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"thegathaterra" |
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02 Oct 2007 05:31:31 PM |
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One for the girls |
If you were sweet on a bloke, suspected he was sweet on you, then how do you
get a date?
He looks at me tenderly, but we haven't spoken much.
Lynne
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
02 Oct 2007 05:35:24 PM |
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"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
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If you were sweet on a bloke, suspected he was sweet on you, then how
do you
get a date?
He looks at me tenderly, but we haven't spoken much.
Lynne
invite him somewhere
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| User: "thegathaterra" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
02 Oct 2007 06:07:35 PM |
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invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
02 Oct 2007 06:17:50 PM |
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"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
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invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
if it was 1940 i might say yes ,
but not these days
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
02 Oct 2007 06:21:36 PM |
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"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
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invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
Naw not anymore. Ask him out for coffee, like a Star Bucks
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
02 Oct 2007 06:22:32 PM |
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"Jane" <jarsenal66nospam@hotmail.com> wrote in message
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"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
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invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
Naw not anymore. Ask him out for coffee, like a Star Bucks
if you think he should ask ,
ask him to ask you
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| User: "Sir Benjamin Nunn" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 10:51:34 AM |
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"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
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invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
Definitely not.
If a girl asks a guy out, the chance of him refusing, and her feeling
rejected is about 1%.
If a guy asks a girl out, the chance of her refusing and him feeling
rejected is about 99%.
It saves a lot of heartbreak if the girls always do the asking.
BTN
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| User: "Noon Cat Nick" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 11:01:13 AM |
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Sir Benjamin Nunn wrote:
"thegathaterra" <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote in message
news:XaAMi.4513$H22.1107@news-server.bigpond.net.au...
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
Definitely not.
If a girl asks a guy out, the chance of him refusing, and her feeling
rejected is about 1%.
If a guy asks a girl out, the chance of her refusing and him feeling
rejected is about 99%.
It saves a lot of heartbreak if the girls always do the asking.
Nunnsense. Where do you come by those statistics?
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:52:35 AM |
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In message <XaAMi.4513$H22.1107@news-server.bigpond.net.au>,
thegathaterra <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> writes
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
Not necessarily.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "cal" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 12:58:15 AM |
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On 10/2/07 7:07 PM, in article
XaAMi.4513$H22.1107@news-server.bigpond.net.au, "thegathaterra"
<lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
pointless to wonder about that if the bugger won't.
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 03:11:35 AM |
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If I was average looking, I wouldn't be wasting my time here.
Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women.
thanks.
regards, marcules.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 03:47:20 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
If I was average looking, I wouldn't be wasting my time here.
Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women.
thanks.
regards, marcules.
Didn't see that one coming.
<eye roll>
Stick to alt.support.shyness, please.
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 03:53:25 AM |
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#1 I deleted my post and you resurrected it like Jesus from the tomb.
#2 Telling me to leave is uncalled for, since I haven't done anything
to anybody.
#3 My depression is much worse than my shyness.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:05:35 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
#1 I deleted my post and you resurrected it like Jesus from the tomb.
#2 Telling me to leave is uncalled for, since I haven't done anything
to anybody.
#3 My depression is much worse than my shyness.
#1 - It wasn't deleted from my server, so not my fault.
#2 - You look like a troll to me. I've seen your type many times. I
was about to recommend alt.support.shyness to you, because there are ton
of guys just like you there, and then I see that you were already there
before you were in asd. There are people here who are overweight, what
you wrote is just plain mean. It's mean, it's not nice, it's uncalled for.
#3 - The only thing I see you talking about is complaining that you
can't bang hot women because you're ugly. That's not the same thing as
depression. I can only go on what you post, and so far what you post is
rather limited in scope. If you're a real human being, by all means,
post away. Is there more to you than that you can't bang hot women and
you're doomed to fat ugly women therefore you want to kill yourself? Is
there more to you than that?
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:14:04 AM |
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I said slobs - sry if I insulted slobs. The shyness board has those
weird gay guys who have those strange replies, so things can be worse.
