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"Max Stressed" |
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17 Jul 2004 03:50:55 PM |
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Leave of absence from work |
Hi, I've posted before and have appreciated all the feedback I've
received. When I last posted I was just married and felt really
overwhealmed and focused on everything negative. Since then my
outlook on marriage is getting better and I've been diagnosed manic
depressive with OCD and possibly adult ADD - quite a combination. I'm
on Lexapro, abilify, lamictal, and depakote.
I can't focus at work and have been in emotional pain at work and
every little thing they ask me to do just rips up my insides - I go
through this at least once daily at work. I don't want to do nothing
and be idle but it's the only way I can feel emotionally and mentally
ok. I also have feelings of being intensely judged, that I'm looked
badly upon because of my diminished feelings of well being. I really
feel like another gear in the machine - an unnecessary gear that's
unwanted.
So I spoke with my psychiatrist about a leave of abscence once, he
suggested the structure of work was good for me. So I hung in there.
When I described some of the things I was going through in more detail
- that I was in emotional pain, I wrote out what I had been
experiencing he immediately wrote me a prescription for LOA for 4-8
weeks.
I've already had one run in with someone from work who was seemed
critical about my 4-8 weeks and told me it was because of some factors
at work that were causing it. I agreed that additional stress at work
doesn't help but she was convinced she had it all figured out - with
no counseling training of course.
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
All this has been hellish on my wife so I appreciate her for not going
straight for a divorce. When I swing through my cycles It's almost
like being two different people.
Thanks for reading all this!
-Max S.
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| User: "No Kidding!" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 06:01:47 PM |
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I have OCD and work in a hospital. Back in 1990, I took off a month of work
(to go inpatient in a different hospital). Before I left, I had to tell my
boss. I also told my closest co-workers. I figured they would all be talking
about me behind my back anyway, so I'd rather them know the truth.
I wasn't about to quit, so I returned once my sick leave was over. My fears
about returning were worst than actually do it. My friends were still my
friends. I did get a few comments from a few well-meaning (but ignorant)
@ssholes, but that's life.
I had a relapse the following year, but otherwise I've been there 20 years
now with no major problems.
NK
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| User: "No Kidding!" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 06:34:49 PM |
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Sorry for the multiple postings. I have no idea why that happened. It wasn't
my OCD :).
NK
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| User: "No Kidding!" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 06:31:48 PM |
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Sorry for the multiple postings. I have no idea why that happened. It wasn't
my OCD :).
NK
"No Kidding!" <nokidding@ria.net.IF.YOU.SPAM.ME.YOU.SUCK.ROCKS> wrote in
message news:vdiKc.23246$mZ5.18468@newssvr27.news.prodigy.com...
I have OCD and work in a hospital. Back in 1990, I took off a month of
work
(to go inpatient in a different hospital). Before I left, I had to tell my
boss. I also told my closest co-workers. I figured they would all be
talking
about me behind my back anyway, so I'd rather them know the truth.
I wasn't about to quit, so I returned once my sick leave was over. My
fears
about returning were worst than actually do it. My friends were still my
friends. I did get a few comments from a few well-meaning (but ignorant)
@ssholes, but that's life.
I had a relapse the following year, but otherwise I've been there 20 years
now with no major problems.
NK
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| User: "No Kidding!" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 05:42:55 PM |
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I have OCD and work in a hospital. Back in 1990, I took off a month of work
(to go inpatient in a different hospital). Before I left, I had to tell my
boss. I also told my closest co-workers. I figured they would all be talking
about me behind my back anyway, so I'd rather them know the truth.
I wasn't about to quit, so I returned once my sick leave was over. My fears
about returning were worst than actually do it. My friends were still my
friends. I did get a few comments from a few well-meaning (but ignorant)
@ssholes, but that's life.
I had a relapse the following year, but otherwise I've been there 20 years
now with no major problems.
