what to do about that either. I'm starting to feel
overwhelmed: trying to keep my mother happy with me, keeping up my
grades, and just waking up every morning.
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: I don't know what to do . . . . |
10 Mar 2006 10:19:26 PM |
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"Ariel" <aljohnst@olemiss.edu> wrote in message
news:1142050421.679010.10030@p10g2000cwp.googlegroups.com...
I'm 19 years old and an undergraduate at a four year southern
university. For all of my life I've been fighting depression, but I
wasn't diagnosed until last year. I'm an extremely shy person, and I
don't make friends very easily. I'm not in a sorority, which is a
major deal at my school. I live with my boyfriend, who is totally
supportive of me, and does anything he can to help me and make me feel
better. But that's not enough. I don't have any friends that I can
talk to or hang out with or go see a movie with. Don't get me wrong, I
love my boyfriend with all my heart, but my life can't revolve around
him. I've tried making friends, but I keep getting rejected. I don't
know why. I'm about to give up. My family is pretty understanding
except for my mother. My mom is outgoing, and has no idea about what
depression or anxiety is. Everytime I go home, my depression gets
worse and worse, as does our relationship. I dread going home. But I
can't tell my mom about this because I know it would hurt her feelings.
I don't know what to do about that either. I'm starting to feel
overwhelmed: trying to keep my mother happy with me, keeping up my
grades, and just waking up every morning.
send her some text explaining what depression is ,
then tell her you have it
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| User: "Bacon" |
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| Title: Re: I don't know what to do . . . . |
11 Mar 2006 12:00:53 AM |
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Ariel wrote:
I'm 19 years old and an undergraduate at a four year southern
university. For all of my life I've been fighting depression, but I
wasn't diagnosed until last year. I'm an extremely shy person, and I
don't make friends very easily. I'm not in a sorority, which is a
major deal at my school. I live with my boyfriend, who is totally
supportive of me, and does anything he can to help me and make me feel
better. But that's not enough. I don't have any friends that I can
talk to or hang out with or go see a movie with. Don't get me wrong, I
love my boyfriend with all my heart, but my life can't revolve around
him. I've tried making friends, but I keep getting rejected. I don't
know why. I'm about to give up. My family is pretty understanding
except for my mother. My mom is outgoing, and has no idea about what
depression or anxiety is. Everytime I go home, my depression gets
worse and worse, as does our relationship. I dread going home. But I
can't tell my mom about this because I know it would hurt her feelings.
I don't know what to do about that either. I'm starting to feel
overwhelmed: trying to keep my mother happy with me, keeping up my
grades, and just waking up every morning.
I was about your age when I first went to a psychiatrist and was
diagnosed with depression. And my family made it worse in much the same
way, they'd try to be supportive but really didn't understand. I also
dreaded going home. If I had it to do over again, I'd focus on my
independence at your age. Tell your family the truth and don't go home
as often. I'm 37 now and healing for me began when I began enjoying
spending time alone without feeling guilty. I still have friends, and a
cordial relationship with my parents, but outside of work spend a lot
of my free time alone...this may not sound appealing to you and is an
extreme, but make an effort not to be too dependent on others. At your
age and with what you're going through it might not make sense to be in
such a serious relationship either. But you should obviously be talking
about these things with a professional since I'm just some guy.
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