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"neoholistic" |
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17 Oct 2003 07:51:31 PM |
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My brother's pet has just died. |
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A few minutes ago, right at his side :(
Actually, he was his ex-girfriend's pet (a really cute rabbit), but since she lived at her parents and they wouldn't allow another pet at their home (they've got a cat already), he had to 'move in' with him.
I always thought it had been a bad idea, because his ex is rather whimsical, she fancies something and then looses all interest in it, and also because somehow I knew that the pet would outlive their relationship.
They agreed for her to take care of Tambor (the rabbit), but after a while she lost interest (oh, surprise), and it became my brother's responsability. Not that he's ever taken that concept seriously in his life, but at least the animal was fed, had fresh water and was taken to the vet more or less periodically. He lived in a (large) cage, as he would eat everything on sight if left free (especially furniture!), but I didn't like the idea of him staying inside it all the time, so I suggested that he slept in the bathroom at night, so that he could enjoy a bit more space (he could even have small runs there).
But of course my brother would not devote as much attention to him as he should, and many nights he simply forgot, or didn't bother, to put him inside the bathroom. So sometimes he spent days inside his cage.
But my overall impression is that the poor fellow was too lonely. My brother would seldom put him inside his room with him because he complained that the cage was too large, so during the day he was usually left in a corridor (though he had some natural sunlight in the morning). And during the night he was alone in the bathroom. My brother never seemed to have any time to spend with him.
Myself, I could have taken care of him, but I told my brother he should learn to solve his own problems (he's too irresponsible) and I didn't. Did I do the right thing? I've no idea. I don't think it matters anymore, anyway.
He was a cute, curious fellow; timid at first, but then he would gain confidence and would run towards strangers, standing for a moment on his rear legs, and then he would get scared and run away, only to repeat the cycle again.
I will miss him, and I know my brother will, too. I'm not so sure about his ex, though.
Now I'm thinking about my dog, he's close to the end. Just what I needed at the end of a lousy day.
As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough :(
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| User: "sabra" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
17 Oct 2003 10:18:12 PM |
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As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough :(
They are with us for so short a time. I've lost several.
Sory, neo.
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sabra <sabra@hod.aarg.net>
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| User: "Teilhard Knight" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
18 Oct 2003 06:32:38 AM |
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As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough :(
I fear for Sir Yoda. I see his end quite near. I'm going to be miserable
when he goes. He cannot be replaced by any other dog. What I do now is to
enjoy him as much as I can and at every moment.
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Teilhard Knight
The Extraterrestrial
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| User: "Wrecking Ball" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
18 Oct 2003 06:49:40 AM |
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Teilhard Knight wrote:
As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough :(
I fear for Sir Yoda. I see his end quite near. I'm going to be miserable
when he goes. He cannot be replaced by any other dog. What I do now is to
enjoy him as much as I can and at every moment.
That is all you can do Teil. It is tough facing something inevitable. I
went through that with my dog. The toughest decision is knowing when to
put down. I have a picture of him on my mantle--he was a great dog.
Always knew when I needed cheering up :) Your doing the right
thing--simply enjoy each others time. I remember my dog was on a very
strict diet towards the end. And when the inevitable was starting I
gave him everything to eat--steak, etc. I am not going to talk
premature,,but we will all be here for you when the time comes. Now go
curl up in bed with Sir Yoda! :)
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| User: "Teilhard Knight" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
18 Oct 2003 07:16:06 AM |
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"Wrecking Ball" <j39s89384d@yahoo.com> wrote in message
news:oN9kb.2091$W16.1151@newsread2.news.atl.earthlink.net...
Teilhard Knight wrote:
As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough
:(
I fear for Sir Yoda. I see his end quite near. I'm going to be miserable
when he goes. He cannot be replaced by any other dog. What I do now is
to
enjoy him as much as I can and at every moment.
That is all you can do Teil. It is tough facing something inevitable. I
went through that with my dog. The toughest decision is knowing when to
put down. I have a picture of him on my mantle--he was a great dog.
Always knew when I needed cheering up :) Your doing the right
thing--simply enjoy each others time. I remember my dog was on a very
strict diet towards the end. And when the inevitable was starting I
gave him everything to eat--steak, etc. I am not going to talk
premature,,but we will all be here for you when the time comes. Now go
curl up in bed with Sir Yoda! :)
I am doing the same. His vet says what he eats is the worse thing I can give
him (pedigree for small races). But he likes it so much that I think it is
fair that he lives his last time enjoying. I have given him what the vet
wants him to eat and he doesn't like it.
