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14 Dec 2005 08:17:36 AM |
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Need help for friend |
I need some advice from anyone who might know what to do in my
situation. A good friend of mine has, what I think to be some serious
depression problems, which has been magnified by drug abuse.
He has had a small illegal amphetamine and cocaine addiction that has
never been too out of control because he can never afford to buy
enough. Basically, he's 26 years old and lives in his parents basement.
He will do whatever drugs that anyone brings to him, but he has been
known to go for weeks without anything.
There is a history of mental illness in the family because his aunt has
severe manic disorders, but he doesn't really act manic. Instead, he
just acts lazy, as if he doesn't care. He does this to the point to
where you can literally kick him out on to the street and tell him to
shape up, but, instead, he'll just lay in the curb. Seriously. He
relies on so-called friends to rescue him whenever this happens. They
just take him back to their place, where they start drinking and doing
drugs again.
The idea of just throwing him out of the house so that he his forced to
make his own living doesn't work for several reasons: he always has
scumbag friends who bring him in to do more drugs and alcohol, he
doesn't ever lift a finger to do anything and he has a lameness about
him that is almost self-destructive.
I'm flabbergasted. I really don't know what to do. He's been in
drug/alcohol treatment several times and he's seen more psychiatrists
than Jeffrey Dahmer. I'd love to give him a well paying job to live
well for the rest of his life, but now I am afraid that he'll get
other employees hooked on dope. He's a mess, he never even say's
what he thinks. He doesn't speak much and he scares the crap out of
me because I am afraid that he's going to turn out to be a complete
mental case.
I just don't know how to help him. If anyone is interested in talking
to me, I would really appreciate it. There are specifics to his
condition that need to be mentioned, but to in-depth for this post and
I really need some third-party advice.
Thanks.
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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| Title: Re: Need help for friend |
14 Dec 2005 11:17:23 AM |
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wrote:
I need some advice from anyone who might know what to do in my
situation. A good friend of mine has, what I think to be some serious
depression problems, which has been magnified by drug abuse.
He has had a small illegal amphetamine and cocaine addiction that has
never been too out of control because he can never afford to buy
enough. Basically, he's 26 years old and lives in his parents basement.
He will do whatever drugs that anyone brings to him, but he has been
known to go for weeks without anything.
<snip>
No advice here (sorry), but I *am* kinda wondering...what do his parents
think/say/do about this?
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| User: "David" |
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| Title: Re: Need help for friend |
14 Dec 2005 11:00:41 AM |
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One thought I had might be to have him do a physical, and get the extra
bloodwork done to see if there is a medical cause for his depression.
Therapy might also be helpful. You could encourage him to attend a
support group for people with similar problems. If he seems board a lot
of the time, its possible for him to get a low stress job at places
like goodwill or others who provide employment for people with dual
diagnosis. Being around others with his type of condition might
encourage him to seek treatment for himself.
I hope this is helpful,
David
curtmorrison@yahoo.com wrote:
I need some advice from anyone who might know what to do in my
situation. A good friend of mine has, what I think to be some serious
depression problems, which has been magnified by drug abuse.
He has had a small illegal amphetamine and cocaine addiction that has
never been too out of control because he can never afford to buy
enough. Basically, he's 26 years old and lives in his parents basement.
He will do whatever drugs that anyone brings to him, but he has been
known to go for weeks without anything.
There is a history of mental illness in the family because his aunt has
severe manic disorders, but he doesn't really act manic. Instead, he
just acts lazy, as if he doesn't care. He does this to the point to
where you can literally kick him out on to the street and tell him to
shape up, but, instead, he'll just lay in the curb. Seriously. He
relies on so-called friends to rescue him whenever this happens. They
just take him back to their place, where they start drinking and doing
drugs again.
The idea of just throwing him out of the house so that he his forced to
make his own living doesn't work for several reasons: he always has
scumbag friends who bring him in to do more drugs and alcohol, he
doesn't ever lift a finger to do anything and he has a lameness about
him that is almost self-destructive.
I'm flabbergasted. I really don't know what to do. He's been in
drug/alcohol treatment several times and he's seen more psychiatrists
than Jeffrey Dahmer. I'd love to give him a well paying job to live
well for the rest of his life, but now I am afraid that he'll get
other employees hooked on dope. He's a mess, he never even say's
what he thinks. He doesn't speak much and he scares the crap out of
me because I am afraid that he's going to turn out to be a complete
mental case.
I just don't know how to help him. If anyone is interested in talking
to me, I would really appreciate it. There are specifics to his
condition that need to be mentioned, but to in-depth for this post and
I really need some third-party advice.
Thanks.
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| User: "Nom dePlume nomdeplume1000-at-yahoo.com" |
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| Title: Re: Need help for friend |
15 Dec 2005 12:03:35 AM |
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"David" <dav.drw@gmail.com> wrote in message
news:1134579641.860789.21650@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
One thought I had might be to have him do a physical, and get the
extra
bloodwork done to see if there is a medical cause for his
depression.
Therapy might also be helpful. You could encourage him to attend a
support group for people with similar problems. If he seems board a
lot
of the time, its possible for him to get a low stress job at places
like goodwill or others who provide employment for people with dual
diagnosis. Being around others with his type of condition might
encourage him to seek treatment for himself.
I hope this is helpful,
David
I like David's suggestions. I think they are worth following up, if
possible. I'll add that a checkup by an endocrinologist in particular
might be worth doing, if the guy has a hormone problem.
Now, though, I'm going to play Devil's Advocate for a moment, and ask
you this: Why is he your friend? You've described someone who seems to
have no redeeming features of any kind. It isn't very likely that you
can save him from himself, but it is likely that keeping him in your
life can cause you some serious grief. The quality of your life
matters, too, so I hope you aren't going to sacrifice it for someone
who doesn't want help and won't take it.
--
Nom dePlume, Ph.D.
Why, yes, in fact, I am a rocket scientist.
Guide to Medications for Mental Illness:
http://www.geocities.com/nomdeplume1000/
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