(Bodhisattvacat) wrote in
news:4f2532f6.0409240953.cdbdc94@posting.google.com:
... often feel polluted, dirty and sick, blame themselves and develop
sexual problems.
What they need to realize is that it was the good things about them -
their beauty and openness - that attracted that treatment, and that
these things are still true about them.
.... ?!
Wow, that's like, psychotically looking for a silver lining.
Therefore they should have the attitude, not of "I'm dirty and forever
guilty and should seek out abuse," but "I had good qualities that
attracted this treatment from an evil person, and I still have these
good qualities that now as an adult I can share with better people."
At which point they can concentrate on finding a real relationship in
which to give a real man the gift of themselves that their abuser found
so attractive, and that is still a part of who they are, to share and
be appreciated by better people.
Ilya Shambat
http://www.geocities.com/drr0cket
http://www.geocities.com/ilya_shambat2000/poems.htm
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