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Sociology > Depression |
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"packrat" |
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02 Apr 2006 11:22:10 PM |
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ot question...relationships? |
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet. Just
the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of being
dumped. I know it isn't logical.
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| User: "cal" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 01:13:33 AM |
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"packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of
being dumped. I know it isn't logical.
i'd rather take the pain of being dumped than bail, if that's how it must
be, because for me, never knowing if it might have worked out is worse than
being dumped.
if i review my regrets of the heart, i find they're all to do with not going
down roads where i now wish i'd taken the risk and gone. i've had my share
of being dumped, and each one hurt like i never thought i'd get over it, but
i don't regret any of those. not one.
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
02 Apr 2006 11:38:24 PM |
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"packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of
being dumped. I know it isn't logical.
Makes perfect sense to me, it's sort of like self preservations, run before
you get hurt.
You scare me :o) We have a lot of things in common and I'm starting to
wonder if sabotaging our own happiness isn't a huge trait of someone with
depression???!!!
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| User: "electro" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
02 Apr 2006 11:37:20 PM |
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I've never done that consciously, though I'm certain I've sabotaged
relationships by unconscious monkey-wrenching.. ..like edging into the
territory of behaviours that are the worst fears of my partner..
"packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just
the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of being
dumped. I know it isn't logical.
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| User: "Charles" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 01:16:46 AM |
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On Mon, 03 Apr 2006 04:22:10 GMT, "packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com>
wrote:
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet. Just
the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of being
dumped. I know it isn't logical.
I stay out of them to begin with, saves all the bother. Well, I did
get a bit involved a couple times, those ended.
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| User: "cal" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 02:22:41 AM |
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"Charles" <ckraft@SPAMTRAP.west.net> wrote in message
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On Mon, 03 Apr 2006 04:22:10 GMT, "packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com>
wrote:
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of
being dumped. I know it isn't logical.
I stay out of them to begin with, saves all the bother. Well, I did
get a bit involved a couple times, those ended.
we can only have one that doesn't.
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 04:50:17 PM |
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In message <e0qifh$tfr$1@emma.aioe.org>, cal <cal1360@gmail.com> writes
"Charles" <ckraft@SPAMTRAP.west.net> wrote in message
news:rcf132ltpkfva6l0no7shrf6e8lonnassi@4ax.com...
On Mon, 03 Apr 2006 04:22:10 GMT, "packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com>
wrote:
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of
being dumped. I know it isn't logical.
I stay out of them to begin with, saves all the bother. Well, I did
get a bit involved a couple times, those ended.
we can only have one that doesn't.
How quaint.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "%" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 05:33:18 PM |
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"Alan Harding" <Alan@harding.demon.co.uk> wrote in message
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In message <e0qifh$tfr$1@emma.aioe.org>, cal <cal1360@gmail.com> writes
"Charles" <ckraft@SPAMTRAP.west.net> wrote in message
news:rcf132ltpkfva6l0no7shrf6e8lonnassi@4ax.com...
On Mon, 03 Apr 2006 04:22:10 GMT, "packrat" <maddienospam@yahoo.com>
wrote:
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet.
Just the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of
being dumped. I know it isn't logical.
I stay out of them to begin with, saves all the bother. Well, I did
get a bit involved a couple times, those ended.
we can only have one that doesn't.
How quaint.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
how extensively supportive
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| User: "purpleveggie" |
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| Title: Re: ot question...relationships? |
03 Apr 2006 03:01:34 AM |
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packrat wrote:
how frequently do people bail from a relationship just to avoid getting
their heart broken even though things aren't needing to go there yet. Just
the fear of being more involved later emotionally and the fear of being
dumped. I know it isn't logical.
as i got older i became more fearfull of getting hurt by relationships
as my heart had been broken several times when i was young and looking
back i did exactly what you say.
i then met the future mrs pv and could not risk losing her so i took
the plunge and 22 years later im glad i did(well most of the time)
she has her faults but who am i to complain? (she do snore like a hog
with nasal congestion)
"let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
(and she goes ape when me or the kids kill spiders complaining that the
are gods creatures and have a right to live the same as every living
creature)
if you are scared shitless by them 8 legged mf's it aint nice to have
them scuttling over the carpet believe you me.
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