humble.life wrote:

when you don't act according to their expectations, one way or the other.

That's something I worry about a lot... I think it's so easy to
pigeonhole people, to stereotype them, put them into one dimensional
boxes, as if they were cariacatures, to have assumptions about them...
and it's easy to try to live up to other people's assumptions, to put
yourself in narrow boxes, just as much as other people... I have so
many examples of this in my own life...

how do they get to demonise you so easily?, yet if you do the same in
reverse, it's time for diagnosis...

that often makes me sad, when it gets into demonizing... I often
think that mixed feelings, ambivalence is the most natural way to feel
about someone... sure sometimes there are deeper, more straightfoward
feelings underneathe ambivalence, but I think that if you dig deeper
still, you will once again find those mixed feelings, under the more
straightfoward feelings...

-"alsvintchase"