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Topic: Sociology > Depression
User: ""
Date: 01 Jul 2005 02:46:09 PM
Object: not comparing myself to others
that's something I always have trouble with. I want to learn to not
compare myself to other people,in whatever ways...What good does it do
to compare? Everyone is a unique person. the most important thing is
trying to be "yourself" as much as possible,though often it's hard to
know how to really do that...I've always had trouble with conflict,but
conflict is a part of life...I remember years ago,it would really upset
that everyone couldn't get along with each other...It's still makes me
sad often,though I'm sure it's inevitable...There are so many
differances between people,whether the differances are based on
personality,temperament,backround,race,religion,nationality,sexual
orientation,political,social differances...there are endless
differances between people...still,it always makes me happy when people
are able to go beyond that,to have a dialougue and try to focus on what
we have in common...It doesn't always work,frequently it doesn't,but
when it does it's a nice thing. I've noticed many times on ASD for
example,someone will say that they "don't like" someone,and then later
on they might start talking to each other...I always think that's a
nice thing....but everyone used to tell me,paticularly in 9th grade
that I should stop caring so much what people thought of me. I really
did care a lot.I guess the most important thing to work on is raising
your self esteem. I have the feeling that the more you like
yourself,the less important it is what other people think of you...I
often have trouble finding balance...in so many areas I'd like to find
a better sense of balance...I often try to do that,both here and in
other areas of my life,but it is a tough thing.I often go from one
extreme to the other,or go in circles...which can be helpful,but often
is not...it's just a strange world we live,a strange journey that we're
on...I wonder what the point is...who are we?what's the meaning of
life? how do you find balance? Is it important to be a "good" person?
what does it mean to be a "good" person? does it mean being a well
balanced perosn? I sometimes think that I'm an anti moralistic
moralist. It seems to me that there are so many
complex,ambiguous,unresolvable questions and problems in life...Maybe I
should try reading more...I do read,I've always enjoyed reading,but I
don't read enough,I'm not as self disciplined as I'd like to be,in many
areas...I guess it does no good to have regrets...when I look back at
the past,much of it is a blur,but I think that it's probably just pasrt
of life,part of being a person..everyone has problems in some form and
to some degree...I often feel sad that I wasn't working on all the
issues that I could have been working on back then...but maybe the
important thing is that I'm working on many of the issues now.better
late then never...
-"Alvintchase"
.

User: "Mad Season"

Title: Re: not comparing myself to others 01 Jul 2005 05:41:56 PM
<relayer211@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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that's something I always have trouble with. I want to learn to not
compare myself to other people,in whatever ways...What good does it do
to compare? Everyone is a unique person. the most important thing is
trying to be "yourself" as much as possible,though often it's hard to
know how to really do that...I've always had trouble with conflict,but
conflict is a part of life...I remember years ago,it would really upset
that everyone couldn't get along with each other...It's still makes me
sad often,though I'm sure it's inevitable...There are so many
differances between people,whether the differances are based on
personality,temperament,backround,race,religion,nationality,sexual
orientation,political,social differances...there are endless
differances between people...still,it always makes me happy when people
are able to go beyond that,to have a dialougue and try to focus on what
we have in common...It doesn't always work,frequently it doesn't,but
when it does it's a nice thing. I've noticed many times on ASD for
example,someone will say that they "don't like" someone,and then later
on they might start talking to each other...I always think that's a
nice thing....but everyone used to tell me,paticularly in 9th grade
that I should stop caring so much what people thought of me. I really
did care a lot.I guess the most important thing to work on is raising
your self esteem. I have the feeling that the more you like
yourself,the less important it is what other people think of you...I
often have trouble finding balance...in so many areas I'd like to find
a better sense of balance...I often try to do that,both here and in
other areas of my life,but it is a tough thing.I often go from one
extreme to the other,or go in circles...which can be helpful,but often
is not...it's just a strange world we live,a strange journey that we're
on...I wonder what the point is...who are we?what's the meaning of
life? how do you find balance? Is it important to be a "good" person?
what does it mean to be a "good" person? does it mean being a well
balanced perosn? I sometimes think that I'm an anti moralistic
moralist. It seems to me that there are so many
complex,ambiguous,unresolvable questions and problems in life...Maybe I
should try reading more...I do read,I've always enjoyed reading,but I
don't read enough,I'm not as self disciplined as I'd like to be,in many
areas...I guess it does no good to have regrets...when I look back at
the past,much of it is a blur,but I think that it's probably just pasrt
of life,part of being a person..everyone has problems in some form and
to some degree...I often feel sad that I wasn't working on all the
issues that I could have been working on back then...but maybe the
important thing is that I'm working on many of the issues now.better
late then never...

-"Alvintchase"

If you ever do feel like reading, I would recommend:
"Hero with a thousand faces" by Joseph Campbell, the great comparative
mythologist. Good stuff.
.

User: "Mad Season"

Title: Re: not comparing myself to others 01 Jul 2005 05:51:05 PM
<relayer211@hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:1120247169.631951.211040@g47g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...



that's something I always have trouble with. I want to learn to not
compare myself to other people,in whatever ways...What good does it do
to compare? Everyone is a unique person. the most important thing is
trying to be "yourself" as much as possible,though often it's hard to
know how to really do that...I've always had trouble with conflict,but
conflict is a part of life...I remember years ago,it would really upset
that everyone couldn't get along with each other...It's still makes me
sad often,though I'm sure it's inevitable...There are so many
differances between people,whether the differances are based on
personality,temperament,backround,race,religion,nationality,sexual
orientation,political,social differances...there are endless
differances between people...still,it always makes me happy when people
are able to go beyond that,to have a dialougue and try to focus on what
we have in common...It doesn't always work,frequently it doesn't,but
when it does it's a nice thing. I've noticed many times on ASD for
example,someone will say that they "don't like" someone,and then later
on they might start talking to each other...I always think that's a
nice thing....but everyone used to tell me,paticularly in 9th grade
that I should stop caring so much what people thought of me. I really
did care a lot.I guess the most important thing to work on is raising
your self esteem. I have the feeling that the more you like
yourself,the less important it is what other people think of you...I
often have trouble finding balance...in so many areas I'd like to find
a better sense of balance...I often try to do that,both here and in
other areas of my life,but it is a tough thing.I often go from one
extreme to the other,or go in circles...which can be helpful,but often
is not...it's just a strange world we live,a strange journey that we're
on...I wonder what the point is...who are we?what's the meaning of
life? how do you find balance? Is it important to be a "good" person?
what does it mean to be a "good" person? does it mean being a well
balanced perosn? I sometimes think that I'm an anti moralistic
moralist. It seems to me that there are so many
complex,ambiguous,unresolvable questions and problems in life...Maybe I
should try reading more...I do read,I've always enjoyed reading,but I
don't read enough,I'm not as self disciplined as I'd like to be,in many
areas...I guess it does no good to have regrets...when I look back at
the past,much of it is a blur,but I think that it's probably just pasrt
of life,part of being a person..everyone has problems in some form and
to some degree...I often feel sad that I wasn't working on all the
issues that I could have been working on back then...but maybe the
important thing is that I'm working on many of the issues now.better
late then never...

-"Alvintchase"

The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender,
religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep down inside,
we ALL believe that we are above-average drivers.
.


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