I don't know your doctor but mine will usually give me a note to the effect
of "he was out for necessary medical reasons"

It's never specific, but it comes on a pad with the right letterhead and
that's all that matters.

"lily stargazer" <lillystarrgazzer@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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I've been reading here for a while now. Thanks for all the laughs and
the help to the questions you've answered that I didn't ask.

Here's the stupid thing I did and don't know how to get out of it. The
truth is always an option, but...

My boss knows about my depression. She doesn't get it, but is trying.
There are times when I need time off to just regenerate my batteries so
I can keep going. She gives me a hard time about this. They are
trying to reduce sick time so we're always being questioned. In the
past I've told her the above. It gets me a comment to see the employee
assistance thing, last time being "So I don't have to give you a letter
about seeing someone?" I'm already seeing someone.

She is in a job that is above her knowledge base. I've been there
forever. She needs me and gets pissed if I'm not there the moment she
has a question. There are others there that can help.

So the stupid thing I did on Friday was call in and tell her I had pink
eye. I figured that would be a legit excuse. Other people at my place
have had it in the past. Well, this time she wants a doctor's note to
say it's okay for me to go back to work. I don't have one and can't
get one.

So on Monday, I can tell her that I lied and why. I don't know if that
will put my job in jeopardy. Or I can find a way to continue the pink
eye thing.

Any advise?

Thanks in advance.

Lily

We're going to meet with the counselor at our workplace and see what we
can do to help each other.
Lily (who had her best night's sleep since Friday)

Well.....I told her the truth, why I felt as I did, how her actions
impact me, that I was afraid I would get fired.

Many thanks to all who gave advice on what to do with the pink eye
issue.

Well.....I told her the truth, why I felt as I did, how her actions
impact me, that I was afraid I would get fired.

She cried. This woman NEVER cries. She didn't realize that she was
doing those things. She didn't mean to. She's always afraid that she
cares so much and likes me, that she'll look as if she's favoring me.
And probably goes the other way to compensate.

We're going to meet with the counselor at our workplace and see what we
can do to help each other.

She told me that I'm the only one that comes to her honestly and
openly. That I've helped her through these past years. She feels like
an outsider and I've been able to explain things in a way that is
helpful.

I know some of my feeling are impacted by incidents from when she first
came here and didn't understand. She's trying and has improved. We're
going to have a "codeword" for me to use when she's doing the things we
talked about so she can catch herself in the moment.

And she'll continue to hold me accountable to my responsibilities. I
wouldn't want it any other way.

Lily (who had her best night's sleep since Friday)

Many thanks to all who gave advice on what to do with the pink eye
issue.

Well.....I told her the truth, why I felt as I did, how her actions
impact me, that I was afraid I would get fired.

On 2005-10-02, lily stargazer wrote:
Why not? Go to the doctor and get a note that says you don't have pink eye
and it is safe for you to go to work.

So on Monday, I can tell her that I lied and why.

Next time, don't lie.

For now, you can get the note that indicates it is okay for you to go back
to work and decide how to deal with the truth of the whole matter if it
comes up. Your boss probably just wants a note that clears you for being
contagious.

On Sat, 01 Oct 2005 18:31:25 -0700, lily stargazer wrote:

So the stupid thing I did on Friday was call in and tell her I had pink
eye. I figured that would be a legit excuse. Other people at my place
have had it in the past. Well, this time she wants a doctor's note to
say it's okay for me to go back to work. I don't have one and can't get
one.

Yep... that was stupid. Don't apologize about having a disease... you
wouldn't feel the need to make something up if you needed a day off
because you had diabetes would you?

Sounds to me like you could go to the doctor, who will tell you you don't
have pink eye and are therefore fine to go back to work... and squeeze in
another day off while doing it. The moral of that story being: question me
and you loose me for even more time.

What I tell my boss when I need a day: "I'm going to take the day off
tomorrow so I don't kill everyone."

I love my boss.

--
"Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed."
Benjamin Franklin (I didn't know he was a Buddhist)

While I wouldn't particularly condone making up an excuse like this,
conjunctivitis ("pink eye") refers to an inflammation of the eye
caused by an infection, but not to any particular infection. It will
usually clear up on its own, but if it is caused by bacteria, a doctor
will normally prescribe antibiotic drops. (How can you tell? If it
gets "*****" and "crusty", you probably have the bacterial form.) If
it is caused by a virus, there isn't much you can do about it, but it
normally goes away in a few days without difficulty. I've had the
latter form a couple of times, and have learned not to bother seeing a
doctor for it.

What I'm getting at is that it's simply silly to require a doctor's
note saying it's safe for you to go back to work if your eye isn't
pink. Hopefully you can communicate this to your employer. (If your
employer insists, I suppose you could go to a doctor and ask him to
look at your eye and write a note saying that you show no signs of
having conjunctivitis now.)

--
Nom dePlume, Ph.D.
Why, yes, in fact, I am a rocket scientist.

Guide to Medications for Mental Illness:
http://www.geocities.com/nomdeplume1000/

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"lily stargazer" <lillystarrgazzer@yahoo.com> wrote in message
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I've been reading here for a while now. Thanks for all the laughs

and

the help to the questions you've answered that I didn't ask.

Here's the stupid thing I did and don't know how to get out of it.

The

truth is always an option, but...

My boss knows about my depression. She doesn't get it, but is

trying.

There are times when I need time off to just regenerate my batteries

so

I can keep going. She gives me a hard time about this. They are
trying to reduce sick time so we're always being questioned. In the
past I've told her the above. It gets me a comment to see the

employee

assistance thing, last time being "So I don't have to give you a

letter

about seeing someone?" I'm already seeing someone.

She is in a job that is above her knowledge base. I've been there
forever. She needs me and gets pissed if I'm not there the moment

she

has a question. There are others there that can help.

So the stupid thing I did on Friday was call in and tell her I had

pink

eye. I figured that would be a legit excuse. Other people at my

place

have had it in the past. Well, this time she wants a doctor's note

to

say it's okay for me to go back to work. I don't have one and can't
get one.

So on Monday, I can tell her that I lied and why. I don't know if

that

will put my job in jeopardy. Or I can find a way to continue the

pink

eye thing.

Any advise?

Thanks in advance.

Lily