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"Jane" |
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12 Mar 2006 02:48:37 PM |
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isi there such a thing as |
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question the
reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at this
point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle in and I
shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the earth, make
excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
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"All I know is that it's far easier to like myself through the eyes of
others than it is through my own."
LJ/ASD
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| User: "RGB" |
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| Title: Re: isi there such a thing as |
12 Mar 2006 03:03:34 PM |
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In article <DL%Qf.6812$C7.6736@bignews2.bellsouth.net>,
"Jane" <jarsenal66nospam@hotmail.com> wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
Sounds like a personals ad...
"Well rounded guy (not girth!), strong but not controlling, funny yet
serious when needed, no substance abuse, financially successful, likes
it when a lady does things for him but doesn't expect it, secure but
loving, attentive but not smothering, seeks insecure, vulnerable woman
with one or more major mental illnesses for friendship plus predation.
Enjoys candlelit dinners and long walks on the beach watching seagulls
disembowel newborn sea turtles. M36887"
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| User: "Jane" |
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12 Mar 2006 03:05:31 PM |
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OMG it does.
ugh!
"RGB" <mark022806-asd@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:G00Rf.33313$h82.16575@fe01.news.easynews.com...
In article <DL%Qf.6812$C7.6736@bignews2.bellsouth.net>,
"Jane" <jarsenal66nospam@hotmail.com> wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny,
yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time
and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him,
but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not
smothering?
Sounds like a personals ad...
"Well rounded guy (not girth!), strong but not controlling, funny yet
serious when needed, no substance abuse, financially successful, likes
it when a lady does things for him but doesn't expect it, secure but
loving, attentive but not smothering, seeks insecure, vulnerable woman
with one or more major mental illnesses for friendship plus predation.
Enjoys candlelit dinners and long walks on the beach watching seagulls
disembowel newborn sea turtles. M36887"
--
Support the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention's
"Out of the Darkness" overnight walks. Heal. Help. Hope.
http://tinyurl.com/l7v2b
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| User: "lisa in mass." |
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12 Mar 2006 03:06:18 PM |
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Jane wrote...
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not
controlling, funny, yet serious when needed, who doesn't
abuse substances, who works full time and can take care of
himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but
not smothering?
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need
to question the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I
being paranoid?
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond
friendship at this point and if a guy gets to friendly I
start to feel panic settle in and I shut down, cut off
communication, drop off the face of the earth, make excuses
after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and
it's not a very pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
you're asking for a lot there...
even joe doesn't make the list (functional alcoholic issues).
other than that, he's a great guy. he did completely fit the
bill when i met him, but you aren't looking for a 19-yr-old.
-lisa
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| User: "Jane" |
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12 Mar 2006 03:07:20 PM |
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"lisa in mass." <mccats@rcn.com> wrote in message
news:Xns9784A3D187FF4mccatsjavanetcom@130.133.1.4...
Jane wrote...
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not
controlling, funny, yet serious when needed, who doesn't
abuse substances, who works full time and can take care of
himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but
not smothering?
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need
to question the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I
being paranoid?
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond
friendship at this point and if a guy gets to friendly I
start to feel panic settle in and I shut down, cut off
communication, drop off the face of the earth, make excuses
after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and
it's not a very pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
you're asking for a lot there...
even joe doesn't make the list (functional alcoholic issues).
other than that, he's a great guy. he did completely fit the
bill when i met him, but you aren't looking for a 19-yr-old.
-lisa
I already have on, and he's my son :o(
ok expectations are too high then
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| User: "J D" |
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12 Mar 2006 03:47:50 PM |
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What about just a nice guy who will treat you kindly?
"The mind is its own place, and of itself / Can make a Heaven of Hell, a
Hell of Heaven,"
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| User: "Franz Bestuchev" |
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12 Mar 2006 06:48:11 PM |
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Jane wrote:
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
I think that's probably a good thing for a while.
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| User: "Tim Kett" |
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12 Mar 2006 10:13:58 PM |
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Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
My Dads Dad was like all of above while grandma was around. He has been
dead 12 years now. But, He progressed to full blown alchoholic after my
dads mom died, but before that didnt drink much at all.
I dont know what my dad was like, he died when I was 5, but he came
from good level-headed decent stock.
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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12 Mar 2006 03:49:29 PM |
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Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
Yes, there is. And according to the Nicene-Constantinopolitan Creed, He
will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead, and His
Kingdom shall have no end. But from what I hear, He's also a confirmed
bachelor.
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question the
reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at this
point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle in and I
shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the earth, make
excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
Your track record has made you paranoid. You've long seemed to be
attracted to toxic people. No wonder you get nervous.
I'm the same way, obviously. That's part of why I've taken a supremely
long sabbatical from the dating scene. I don't trust my own choices. I
figure anybody who's attracted to me must be a colossal head case...just
like me, more or less.
