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Sociology > Depression |
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"Steph" |
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04 Dec 2006 02:15:32 PM |
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Looking for some help |
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this group. I'm hopping someone here can help me. My
boyfriend has a history of depression. When I met him he was going
through a depression but I never gave it much thought. We moved in
together about 8 months later and have now been together over 4 years.
Durring this time we have had so many ups and downs. To make a very
long story short, he is going through another depression now. I don't
really know what has brought it on, I ask but he doesn't like to talk
about it. It's been going on now for almost 2 months and I'm honestly
at a lose as to what to do. He is rude, gets mad when I ask him
questions. He doesn't help financially at all, nothing, not a cent. I
support him, and my daughter (not his). I want so much to be
supportive and not to judge, but it's getting really hard. All I want
is for him to see a doctor. I don't think I'm being to pushy. I'm
someone who needs some answers, and he just can't give them to me. I
don't want to leave him, but I'm slowly loosing respect for him. He
won't look at me in the eye when I talk to him, he answers questions
when he feels like it, he's not working and not looking to do anything
about is financial situation. I'm sorry for venting, I just don't know
where to go. I am going to speak with my family doctor later this
week. Does anyone have any type of information or advice for me?
Thanks for listening
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: Looking for some help |
04 Dec 2006 02:39:04 PM |
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"Steph" <aubin_stephanie@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1165263332.044161.150970@n67g2000cwd.googlegroups.com...
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this group. I'm hopping someone here can help me. My
boyfriend has a history of depression. When I met him he was going
through a depression but I never gave it much thought. We moved in
together about 8 months later and have now been together over 4 years.
Durring this time we have had so many ups and downs. To make a very
long story short, he is going through another depression now. I don't
really know what has brought it on, I ask but he doesn't like to talk
about it. It's been going on now for almost 2 months and I'm honestly
at a lose as to what to do. He is rude, gets mad when I ask him
questions. He doesn't help financially at all, nothing, not a cent. I
support him, and my daughter (not his). I want so much to be
supportive and not to judge, but it's getting really hard. All I want
is for him to see a doctor. I don't think I'm being to pushy. I'm
someone who needs some answers, and he just can't give them to me. I
don't want to leave him, but I'm slowly loosing respect for him. He
won't look at me in the eye when I talk to him, he answers questions
when he feels like it, he's not working and not looking to do anything
about is financial situation. I'm sorry for venting, I just don't know
where to go. I am going to speak with my family doctor later this
week. Does anyone have any type of information or advice for me?
Thanks for listening
you can't help if he don't want help
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| User: "scorpsmurf" |
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| Title: Re: Looking for some help |
04 Dec 2006 02:24:08 PM |
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Steph wrote:
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this group. I'm hopping someone here can help me. My
boyfriend has a history of depression. When I met him he was going
through a depression but I never gave it much thought. We moved in
together about 8 months later and have now been together over 4 years.
Durring this time we have had so many ups and downs. To make a very
long story short, he is going through another depression now. I don't
really know what has brought it on, I ask but he doesn't like to talk
about it. It's been going on now for almost 2 months and I'm honestly
at a lose as to what to do. He is rude, gets mad when I ask him
questions. He doesn't help financially at all, nothing, not a cent. I
support him, and my daughter (not his). I want so much to be
supportive and not to judge, but it's getting really hard. All I want
is for him to see a doctor. I don't think I'm being to pushy. I'm
someone who needs some answers, and he just can't give them to me. I
don't want to leave him, but I'm slowly loosing respect for him. He
won't look at me in the eye when I talk to him, he answers questions
when he feels like it, he's not working and not looking to do anything
about is financial situation. I'm sorry for venting, I just don't know
where to go. I am going to speak with my family doctor later this
week. Does anyone have any type of information or advice for me?
Thanks for listening
Sounds like he needs help, but nothing you say is going to push him to
that. He needs to realize this on his own. Perhaps seperating from
him for a while might give him the push he needs to get help.
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| User: "Steph" |
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| Title: Re: Looking for some help |
04 Dec 2006 02:41:08 PM |
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scorpsmurf wrote:
Steph wrote:
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this group. I'm hopping someone here can help me. My
boyfriend has a history of depression. When I met him he was going
through a depression but I never gave it much thought. We moved in
together about 8 months later and have now been together over 4 years.
Durring this time we have had so many ups and downs. To make a very
long story short, he is going through another depression now. I don't
really know what has brought it on, I ask but he doesn't like to talk
about it. It's been going on now for almost 2 months and I'm honestly
at a lose as to what to do. He is rude, gets mad when I ask him
questions. He doesn't help financially at all, nothing, not a cent. I
support him, and my daughter (not his). I want so much to be
supportive and not to judge, but it's getting really hard. All I want
is for him to see a doctor. I don't think I'm being to pushy. I'm
someone who needs some answers, and he just can't give them to me. I
don't want to leave him, but I'm slowly loosing respect for him. He
won't look at me in the eye when I talk to him, he answers questions
when he feels like it, he's not working and not looking to do anything
about is financial situation. I'm sorry for venting, I just don't know
where to go. I am going to speak with my family doctor later this
week. Does anyone have any type of information or advice for me?
Thanks for listening
Sounds like he needs help, but nothing you say is going to push him to
that. He needs to realize this on his own. Perhaps seperating from
him for a while might give him the push he needs to get help.
Thanks for responding,
That wouldn't make him feel like I've abandoned him? I don't want him
to feel alone, even though I know he does. I have been thinking of
asking him to leave, but I don't want him to think it's because I don't
love him. I just want him, like you said, to realize there's a real
problem. He does know there's a problem, more I want him to realize
it's time to do something about it.
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| User: "scorpsmurf" |
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| Title: Re: Looking for some help |
05 Dec 2006 12:30:05 PM |
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Steph wrote:
scorpsmurf wrote:
Steph wrote:
Hello everyone,
I'm new to this group. I'm hopping someone here can help me. My
boyfriend has a history of depression. When I met him he was going
through a depression but I never gave it much thought. We moved in
together about 8 months later and have now been together over 4 years.
Durring this time we have had so many ups and downs. To make a very
long story short, he is going through another depression now. I don't
really know what has brought it on, I ask but he doesn't like to talk
about it. It's been going on now for almost 2 months and I'm honestly
at a lose as to what to do. He is rude, gets mad when I ask him
questions. He doesn't help financially at all, nothing, not a cent. I
support him, and my daughter (not his). I want so much to be
supportive and not to judge, but it's getting really hard. All I want
is for him to see a doctor. I don't think I'm being to pushy. I'm
someone who needs some answers, and he just can't give them to me. I
don't want to leave him, but I'm slowly loosing respect for him. He
won't look at me in the eye when I talk to him, he answers questions
when he feels like it, he's not working and not looking to do anything
about is financial situation. I'm sorry for venting, I just don't know
where to go. I am going to speak with my family doctor later this
week. Does anyone have any type of information or advice for me?
Thanks for listening
Sounds like he needs help, but nothing you say is going to push him to
that. He needs to realize this on his own. Perhaps seperating from
him for a while might give him the push he needs to get help.
Thanks for responding,
That wouldn't make him feel like I've abandoned him? I don't want him
to feel alone, even though I know he does. I have been thinking of
asking him to leave, but I don't want him to think it's because I don't
love him. I just want him, like you said, to realize there's a real
problem. He does know there's a problem, more I want him to realize
it's time to do something about it.
Sure he'll feel like you're abandoning him, but you need to reassure
him that you are doing this because you DO love him, that you WANT to
see him get the help he so desperately needs, but you CAN'T continue to
hold his hand all the time. Good Luck!
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