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it won't be the pain or the fear that does me in |
it will be the endless parade of pointless days without a soul to share
even the slightest accomplishment. it will be the horrible lonelyness.
it will be the 500 times a day i want to tell someone something and
there's no one there.
that's what will kill me. being rendered completely, utterly, and
absolutely irrelevant.
and all the while she's with another man, and i have simply ceased to
exist. i deserve at least to be remembered once in a while, but i'm sure
i don't even rate that.
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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08 Dec 2003 11:56:51 AM |
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"Scott" <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in message
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it will be the endless parade of pointless days without a soul to share
even the slightest accomplishment. it will be the horrible lonelyness.
it will be the 500 times a day i want to tell someone something and
there's no one there.
that's what will kill me. being rendered completely, utterly, and
absolutely irrelevant.
and all the while she's with another man, and i have simply ceased to
exist. i deserve at least to be remembered once in a while, but i'm sure
i don't even rate that.
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go out and find one that will remember
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| User: "Trishamolson" |
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08 Dec 2003 12:24:12 PM |
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go out and find one that will remember
Percent is right Scott, it may sound simple, but it is right.
Rosena
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| User: "Scott" |
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08 Dec 2003 12:53:59 PM |
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In article <20031208132412.21882.00000270@mb-m19.aol.com>,
(Trishamolson) wrote:
Percent is right Scott, it may sound simple, but it is right.
except for this little matter of still being in love, and not wanting to
lose the last 20 years of my life ... or even how to deal with it.
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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08 Dec 2003 02:59:30 PM |
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"Scott" <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in message
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In article <20031208132412.21882.00000270@mb-m19.aol.com>,
trishamolson@aol.com (Trishamolson) wrote:
Percent is right Scott, it may sound simple, but it is right.
except for this little matter of still being in love, and not wanting to
lose the last 20 years of my life ... or even how to deal with it.
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it's already gone and what are you doing besides losing more time now ?
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| User: "Scott" |
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08 Dec 2003 03:09:39 PM |
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In article <vt9phvqj70qp26@corp.supernews.com>, "%" <surfs@uniserve>
wrote:
it's already gone and what are you doing besides losing more time now ?
its fucking bad enough that i have to be made to feel worse by people
who are suppsosedly my family. i don't need it from you, too. your
little smartass answers not only aren't helpful they just make me feel
WORSE. you just don't have a clue what it's like. it's not gone, its
sitting there in my house staring at from the walls, it's in EVERY
SINGLE GODDANM MEMORY i have of the last 20 years of my life. you just
don't throw that out with the sour milk. it just can't be done.
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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08 Dec 2003 03:45:50 PM |
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"Scott" <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in message
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In article <vt9phvqj70qp26@corp.supernews.com>, "%" <surfs@uniserve>
wrote:
it's already gone and what are you doing besides losing more time now ?
its fucking bad enough that i have to be made to feel worse by people
who are suppsosedly my family. i don't need it from you, too. your
little smartass answers not only aren't helpful they just make me feel
WORSE. you just don't have a clue what it's like. it's not gone, its
sitting there in my house staring at from the walls, it's in EVERY
SINGLE GODDANM MEMORY i have of the last 20 years of my life. you just
don't throw that out with the sour milk. it just can't be done.
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the first time it happend to me it was 19 yars ,
the second time it was 2 years ,
the third time it was 6 years ,
the fourth time it was 3 ears ,
the fith time it was 6 years ,
the sixth time it was 3 years ,
i am living with my seventh now ,
and it's coming up on six years,
don't try to tell me i don't know what it's like ,
i know all to well the feeling of lonely emptiness ,
and i also know the only way to get out of those feelings ,
and i'm trying to share that info with you ,
and as long as you keep posting woe is me she's gone ,
i'll keep telling you to go out and get another one ,
because that's the only thing that's going to come anywhere near relieving
your pain and sorrow
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| User: "Scott" |
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08 Dec 2003 03:57:51 PM |
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In article <vt9s8s37rtu91@corp.supernews.com>, "%" <surfs@uniserve>
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and as long as you keep posting woe is me she's gone ,
i'll keep telling you to go out and get another one ,
well if i have to choose between not posting my honest feelings and
being subjected to your mean hurtful comments then i guess ill just stop.
