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Sociology > Depression |
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"Jane" |
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16 Nov 2006 10:30:08 AM |
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My mom has Breast Cancer |
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
Jane
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| User: "mighty mouse" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 04:54:13 AM |
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"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1163694608.724068.140600@b28g2000cwb.googlegroups.com...
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
Jane
I'm sorry Jane....
I don't think there's any way you "should" feel or behave. You feel how you
feel and there's not much you can do about it except acknowledge the
feelings and see where they take you.
*hugs*
Kylie
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 07:44:23 AM |
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mighty mouse wrote:
"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1163694608.724068.140600@b28g2000cwb.googlegroups.com...
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
Jane
I'm sorry Jane....
I don't think there's any way you "should" feel or behave. You feel how you
feel and there's not much you can do about it except acknowledge the
feelings and see where they take you.
*hugs*
Kylie
I'm still not sure how I should feel... I mean I'm a bit numb,
concerned, scared, yet "oh well" I did talk to her finally in the
afternoon, she seems to be handling it pretty well, just scared, she's
on prozac/paxil can't remember which one, maybe that's helping her cope
I don't know.
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| User: "sbowman" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 12:22:11 PM |
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I'm glad you talked to her at least. AND I'm glad she's only in stage
1, that's good right? Just keep on keepin on and ASD is here for you
:-)
Shelley
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| User: "used2be" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
16 Nov 2006 03:07:48 PM |
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"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1163694608.724068.140600@b28g2000cwb.googlegroups.com...
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
that's really tough jane. i'm so sorry. :(
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 07:42:54 AM |
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used2be wrote:
"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1163694608.724068.140600@b28g2000cwb.googlegroups.com...
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
that's really tough jane. i'm so sorry. :(
Thanks U2B... I'm just really thankful I have ASD to talk to...
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| User: "Rebecca Jo" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
16 Nov 2006 11:58:56 AM |
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"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote:
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
Jane
Sorry, Jane. :( It's hard when people you love hurt.
rj
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 07:42:06 AM |
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Rebecca Jo wrote:
"Jane" <jarsenal66@hotmail.com> wrote:
For those of you who know my family history as I've posted it here many
times...
I'm not even sure what I feel. I'm sad for her (she's 2000 miles
away).
I want to cry, in fact I'm close to tears but feel angry for even
feeling anything, due to the abuse and abandonment I recieved from her.
I'm more upset because my sister was crying and my daughter and son are
upset. I don't want those I care about to be hurt.
I tried to call her (my mom) for the last hour but her line is busy,
just to see how she is mentally and if there is any reassurances I can
give her.
I don't know what to do or how I "should" be behaving.
Jane
Sorry, Jane. :( It's hard when people you love hurt.
rj
Thanks RJ, it was such a shock to everyone. I think what sucks the
most is ALWAYS having to be strong for everyone around me. I have to
SHUT off my emotions to hold up everyone, my sister, my brother, my
kids, aunts and of course my mom.
Jane
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| User: "sbowman" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
16 Nov 2006 11:38:39 AM |
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Hi Jane,
I feel for you. I don't have a good relationship with my mother either
and I know how you must be feeling. But, she is your mother and you
have to take that into consideration. And the fact that you are worried
about her mental state is a good thing, it shows that you are capable
of taking the high road here. I feel like if it were my mother I would
just be there for her in spite of the fact that she has not been there
for me. You'll end up feeling guilty if you don't reach out to her and
the guilt is much worse than any other feeling you may have right now.
Chin up, breast cancer is treatable (I hope she caught it early!). Let
us know what happens!
Shelley
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: My mom has Breast Cancer |
17 Nov 2006 07:39:57 AM |
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sbowman wrote:
Hi Jane,
I feel for you. I don't have a good relationship with my mother either
and I know how you must be feeling. But, she is your mother and you
have to take that into consideration. And the fact that you are worried
about her mental state is a good thing, it shows that you are capable
of taking the high road here. I feel like if it were my mother I would
just be there for her in spite of the fact that she has not been there
for me. You'll end up feeling guilty if you don't reach out to her and
the guilt is much worse than any other feeling you may have right now.
Chin up, breast cancer is treatable (I hope she caught it early!). Let
us know what happens!
Shelley
I will shelley. She sounded good, she said she's scared, I don't blame
her. She has Infiltrating (Invasive) Ductile Carcinoma. They feel
she's in Stage 1 by the preliminary test, but will be able to classify
her stage better after surgery. 11/27/06
Jane
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