If you want, put me on ignore or whatever.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:22:14 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
I said slobs - sry if I insulted slobs. The shyness board has those
weird gay guys who have those strange replies, so things can be worse.
If you want, put me on ignore or whatever.
Also, I don't killfile. I prefer to talk things through, I'm willing to
give people slack, I hope people do the same for me sometimes. I think
it's necessary to do so in an environment like this. The real world is
rough and tumble, but sometimes if you talk things through with someone
you find out you're not so far apart as it first might seem.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:16:27 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
I said slobs - sry if I insulted slobs. The shyness board has those
weird gay guys who have those strange replies, so things can be worse.
If you want, put me on ignore or whatever.
"Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women."
Does that sound very nice to you?
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:23:06 AM |
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On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
I said slobs - sry if I insulted slobs. The shyness board has those
weird gay guys who have those strange replies, so things can be worse.
If you want, put me on ignore or whatever.
"Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women."
Does that sound very nice to you?
I didn't target fat women, I targeted slobbishly fat ones. And, for
the purpose of argument, in most cases, HARD WORK AND EXERCISE can fix
this. I am genetically disposed to being extremely weak, but HARDWORK
MADE ME APPEAR STRONG.
Ugliness is something that you are born with and cannot change.
Maybe I should just come back when your internet police shift runs up.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:27:49 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
I said slobs - sry if I insulted slobs. The shyness board has those
weird gay guys who have those strange replies, so things can be worse.
If you want, put me on ignore or whatever.
"Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women."
Does that sound very nice to you?
I didn't target fat women, I targeted slobbishly fat ones. And, for
the purpose of argument, in most cases, HARD WORK AND EXERCISE can fix
this. I am genetically disposed to being extremely weak, but HARDWORK
MADE ME APPEAR STRONG.
Ugliness is something that you are born with and cannot change.
Maybe I should just come back when your internet police shift runs up.
OK, then why don't you find a thin ugly woman?
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:35:26 AM |
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On Oct 3, 5:27 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
OK, then why don't you find a thin ugly woman?
For the same purposes thin ugly women fail to find guys like me. We
would rather be alone then have to lower our standards. Don't talk
down to me.
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| User: "Rhiannon" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 11:09:36 AM |
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<marcules85@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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On Oct 3, 5:27 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
OK, then why don't you find a thin ugly woman?
For the same purposes thin ugly women fail to find guys like me. We
would rather be alone then have to lower our standards. Don't talk
down to me.
Lower your standards? And he's talking down to you? You're a piece of
work.
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Rhi
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 11:11:42 AM |
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"Rhiannon" <rhianon@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
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<marcules85@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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On Oct 3, 5:27 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
OK, then why don't you find a thin ugly woman?
For the same purposes thin ugly women fail to find guys like me. We
would rather be alone then have to lower our standards. Don't talk
down to me.
Lower your standards? And he's talking down to you? You're a piece
of
work.
--
Rhi
who's he think he is ... me
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:43:31 AM |
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plus...
most thin ugly girls are still chased by predators.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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03 Oct 2007 04:50:56 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
plus...
most thin ugly girls are still chased by predators.
You need to stop reading alt.support.shyness, seriously.
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| User: "Janithor" |
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03 Oct 2007 04:44:42 AM |
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:27 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
On Oct 3, 5:16 am, Janithor <Janit...@comcast.net> wrote:
x-no-archive: yes
marcule...@yahoo.com wrote:
OK, then why don't you find a thin ugly woman?
For the same purposes thin ugly women fail to find guys like me. We
would rather be alone then have to lower our standards. Don't talk
down to me.
I'm not talking down to you. Isn't that a legitimate question? I see
plenty of physically unattractive couples out there, some I bet are even
happy with each other.
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| User: "Rhiannon" |
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03 Oct 2007 11:07:13 AM |
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"Janithor" <Janithor@comcast.net> wrote in message
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marcules85@yahoo.com wrote:
If I was average looking, I wouldn't be wasting my time here.
Please god, give me average looks so i am not oppressed and indirectly
segregated to slobbishly fat women.
thanks.
regards, marcules.
Didn't see that one coming.
<eye roll>
Stick to alt.support.shyness, please.
I'll say. Geebuz.