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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08 Dec 2003 04:28:19 PM |
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"Scott" <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in message
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In article <vt9s8s37rtu91@corp.supernews.com>, "%" <surfs@uniserve>
wrote:
and as long as you keep posting woe is me she's gone ,
i'll keep telling you to go out and get another one ,
well if i have to choose between not posting my honest feelings and
being subjected to your mean hurtful comments then i guess ill just stop.
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well i'm sorry you don't like my honest feelings in response to your honest
feelings ,
but life can be like that , sometimes people tell us what's best instead of
what we want to hear
i hope one day you try what i've suggested and you get out and do things ,
it will really help and i think you know this but are a little unsure of
where to begin ,
good luck and good dating
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| User: "Lynda" |
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08 Dec 2003 11:59:13 PM |
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Scott~
i was with a man for 10 years (2 living together 8 married) he had
countless affairs i would leave and go on with my life he would come ask
for another chance and it would all repeat itself well the last time he
left he had a 17 yr old girl pregnant i had no choice but to hold my
head high, get a divorce and move on. No its not easy in the 10 yrs we
were together lets see he caused me to become anerxic (i weighed 118 and
was 5'5 was i fat no but he convinced me i was), he caused me to have a
mental breakdown, because of my being anerxic it took all the calcuim
out of my body which in turn cause me to have a bone disease which in
the long run i had teeth just falling out of my mouth because my jaw
bone was shrinking which in turn caused me to have to get dentures but
guess what because of my bone disease in my jaw bone i will never be
able to wear bottom dentures. so yes a person can make theirselves sick
and almost die over another person. and no matter what you think that
other person is not WORTH IT...........he is sitting back now w/ his now
18 yr old girlfriend and their 7 month old baby living the high life and
guess who is living in hell YEP ME, because i let him get to me all
those years.....well i am trying to do better, i now weigh 112 i do not
feel i am fat, i try to take one day at a time and not get stressed out
over life like i did once upon a time but i am the one who has to look
in the mirror and say hey lady you did it to yourself. do i hate
myself no, but i wish i could go back in time believe me after affair
number 3 (that is the first time i moved out) when he came knocking at
the door i should of shut the door and never opened it for him again.
Scott in time this pain will go away really it wil. i wish you all the
luck in the world learning to deal with it.......Lynda
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| User: "% surfs@uniserve" |
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09 Dec 2003 12:09:52 AM |
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"Lynda" <homdepo20@webtv.net> wrote in message
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Scott~
i was with a man for 10 years (2 living together 8 married) he had
countless affairs i would leave and go on with my life he would come ask
for another chance and it would all repeat itself well the last time he
left he had a 17 yr old girl pregnant i had no choice but to hold my
head high, get a divorce and move on. No its not easy in the 10 yrs we
were together lets see he caused me to become anerxic (i weighed 118 and
was 5'5 was i fat no but he convinced me i was), he caused me to have a
mental breakdown, because of my being anerxic it took all the calcuim
out of my body which in turn cause me to have a bone disease which in
the long run i had teeth just falling out of my mouth because my jaw
bone was shrinking which in turn caused me to have to get dentures but
guess what because of my bone disease in my jaw bone i will never be
able to wear bottom dentures. so yes a person can make theirselves sick
and almost die over another person. and no matter what you think that
other person is not WORTH IT...........he is sitting back now w/ his now
18 yr old girlfriend and their 7 month old baby living the high life and
guess who is living in hell YEP ME, because i let him get to me all
those years.....well i am trying to do better, i now weigh 112 i do not
feel i am fat, i try to take one day at a time and not get stressed out
over life like i did once upon a time but i am the one who has to look
in the mirror and say hey lady you did it to yourself. do i hate
myself no, but i wish i could go back in time believe me after affair
number 3 (that is the first time i moved out) when he came knocking at
the door i should of shut the door and never opened it for him again.
