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Sociology > Depression |
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"Matt Someone" |
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23 May 2005 07:00:37 AM |
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I just dont know what to do... |
Why cant life be pleasant? I've done everything I can to make my life
perfect. From the outside it looks it. I just dont know what to do
anymore. I used to think that maybe I wasnt trying hard enough to make my
environment around me happy... There are days that I'll work 8-10 hours,
go to the gym (thinking that will help) then come home and work on the
house until I'm so exhausted that I just fall asleep. I dont have any
friends. I managed to get married. Cant please my wife tho. My kids
might as well be wild animals, my words seem to mean little to them. I
just want it all to go away and I know there is no way of doing that.
Just venting I guess,
Matt
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| User: "David" |
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| Title: Re: I just dont know what to do... |
23 May 2005 08:48:59 AM |
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Matt,
A lot of us feel this way sometimes, you seem to have found the right
group. Sometimes taking meds can help, or just doing something
different for a change can break the monotony. How about taking the
family on a day trip on a weekend?
David
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| User: "Kenster" |
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| Title: Re: I just dont know what to do... |
23 May 2005 08:58:27 AM |
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On Mon, 23 May 2005 12:00:37 GMT, Matt Someone
<youknow404-spam@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
Why cant life be pleasant? I've done everything I can to make my life
perfect. From the outside it looks it. I just dont know what to do
anymore. I used to think that maybe I wasnt trying hard enough to make my
environment around me happy... There are days that I'll work 8-10 hours,
go to the gym (thinking that will help) then come home and work on the
house until I'm so exhausted that I just fall asleep. I dont have any
friends. I managed to get married. Cant please my wife tho. My kids
might as well be wild animals, my words seem to mean little to them. I
just want it all to go away and I know there is no way of doing that.
Just venting I guess,
Matt
Hey Matt,
You're human man. I know it sucks, but don't think that all of us
don't feel the things you are feeling. Everyone else always looks
happier, better, more composed than we feel we do. I guess it's that
grass is greener stuff...
Sounds like you stay pretty busy with work and your marriage. Friends
at work? Do you consider your wife a friend? I have what I like to
consider friends here on this newsgroup so you might want to stick
around and post for a while and see what develops. You may be
surprised by what you find here in some of these wonderful people.
I understand about the kids too. I have three boys who really are
great kids. But, there are times I could stand up and talk to the
lamp and get more action and understanding. That's just the way kids
are. They are gonna push all the envelopes because that is how they
grow and develop all the things in life that will create who they are.
The only thing you can really do is steer them in the direction you
want them to go. Give them good examples, show them what you expect
and be very consistant to show them that proper actions and good
morals cause good things in life to happen.
Hang in there bud...Just keep plugging away and maybe look into
getting some counseling for yourself, or better yet, maybe some
counseling for both your wife and yourself together. It could help
you both grow together instead of apart.
Just my $.02 for what it's worth...
Take care,
Kenster
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| User: "Nina" |
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| Title: Re: I just dont know what to do... |
23 May 2005 08:53:58 AM |
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On Mon, 23 May 2005 12:00:37 GMT, Matt Someone
<youknow404-spam@sbcglobal.net> wrote:
Why cant life be pleasant? I've done everything I can to make my life
perfect. From the outside it looks it. I just dont know what to do
anymore. I used to think that maybe I wasnt trying hard enough to make my
environment around me happy... There are days that I'll work 8-10 hours,
go to the gym (thinking that will help) then come home and work on the
house until I'm so exhausted that I just fall asleep. I dont have any
friends. I managed to get married. Cant please my wife tho. My kids
might as well be wild animals, my words seem to mean little to them. I
just want it all to go away and I know there is no way of doing that.
Because life isn't perfect, and you can't make it perfect by putting
all the trappings of normalcy around you. You can have a
picture-perfect environment, and still be completely miserable,
because that's not what it's about.
And if you're working 8-10 hours, going to the gym, and then working
on the house... well, isn't that desperately trying to keep yourself
busy so that you can ignore what's really going on? (Speaking as an
absolute pro at that....)
Nina
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"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer."
-Albert Camus
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