NK
"Max Stressed" <maxstressed-Google7452@writesoon.com> wrote in message
news:PigKc.11642$L97.2878@newssvr25.news.prodigy.com...
Hi, I've posted before and have appreciated all the feedback I've
received. When I last posted I was just married and felt really
overwhealmed and focused on everything negative. Since then my
outlook on marriage is getting better and I've been diagnosed manic
depressive with OCD and possibly adult ADD - quite a combination. I'm
on Lexapro, abilify, lamictal, and depakote.
I can't focus at work and have been in emotional pain at work and
every little thing they ask me to do just rips up my insides - I go
through this at least once daily at work. I don't want to do nothing
and be idle but it's the only way I can feel emotionally and mentally
ok. I also have feelings of being intensely judged, that I'm looked
badly upon because of my diminished feelings of well being. I really
feel like another gear in the machine - an unnecessary gear that's
unwanted.
So I spoke with my psychiatrist about a leave of abscence once, he
suggested the structure of work was good for me. So I hung in there.
When I described some of the things I was going through in more detail
- that I was in emotional pain, I wrote out what I had been
experiencing he immediately wrote me a prescription for LOA for 4-8
weeks.
I've already had one run in with someone from work who was seemed
critical about my 4-8 weeks and told me it was because of some factors
at work that were causing it. I agreed that additional stress at work
doesn't help but she was convinced she had it all figured out - with
no counseling training of course.
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
All this has been hellish on my wife so I appreciate her for not going
straight for a divorce. When I swing through my cycles It's almost
like being two different people.
Thanks for reading all this!
-Max S.
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| User: "No Kidding!" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 06:00:43 PM |
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I have OCD and work in a hospital. Back in 1990, I took off a month of work
(to go inpatient in a different hospital). Before I left, I had to tell my
boss. I also told my closest co-workers. I figured they would all be talking
about me behind my back anyway, so I'd rather them know the truth.
I wasn't about to quit, so I returned once my sick leave was over. My fears
about returning were worst than actually do it. My friends were still my
friends. I did get a few comments from a few well-meaning (but ignorant)
@ssholes, but that's life.
I had a relapse the following year, but otherwise I've been there 20 years
now with no major problems.
NK
"Max Stressed" <maxstressed-Google7452@writesoon.com> wrote in message
news:PigKc.11642$L97.2878@newssvr25.news.prodigy.com...
Hi, I've posted before and have appreciated all the feedback I've
received. When I last posted I was just married and felt really
overwhealmed and focused on everything negative. Since then my
outlook on marriage is getting better and I've been diagnosed manic
depressive with OCD and possibly adult ADD - quite a combination. I'm
on Lexapro, abilify, lamictal, and depakote.
I can't focus at work and have been in emotional pain at work and
every little thing they ask me to do just rips up my insides - I go
through this at least once daily at work. I don't want to do nothing
and be idle but it's the only way I can feel emotionally and mentally
ok. I also have feelings of being intensely judged, that I'm looked
badly upon because of my diminished feelings of well being. I really
feel like another gear in the machine - an unnecessary gear that's
unwanted.
So I spoke with my psychiatrist about a leave of abscence once, he
suggested the structure of work was good for me. So I hung in there.
When I described some of the things I was going through in more detail
- that I was in emotional pain, I wrote out what I had been
experiencing he immediately wrote me a prescription for LOA for 4-8
weeks.
I've already had one run in with someone from work who was seemed
critical about my 4-8 weeks and told me it was because of some factors
at work that were causing it. I agreed that additional stress at work
doesn't help but she was convinced she had it all figured out - with
no counseling training of course.
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
All this has been hellish on my wife so I appreciate her for not going
straight for a divorce. When I swing through my cycles It's almost
like being two different people.
Thanks for reading all this!
-Max S.