Scott in time this pain will go away really it wil. i wish you all the
luck in the world learning to deal with it.......Lynda
see , i told you , get out Dude ,
go be active , if anything it will drive the ex crazy ,
and , Lynda , you're my kind'a babe
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| User: "Lynda" |
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09 Dec 2003 11:16:35 PM |
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oh % please don't keep me in suspense what makes me your kinda babe~
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| User: "old coyote" |
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08 Dec 2003 01:24:43 PM |
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Scott <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in news:br2hc606l8
@enews3.newsguy.com:
In article <20031208132412.21882.00000270@mb-m19.aol.com>,
trishamolson@aol.com (Trishamolson) wrote:
Percent is right Scott, it may sound simple, but it is right.
except for this little matter of still being in love, and not wanting to
lose the last 20 years of my life ... or even how to deal with it.
She has left little room for choice.
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| User: "Whateverafter" |
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08 Dec 2003 12:54:44 PM |
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Subject: it won't be the pain or the fear that does me in
From: Scott
Date: 12/8/2003 11:29 AM Central America Standard Time
Message-id: <br2ccs0ei@enews3.newsguy.com>
it will be the endless parade of pointless days without a soul to share
even the slightest accomplishment. it will be the horrible lonelyness.
it will be the 500 times a day i want to tell someone something and
there's no one there.
that's what will kill me. being rendered completely, utterly, and
absolutely irrelevant.
and all the while she's with another man, and i have simply ceased to
exist. i deserve at least to be remembered once in a while, but i'm sure
i don't even rate that.
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I have to go somewhere in a few minutes, so I can't reply in the detail I
would like to right now. But it was very very painful when my husband left me
too. Never saw it coming not at all. I was pregnant with our second child.
A very emotional time. It was the worst kind of pain.
And because I didn't get over it for many, too many years, the rest of my
life was messed up too. Don't let that happen.
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| User: "" |
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08 Dec 2003 07:35:55 PM |
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On Mon, 08 Dec 2003 12:29:00 -0500, Scott
<swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote:
<(((*> and all the while she's with another man, and i have simply ceased to
<(((*> exist. i deserve at least to be remembered once in a while, but i'm sure
<(((*> i don't even rate that.
She would probably die before she'd admit it to you, but believe
me, she thinks of you more often than once a day.
Your task, and it's painful, is to learn not to think of her so
often. Give it time, it will happen. Not overnight, not in a week
or a month or possibly even a year. But it will happen.
Dave Percent's advice comes across to you right now as abrasive
and unsympathetic. I look at it, I remember how it felt when
certain of my love affairs and relationships came to an end. And
I repeat: Give it time. Time is the great healer.
(((((Scott)))))
Tara J. Ballance
Montreal, Canada
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| User: "zorn" |
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08 Dec 2003 01:26:27 PM |
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Took me six months just to get over the feeling that there was always
someone I could share the small accomplishments with. For six months I
automatically was shopping for two instead of just myself, experiencing the
loss each time I realized it (i.e. all the time). Two years in all to get
over her (somewhat), and begin building my life again.
Grab a beer with the guys (if applicable), go talk to some women that
deserve your attention.
You share this frustrating pain with loads of other people, in the past and
in the future, even though it may be hard to believe they felt as utterly
horrible. If I (and they) could get through it, so can you! But it is rough,
and even more so with a condition such as the threat of depression.
zorn
"Is very quiet in class"
"Scott" <swithrow@no.spam.newsguy.com> wrote in message
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it will be the endless parade of pointless days without a soul to share
even the slightest accomplishment. it will be the horrible lonelyness.
it will be the 500 times a day i want to tell someone something and
there's no one there.
that's what will kill me. being rendered completely, utterly, and
absolutely irrelevant.
and all the while she's with another man, and i have simply ceased to
exist. i deserve at least to be remembered once in a while, but i'm sure
i don't even rate that.
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