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Sociology > Depression |
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"alvintchase" |
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09 Nov 2004 04:53:42 PM |
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Parents aren't perfect |
One thing that's hard to accept,at least for me,is that my parents
aren't perfect,and also,that my therapist isn't perfect...Yet,I think
I'm getting better at accpeting these things...My relationship with my
dad has deinatly improved a lot over the 9 years I lived with him,and
the last 2 years,where I've lived on my own.I'm very thankful for
that...And my relationship with my mom has improved sinse she moved
away,first to the peace corps and then to California...She might come
back here though,if her job situation doesn't improve...I just feel
that I can't complain about my life...I really can't...Sure I wish I
had more paid work,but volunteer work is important.I just have to keep
focused on doing more,whether voulunteering or hopefully,at some
point,more paid work...The bottem line is that comparing myself to
other people doesn't do any good.changing for other people,in order to
please other people's expectaions doesn't do any good,just the
opposite.What I want to do is work on making changes for myself...I
know I have made some changes already,but there's a lot more I want to
do...I read somewhere that the way to get out of a rut is to break old
routines...Somehow,that really resonates with me.I've noticed that if
I can break habits,patterns,whether behavior patterns,thought patterns
ect...it does make some amount of differance...I guess the important
thing is finding balance...What I want to work on is balancing
abstract thought with more concrete,"down to earth" ways of looking at
things.That's something I'm really not good at...My sense is that I
have to work on being more calm,relaxed,low key,easy going ect...I
know that some people can function very well while being anxious and
tense,but I know that I never will be able to do that.I have to go to
the opposite extreme.(Though coffee is helpful at times,even though it
sometimes makes me anxious.)
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: Parents aren't perfect |
13 Nov 2004 12:59:03 AM |
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In message <a78957eb.0411091453.5883a99e@posting.google.com>,
alvintchase <relayer211@hotmail.com> writes
One thing that's hard to accept,at least for me,is that my parents
aren't perfect,
Believe me, it's easy to accept that parents are far from perfect when
you are one.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "alvintchase" |
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| Title: Re: Parents aren't perfect |
13 Nov 2004 06:17:50 PM |
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Alan Harding <Alan@harding.demon.co.uk> wrote in message news:<eIKLdHg3CblBFwlw@harding.demon.co.uk>...
In message <a78957eb.0411091453.5883a99e@posting.google.com>,
alvintchase <relayer211@hotmail.com> writes
One thing that's hard to accept,at least for me,is that my parents
aren't perfect,
Believe me, it's easy to accept that parents are far from perfect when
you are one.
The most important thing is to love,to love everyone...The world
wouldn't be in as terrible a shape as it is now,and as it has always
been,if there was more love.That's what we need,not judgeing
people,not comparing ourselves to people,as wither better or worse,not
labeling people,not hating people,but loving people.
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: Parents aren't perfect |
14 Nov 2004 12:32:51 AM |
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In message <a78957eb.0411131617.3ef550b0@posting.google.com>,
alvintchase <relayer211@hotmail.com> writes
Alan Harding <Alan@harding.demon.co.uk> wrote in message
news:<eIKLdHg3CblBFwlw@harding.demon.co.uk>...
In message <a78957eb.0411091453.5883a99e@posting.google.com>,
alvintchase <relayer211@hotmail.com> writes
One thing that's hard to accept,at least for me,is that my parents
aren't perfect,
Believe me, it's easy to accept that parents are far from perfect when
you are one.
The most important thing is to love,to love everyone...The world
wouldn't be in as terrible a shape as it is now,and as it has always
been,if there was more love.That's what we need,not judgeing
people,not comparing ourselves to people,as wither better or worse,not
labeling people,not hating people,but loving people.
You don't need to tell me - I grew up in the sixties! It was the
eighties that blew it - Maggie Thatcher and the cult of Me.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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