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| User: "Bacon" |
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12 Mar 2006 04:48:19 PM |
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Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
guys like that are probably already married to beautiful supermodel
types or are gay
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| User: "" |
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12 Mar 2006 09:48:42 PM |
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On Sun, 12 Mar 2006 15:48:37 -0500, "Jane"
<jarsenal66nospam@hotmail.com> wrote:
->A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny, yet
->serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full time and
->can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things for him, but
->doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but not smothering?
Sure there are. They don't go out with me! :P
I'll overlook a lot of faults if he has... eh, stamina and uh... lots
of enthusiasm. Size does _not_ matter. Screamer a huge plus (only
had one of those, damn was it hot!).
Mama's Boys, slackers, dopers/drunks, bad hygiene and abusers = deal
breakers.
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Consider all my posts spoilered for language.
I have no taste and I learned how to swear from my mother.
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| User: "Ivan Marsh" |
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13 Mar 2006 12:27:17 PM |
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On Sun, 12 Mar 2006 15:48:37 -0500, Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny,
yet serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full
time and can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things
for him, but doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but
not smothering?
Yes. I'm right here. Unfortunately I don't go outside much anymore.
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question
the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
No. I can't imagine why anyone would want anything to do with me.
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at this
point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle in and
I shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the earth, make
excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
Should we start a club?
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The USA Patriot Act is the most unpatriotic act in American history.
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| User: "Jane" |
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13 Mar 2006 05:52:18 PM |
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"Ivan Marsh" <annoyed@you.now> wrote in message
news:pan.2006.03.13.18.27.17.308755@you.now...
On Sun, 12 Mar 2006 15:48:37 -0500, Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny,
yet serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full
time and can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things
for him, but doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but
not smothering?
Yes. I'm right here. Unfortunately I don't go outside much anymore.
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question
the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
No. I can't imagine why anyone would want anything to do with me.
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at this
point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle in and
I shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the earth, make
excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
Should we start a club?
Yeah!!! What should we call it?
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| User: "Ivan Marsh" |
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14 Mar 2006 11:43:40 AM |
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On Mon, 13 Mar 2006 18:52:18 -0500, Jane wrote:
"Ivan Marsh" <annoyed@you.now> wrote in message
news:pan.2006.03.13.18.27.17.308755@you.now...
On Sun, 12 Mar 2006 15:48:37 -0500, Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling,
funny, yet serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who
works full time and can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady
does things for him, but doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving,
attentive but not smothering?
Yes. I'm right here. Unfortunately I don't go outside much anymore.
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question
the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
No. I can't imagine why anyone would want anything to do with me.
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at
this point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle
in and I shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the
earth, make excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a
very pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
Should we start a club?
Yeah!!! What should we call it?
The IYWMYMHSSWWY of course (If you want me you must have something
seriously wrong with you).
I'm not quite sure how to pronounce it though.
--
The USA Patriot Act is the most unpatriotic act in American history.
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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13 Mar 2006 02:56:29 PM |
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Ivan Marsh wrote:
On Sun, 12 Mar 2006 15:48:37 -0500, Jane wrote:
A well rounded guy (not girth) who is strong but not controlling, funny,
yet serious when needed, who doesn't abuse substances, who works full
time and can take care of himself, but likes it if his lady does things
for him, but doesn't expect it, who is secure but loving, attentive but
not smothering?
Yes. I'm right here. Unfortunately I don't go outside much anymore.
Why is it when I'm attracted to a guy, I now feel the need to question
the reason why they are attracted to me? Am I being paranoid?
No. I can't imagine why anyone would want anything to do with me.
I am just too afraid to even attempt anything beyond friendship at this
point and if a guy gets to friendly I start to feel panic settle in and
I shut down, cut off communication, drop off the face of the earth, make
excuses after excuse why I am unavailable.
I think my track record has finally opened my eyes, and it's not a very
pretty picture I'm afraid :o(
Should we start a club?
No, thanks. I, like Groucho, don't wanna belong to any club that'd have
someone like me as a member.
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| User: "Ivan Marsh" |
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13 Mar 2006 03:50:44 PM |
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On Mon, 13 Mar 2006 20:56:29 +0000, Noon Cat Nick wrote:
Ivan Marsh wrote:
Should we start a club?
No, thanks. I, like Groucho, don't wanna belong to any club that'd have
someone like me as a member.
I think one of the requirements for membership would be that you're an
unwilling participant.
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The USA Patriot Act is the most unpatriotic act in American history.
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| User: "" |
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12 Mar 2006 07:57:09 PM |
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Sorry, he's married....to me. But I have to believe there are others
like him, otherwise what hope is there for my daughter?Bobbie
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