He also wants to go with me wherever I go. My ex never entered a place with
the dog. But I take him with me and just keep him in my arms when I enter. I
have banked and done a lot of shopping with him. Of course I never take him
where food is served. This is something I like of Mexico.
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Teilhard Knight
The Extraterrestrial
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| User: "wombn" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
18 Oct 2003 12:26:50 AM |
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On Sat, 18 Oct 2003 00:51:31 GMT, neoholistic <ekqbwpo@terra.es>
wrote:
As Wombn said to me a few days ago, they simply don't live long enough :(
nod
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If laughter is the best medicine,
then kittens should be covered by our health insurance. :-)
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| User: "CyberDroog" |
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20 Oct 2003 01:45:15 PM |
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On Sat, 18 Oct 2003 00:51:31 GMT, neoholistic <ekqbwpo@terra.es> wrote:
A few minutes ago, right at his side :(
That just happened to my father. Precious (cat) was just laying by his
side on the couch and didn't wake up.
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LABOR, n. One of the processes by which A acquires property for B.
- Ambrose Bierce
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| User: "wombn" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
20 Oct 2003 03:20:32 PM |
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On Mon, 20 Oct 2003 18:45:15 GMT, CyberDroog
<CyberDroog@starfleet.gov> wrote:
On Sat, 18 Oct 2003 00:51:31 GMT, neoholistic <ekqbwpo@terra.es> wrote:
A few minutes ago, right at his side :(
That just happened to my father. Precious (cat) was just laying by his
side on the couch and didn't wake up.
that's how I want to die. In my sleep, cuddled up with my loved one.
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If laughter is the best medicine,
then kittens should be covered by our health insurance. :-)
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| User: "Tracy Barber" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
20 Oct 2003 04:35:18 PM |
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On Mon, 20 Oct 2003 18:45:15 GMT, CyberDroog
<CyberDroog@starfleet.gov> wrote:
On Sat, 18 Oct 2003 00:51:31 GMT, neoholistic <ekqbwpo@terra.es> wrote:
A few minutes ago, right at his side :(
That just happened to my father. Precious (cat) was just laying by his
side on the couch and didn't wake up.
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I've seen my friend's "Spaz" before she was put down. She was hanging
out all over us for attention and loving. We gave it to her until the
vdoc told us it was her time to go. I still remember those last days.
It's always tough to see a family member, whether 2 or four legged,
pass on in front of us.
Tracy Barber
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| User: "sabra" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. BEWARE: TRIGGERS |
20 Oct 2003 08:43:22 PM |
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Two of the saddest moments in my life were the decisions to have
best friends "put down." Euphemisms! It didn't help me much that
they were in pain and this was the only way to end their
suffering. I still feel like I failed them, somehow.
Once in a while, I still wonder "If that's what they needed, why
not . . ." But, I have four little friends I'm responsible for,
and they try to take care of me. :-) So, you'll have to put up
with me a while longer - sorry!
sabra <sabra@hod.aarg.net> or <sabra@blackhole.riot.eu.org>
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| User: "Tracy Barber" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. BEWARE: TRIGGERS |
20 Oct 2003 08:48:21 PM |
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On 21 Oct 2003 01:43:22 -0000,
(sabra) wrote:
Two of the saddest moments in my life were the decisions to have
best friends "put down." Euphemisms! It didn't help me much that
they were in pain and this was the only way to end their
suffering. I still feel like I failed them, somehow.
That's the tough part. Our mortality, as seen through a loved one.
Once in a while, I still wonder "If that's what they needed, why
not . . ." But, I have four little friends I'm responsible for,
and they try to take care of me. :-) So, you'll have to put up
with me a while longer - sorry!
Got 3, myself amd much's the same. :^)
Tracy Barber
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| User: "sabra" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. BEWARE: TRIGGERS |
20 Oct 2003 10:16:10 PM |
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That's the tough part. Our mortality, as seen through a loved one.
Yeah.
Got 3, myself amd much's the same. :^)
All cats? I have two cats and two dogs. So, as always for me, I
live in an "armed camp." :-) I love them all, though, even
though they don't love each other.
sabra <sabra@hod.aarg.net> or <sabra@blackhole.riot.eu.org>
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| User: "neoholistic" |
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| Title: Re: My brother's pet has just died. |
18 Oct 2003 08:56:15 PM |
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[Reposting - 3nd try]
Thanks to all of you who replied. I was feeling rather depressed yesterday, and the poor fellow dying was simply the drop that made the water run over the glass (what's the english version of that, BTW? I translated it verbatim from spanish).
My brother couldn't speak to his ex last night, so he sent her an email. This morning he phoned her to tell her personally. She said: "I'm sorry for the rabbit, but I'm glad because it forced you to phone me".
Some people never change. Oh, well.
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