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"Rosena" |
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22 Jun 2005 07:05:56 PM |
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Okay I am Just Rattled |
Illinois wrote - they said I could defer coming for a year BUT the
whole financial aid package would be gone and reworked anew. There is
no guarantee I'd get the package I have now . . . and I haven't heard
from the law school about whether it could turn into permanent. But
even if they say maybe, that isn't a guarantee . . . EEK - It is nice
to have options, but this roll of the dice impacts Maria one way or the
other dramatically and it is that I am most worried about.
Okay . . .I say we give up Albany money and do grad school but write a
real nice letter to Albany saying I'd love to teach on tenure track
with them and apply to them during hiring season . . .
***** - I don't like this tension though I am grateful - very grateful
for options.
Rosena
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| User: "bunny" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 07:22:38 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote
even if they say maybe, that isn't a guarantee . . . EEK - It is nice
to have options, but this roll of the dice impacts Maria one way or the
other dramatically and it is that I am most worried about.
Would it help Maria to be able to start over scholastically in a new place?
Would a fresh start somewhere with no history of failure be encouraging for
her?
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 07:47:21 PM |
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Hi Bunny,
I thought that too. In Illinois none of her peers need know she was
held back, so it might be good - a fresh start as you say. I feel like
this is my fault. I am always working, getting ready for class, or
researching, and I do not stay on top of it like I should with her.
I am taking her this weekend to start guitar lessons so she has
something to be proud of. She did get an A in French and did well in
science and English.
Hope you are well.
Rosena
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| User: "bunny" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 08:28:41 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote
I thought that too. In Illinois none of her peers need know she was
held back, so it might be good - a fresh start as you say. I feel like
this is my fault. I am always working, getting ready for class, or
researching, and I do not stay on top of it like I should with her.
It's not your fault! My goodness! You've simply had too many things to
stay on top of this past year. You did the best you could; the best anyone
could do. The working and class prep and research you were doing was for
Maria, not just for you -- you've been working to secure her future. Maria
has *two* parents as well. It's probably no one's fault anyway -- this kind
of stuff happens even with bright kids and caring parents. You guys have
just had a stressful year. This is just a temporary setback for Maria. She
can catch up.
I am taking her this weekend to start guitar lessons so she has
something to be proud of. She did get an A in French and did well in
science and English.
This is wonderful! I had a rough time as a kid; I had no self-esteem at
all. My grandmother started me on guitar lessons when I was around Maria'a
age. It changed my life. You're right, it *will* give her something to be
proud of and love. If she likes it and keeps up with it, it will give her
entree to the world of artists. It changed everything for me. I'm excited
for you and Maria!
Hope you are well.
Thanks, love. I have a lot to be grateful for. And you, my dear, have much
to be proud of.
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 07:07:04 PM |
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"Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote in message
news:1119485155.944147.33240@g44g2000cwa.googlegroups.com...
Illinois wrote - they said I could defer coming for a year BUT the
whole financial aid package would be gone and reworked anew. There is
no guarantee I'd get the package I have now . . . and I haven't heard
from the law school about whether it could turn into permanent. But
even if they say maybe, that isn't a guarantee . . . EEK - It is nice
to have options, but this roll of the dice impacts Maria one way or the
other dramatically and it is that I am most worried about.
Okay . . .I say we give up Albany money and do grad school but write a
real nice letter to Albany saying I'd love to teach on tenure track
with them and apply to them during hiring season . . .
***** - I don't like this tension though I am grateful - very grateful
for options.
Rosena
is this my answer
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| User: "Nina" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 07:23:00 PM |
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On 22 Jun 2005 17:05:56 -0700, "Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote:
Illinois wrote - they said I could defer coming for a year BUT the
whole financial aid package would be gone and reworked anew. There is
no guarantee I'd get the package I have now . . . and I haven't heard
from the law school about whether it could turn into permanent. But
even if they say maybe, that isn't a guarantee . . . EEK - It is nice
to have options, but this roll of the dice impacts Maria one way or the
other dramatically and it is that I am most worried about.
Okay . . .I say we give up Albany money and do grad school but write a
real nice letter to Albany saying I'd love to teach on tenure track
with them and apply to them during hiring season . . .
Yeah, I'm with you on this. Maria needs stability, and she'll get
more of that going somewhere that you know that you'll be for four
years or whatever. Otherwise you have the uncertainty of Albany and
not a lot of money and no real prospect of a tenure-track position...
maybe, maybe not... I suspect that the financial aid thing would come
through again this year, but, really, why put it off? There's nothing
really attractive about half pay in Albany, unless I'm missing
something.
I think, though, that you should perhaps consider a tutor or some
summer school program rather than home schooling Maria yourself. I
may be wrong, but... well, let's just say that I find it a lot easier
to teach college students than my son. It would be worth looking
into, anyway.
Nina
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"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer."
-Albert Camus
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| User: "Rosena" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
22 Jun 2005 07:44:21 PM |
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Hi Nina,
I was really hoping you'd reply. I was wondering what you'd think.
Maybe you are right and a tutor would be better for Maria. The summer
school programs start to late is the problem. We'd move in the middle
of it. Hard to teach your own? Hmmm. That may be true. Okay, I will
look into a tutor. I am assuming if she passed a math and social
studies test at the end of the summer she could go on?
This hit her hard.
And yes, it is more obvious that there will be stability in Illinois
than here. The only two things holding back is Maria's desire to stay
and the thought that maybe the law school will make it a looksee visit.
But, now that I think of it, I would only put off for Maria what is
likely to happen in a year. Seems better to settle her now.
It was nice to be asked though. You know how hard it is in academia to
get respect from your peers, and my self-esteem is shot, so it was nice
to feel "wanted."
Are you feeling better?? If not, please hold on until you move into
new *home* - stress on home, not house. I bet it will be great for you
and your son.
Rosena
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| User: "Nina" |
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| Title: Re: Okay I am Just Rattled |
23 Jun 2005 06:40:15 AM |
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On 22 Jun 2005 17:44:21 -0700, "Rosena" <filpriros@aol.com> wrote:
Hi Nina,
I was really hoping you'd reply. I was wondering what you'd think.
Maybe you are right and a tutor would be better for Maria. The summer
school programs start to late is the problem. We'd move in the middle
of it. Hard to teach your own? Hmmm. That may be true. Okay, I will
look into a tutor. I am assuming if she passed a math and social
studies test at the end of the summer she could go on?
This part I don't know about. You really, really need to contact
someone at the school and find out... although, if you're going to
move, the more relevant thing would be to contact someone at the new
school. They may have a different policy anyway. I would seriously
do it NOW... the longer you wait, the harder it will be to get in
touch with anyone, as everyone leaves for the summer.
Try the school of education at SUNY Albany; ask them if they have
students who would be willing to tutor.
And yes, it is more obvious that there will be stability in Illinois
than here. The only two things holding back is Maria's desire to stay
and the thought that maybe the law school will make it a looksee visit.
But, now that I think of it, I would only put off for Maria what is
likely to happen in a year. Seems better to settle her now.
It was nice to be asked though. You know how hard it is in academia to
get respect from your peers, and my self-esteem is shot, so it was nice
to feel "wanted."
Yes, exactly.
Are you feeling better?? If not, please hold on until you move into
new *home* - stress on home, not house. I bet it will be great for you
and your son.
We're at the new house some of the time... still kind of here and
there. It's still awfully hard to see how this is all going to work
out, but I'm working very hard on just focusing on NOW and not
worrying about the future.
Nina
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"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer."
-Albert Camus
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