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"spy vs spy" |
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05 Sep 2006 04:58:58 AM |
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Passing on depression to your kids. |
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
She is the light of my life. And yet, when I gaze down at her in her crib I
have fear. Fear that I will have a major crash and become unable to care
for her. Fear that she will learn all my ADD behavior and depressive
traits.
Of course the worry is not going to help me. I am in therapy (oh yea like
I"I've ever NOT been in therapy) I take my meds. I just have to fight the
habit of isolating myself. I have been reaching out to other single mom
groups. Starting to take my daughter to playgroups and the like. I have to
do it for her. She needs contact with other kids. I have already started
to see her blossom the more she is with other little kids.
Well enough of this. She is starting to wake up and I have to start cooking
her eggs.
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| User: "Joe" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 05:11:18 AM |
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According to what I learn in University, nature and nurture play a role from
passing mental illness to the next generation... In my view, I don't think u
have to worry about that and just keep it natural is ok la....
"spy vs spy" <spyvsspy@mad.com> ¼¶¼g©ó¶l¥ó·s»D:CTbLg.8018$YZ3.4243@trnddc03...
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
She is the light of my life. And yet, when I gaze down at her in her crib
I have fear. Fear that I will have a major crash and become unable to
care for her. Fear that she will learn all my ADD behavior and depressive
traits.
Of course the worry is not going to help me. I am in therapy (oh yea like
I"I've ever NOT been in therapy) I take my meds. I just have to fight
the habit of isolating myself. I have been reaching out to other single
mom groups. Starting to take my daughter to playgroups and the like. I
have to do it for her. She needs contact with other kids. I have already
started to see her blossom the more she is with other little kids.
Well enough of this. She is starting to wake up and I have to start
cooking her eggs.
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| User: "CyberDroog" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 12:07:54 PM |
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On Tue, 05 Sep 2006 09:58:58 GMT, "spy vs spy" <spyvsspy@mad.com> wrote:
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
One thing I have read is that television is now suspected to play a role in
ADD. Too much information coming in too fast for a small child. And it's
even worse with cable when they can flip through hundreds of channels.
I won't let Buddha watch any television at all until he's at least two. I
still watch television with him in the room, but I keep him in his swing
turned towards me.
Apparently it is primarily a visual thing. Too much visual stimulation
isn't good. Audio, on the other hand, is apparently healthy since it helps
boost language skills. I still put on the audio books at bedtime even
though, for now, the crib is still in our bedroom.
I also keep toys to a minimum. I mean I don't leave all of his toys in
view. He has one or two at a time. That way he isn't overwhelmed by choices
and has to focus on what he has.
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| User: "Contrarian" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 08:47:29 PM |
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spy vs spy <spyvsspy@mad.com> wrote:
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
Do you think you have become better able to cope
with your conditions? That's the most important
angle IMO.
--
Breaking news: http://lazerbrody.typepad.com July 24/25 especially
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| User: "jill" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 09:58:33 AM |
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spy vs spy wrote:
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
She is the light of my life. And yet, when I gaze down at her in her crib I
have fear. Fear that I will have a major crash and become unable to care
for her. Fear that she will learn all my ADD behavior and depressive
traits.
Of course the worry is not going to help me. I am in therapy (oh yea like
I"I've ever NOT been in therapy) I take my meds. I just have to fight the
habit of isolating myself. I have been reaching out to other single mom
groups. Starting to take my daughter to playgroups and the like. I have to
do it for her. She needs contact with other kids. I have already started
to see her blossom the more she is with other little kids.
Well enough of this. She is starting to wake up and I have to start cooking
her eggs.
Babies are like sponges. What ever you are feeling they soak it up
thru thier skin and internalize it. Especially little kids. When
you are with her try to send out the vibe that the world is a good
place. When you hold her try to send out the feeling of love and
safety. It is not what you say it is that palpable emotion that flows
from you that she will pick up on. If you are feeling really anxious
or afraid try to keep that from her. babies especially internalize the
emotions and it can be very hard to overcome that later in life.
You sound like you really love her that is the most important
thing! jill
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| User: "~C.B.~" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 10:17:16 AM |
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spy vs spy wrote:
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
She is the light of my life. And yet, when I gaze down at her in her crib I
have fear. Fear that I will have a major crash and become unable to care
for her. Fear that she will learn all my ADD behavior and depressive
traits.
Of course the worry is not going to help me. I am in therapy (oh yea like
I"I've ever NOT been in therapy) I take my meds. I just have to fight the
habit of isolating myself. I have been reaching out to other single mom
groups. Starting to take my daughter to playgroups and the like. I have to
do it for her. She needs contact with other kids. I have already started
to see her blossom the more she is with other little kids.
Well enough of this. She is starting to wake up and I have to start cooking
her eggs.
Nature or nurture, either way it's why I'm not having kids. I don't
want to mess them up anymore than the world will already mess them up.
~C.B.~
http://shespillsthebeans.blogspot.com
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| User: "jill" |
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| Title: Re: Passing on depression to your kids. |
05 Sep 2006 10:24:39 AM |
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~C.B.~ wrote:
spy vs spy wrote:
My daughter is adopted, so genetics from me don't play a part here. I just
wonder how much of the nature/nurture comes into play with depression and
ADD.
I don't want my girl to learn it from me. She is my miracle child. The
baby I never thought I would have.
She is the light of my life. And yet, when I gaze down at her in her crib I
have fear. Fear that I will have a major crash and become unable to care
for her. Fear that she will learn all my ADD behavior and depressive
traits.
Of course the worry is not going to help me. I am in therapy (oh yea like
I"I've ever NOT been in therapy) I take my meds. I just have to fight the
habit of isolating myself. I have been reaching out to other single mom
groups. Starting to take my daughter to playgroups and the like. I have to
do it for her. She needs contact with other kids. I have already started
to see her blossom the more she is with other little kids.
Well enough of this. She is starting to wake up and I have to start cooking
her eggs.
Nature or nurture, either way it's why I'm not having kids. I don't
want to mess them up anymore than the world will already mess them up.
~C.B.~
http://shespillsthebeans.blogspot.com
I sometimes think that too. At least I have not given my fear to
anyone in some way they will never escape. I can not have kids so I
never really had that choice. I don't know. You know when you see
that tiny fist and it grabs your finger and holds on so tight there is
no other feeling in the world like that. I don't know it wasn't up
to me.
jill
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