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Rhi
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| User: "Contrarian" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 07:19:52 AM |
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thegathaterra <lynnevaneck@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
There's a school of thought to that effect, and has a
lot to recommend it, if one's interest is romantic and
not business. One e-mail msg might not be too much.
For one thing, if the girl makes an overture, and is
rebuffed, it can be really painful. One of my relations
had this happen to her, and we still remember it, and
it was only a social telephone call.
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| User: "BoredToTears" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 07:37:07 AM |
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On 3 Oct, 13:19, Contrarian <adrb...@gmail.com> wrote:
thegathaterra <lynnevan...@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
There's a school of thought to that effect, and has a
lot to recommend it, if one's interest is romantic and
not business. One e-mail msg might not be too much.
For one thing, if the girl makes an overture, and is
rebuffed, it can be really painful. One of my relations
had this happen to her, and we still remember it, and
it was only a social telephone call.
And of course it's *never* painful or embarrassing when a bloke gets
told to "*****, ugly" in front of, oh, about 8 other females. It
truly is different for girls, you don't know you're born.
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| User: "Rhiannon" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 11:19:51 AM |
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"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
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On 3 Oct, 13:19, Contrarian <adrb...@gmail.com> wrote:
thegathaterra <lynnevan...@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
There's a school of thought to that effect, and has a
lot to recommend it, if one's interest is romantic and
not business. One e-mail msg might not be too much.
For one thing, if the girl makes an overture, and is
rebuffed, it can be really painful. One of my relations
had this happen to her, and we still remember it, and
it was only a social telephone call.
And of course it's *never* painful or embarrassing when a bloke gets
told to "*****, ugly" in front of, oh, about 8 other females. It
truly is different for girls, you don't know you're born.
Yep. It goes both ways.
--
Rhi
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| User: "thegathaterra" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 04:30:04 PM |
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"Rhiannon" <rhianon@sympatico.ca> wrote in message
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"BoredToTears" <beejayceee1@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
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On 3 Oct, 13:19, Contrarian <adrb...@gmail.com> wrote:
thegathaterra <lynnevan...@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
There's a school of thought to that effect, and has a
lot to recommend it, if one's interest is romantic and
not business. One e-mail msg might not be too much.
I sent him one yesterday
:-)
Still no reply
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| User: "BoredToTears" |
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| Title: Re: One for the girls |
03 Oct 2007 11:33:25 AM |
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On 3 Oct, 17:19, "Rhiannon" <rhia...@sympatico.ca> wrote:
"BoredToTears" <beejayce...@yahoo.co.uk> wrote in message
news:1191415027.234371.307630@y42g2000hsy.googlegroups.com...
On 3 Oct, 13:19, Contrarian <adrb...@gmail.com> wrote:
thegathaterra <lynnevan...@bigpond.com> wrote:
invite him somewhere
Shouldn't the guy ask the girl out first?
There's a school of thought to that effect, and has a
lot to recommend it, if one's interest is romantic and
not business. One e-mail msg might not be too much.
For one thing, if the girl makes an overture, and is
rebuffed, it can be really painful. One of my relations
had this happen to her, and we still remember it, and
it was only a social telephone call.
And of course it's *never* painful or embarrassing when a bloke gets
told to "*****, ugly" in front of, oh, about 8 other females. It
truly is different for girls, you don't know you're born.
Yep. It goes both ways.
--
Rhi
One of the reasons I replied to Contrarian with that was I've been
watching people more of late and I've noticed that women seem to have
worse manners and are more rude than men. For instance, I very rarely
see a woman hold a door open or even look round to see if someone is
coming before just letting it swing shut in whoever is unfortunate
enough to be behind them. I also notice that women *will not* move out
of the way when you're laden down with bags of groceries, will stand
in the middle of the pavement gossiping and smoking and will give you
the most disgusting dirty looks and even abuse if you ask them,
politely, to move.
I'm not saying that all women are like that but there are enough that
I experience it on an almost daily basis. Most of them seem to be in
their late 40s, early 50s and walk around with the most torn-faced
expression you've ever seen! Looks like they've been sucking pickled
lemons.
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