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| User: "Caden" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
19 Jul 2004 05:07:31 PM |
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In alt.support.depression.manic.moderated Max Stressed <maxstressed-Google7452@writesoon.com> wrote:
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
Tell coworkers that you left for "personal family reasons."
They will come up with their own ideas. Sick grandmother. Marriage
counseling. Had to plow the back 40. State it matter-of-factly and
drop or change the conversation promptly. If they press, repeat it
and get out of there.
I would not disclose the diagnosis to anyone unless your job is
at jeopardy if you don't.
If you have to tell someone, make sure they can help you if you do.
Don't tell Jill in accounting if she has no influence to protect
you. Kind of obvious, but often missed in emotional states.
My boss knows at my job. He's a very kind soul, very sympathetic,
very accomodating to sick days. I've worked here for 7 years. I
told him at the 4 year mark, when I felt a dramatic mood swing
jeopardized my job.
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| User: "RubyCaroyn" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
19 Jul 2004 09:28:53 PM |
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I have to agree about not telling people at work except on those on a need
to know basis. I told people at my job and was penalized. AND I work in
mental health. All it did was give the gossips something to talk about.
--
Ruby
In most states the penalty for an adult who rapes a child is twenty years
plus-UNLESS that adult happens to be related to the child-in which case the
maximum sentence could be PROBATION
"Caden" <caden@sdsu.edu> wrote in message
news:DCXKc.12659$aI5.121@newssvr25.news.prodigy.com...
In alt.support.depression.manic.moderated Max Stressed
<maxstressed-Google7452@writesoon.com> wrote:
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
Tell coworkers that you left for "personal family reasons."
They will come up with their own ideas. Sick grandmother. Marriage
counseling. Had to plow the back 40. State it matter-of-factly and
drop or change the conversation promptly. If they press, repeat it
and get out of there.
I would not disclose the diagnosis to anyone unless your job is
at jeopardy if you don't.
If you have to tell someone, make sure they can help you if you do.
Don't tell Jill in accounting if she has no influence to protect
you. Kind of obvious, but often missed in emotional states.
My boss knows at my job. He's a very kind soul, very sympathetic,
very accomodating to sick days. I've worked here for 7 years. I
told him at the 4 year mark, when I felt a dramatic mood swing
jeopardized my job.
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| User: "Whiskers" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
18 Jul 2004 12:06:09 PM |
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On Sat, 17 Jul 2004 20:50:55 +0000,
(Max Stressed) wrote:
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So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people to
save face for myself? Or should I just be outright honest and say I'm a
manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble managing my
illness so my Doc put me on LOA. Should I seriously consider not
returning to work or getting a different job? My counseling therapist
seems to indicate I may not be able to return to work, (or that job) but
I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make any big decisions.
Presumably your boss, or the personnel dept., know why you are away. For
those who don't need to know, I'd play it by ear. Some workplace cultures
are more understanding of disability or 'difference' than others - and so
are some people.
All this has been hellish on my wife so I appreciate her for not going
straight for a divorce. When I swing through my cycles It's almost like
being two different people.
Partners can have a hard time :((
--
-- ^^^^^^^^^^
-- Whiskers
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| User: "wombn" |
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| Title: Re: Leave of absence from work |
17 Jul 2004 08:49:56 PM |
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On Sat, 17 Jul 2004 20:50:55 GMT,
(Max Stressed) wrote:
So when I return to work anyone have any advice what I can tell people
to save face for myself?
That you were caring for a family member, or recovering from a
terrible illness. And if they ask you what illness, just say, "It's
not something I'm up to discussing yet."
Or should I just be outright honest and say
I'm a manic depressive and have been having a great deal of trouble
managing my illness so my Doc put me on LOA.
*I* would not. But then, I had a very bad experience with that.
Should I seriously
consider not returning to work or getting a different job? My
counseling therapist seems to indicate I may not be able to return to
work, (or that job) but I'm still very unstable so I shouldn't make
any big decisions.
This I would not know.
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