One thing I worry about sometimes is that it's easy to form
impressions, stereotypes, misconceptions about people, paticularly
over the internet... we are, at most, just sharing certain aspects of
ourselves, yet we often form strong opinions about other people... I
tend to overcomplicate people, but I think it's more common, and more
harmful, to oversimplify them... I think it's easy to kind of turn
people into one dimensional stereotypes and caricatures. when we all
know, on some level that everyone is a complex,3 dimensional person...
I've noticed so often that when we like/love someone we tend to
magnify what we percieve as the other person's strengths, and minimize
or ignore what we see as the person's weaknesses. when we dislike and/
or are very angry someone we minimize and/or ignore what we percieve
as the person's strengths and magnify what we see as the other
person's flaws... It's so hard to get a more balanced perspective,
except when we are feeling more detached... that we can see the
person's strengths and their flaws in a more fair, compassionate
way... of course sometimes, one feeling anout a person doesn't
override another feeling, and we have both feelings at the same times,
sometimes love/hate, sometimes just a lot of ambivalence... what I've
noticed is that to get a more clear perspectve about a person that I
have strong feelings about, I have to keep going deeper, keep trying
to see what is underneathe all the feelings... and if I go deep
enough, I think mixed feelings will be most clear, most noticeable,
most accurate...

-"Jordy"

I've noticed so often that when we like/love someone we tend to
magnify what we percieve as the other person's strengths, and minimize
or ignore what we see as the person's weaknesses. when we dislike and/
or are very angry someone we minimize and/or ignore what we percieve
as the person's strengths and magnify what we see as the other
person's flaws...

-"Jordy"