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Sociology > Depression |
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"ponette" |
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04 May 2005 10:05:59 AM |
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The ones that get to me... |
I went on a lunch with coworkers the other day. The two of them
started talking about what they would do if they won the lottery.
(It's a moot point, I think, since neither to the best of my knowledge
buys tickets.) Both said that if they won, they'd keep their current
jobs. I was incredulous...I'd be outta there so fast...well, I'm a
decent sort, so I'd give them my two-weeks' notice first. ;) But
still...
They said how much they enjoyed their jobs, the challenges, the social
interactions. One lady did basically the same work as I did; I
personally couldn't see the charm of it. I spend much of my time bored
stiff with the work, and hardly anyone there talks to me at any
length.
At first, I'd blurted out that I wouldn't continue to work, then hit
with their responses, I tried to scale it back...well, I wouldn't
continue to work *there*, maybe someplace nonprofit that wouldn't pay
much but I'd enjoy more. Nope, they'd stay right where they were, they
reasserted. Well, they just kept looking at me funny, so I finally got
a clue and shut up.
p
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| User: "RGB" |
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| Title: Re: The ones that get to me... |
04 May 2005 11:01:36 AM |
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In article <cioh71lauf7beei9f41gpd9lcr6rae5dv8@4ax.com>,
ponette <ponette0000@yahoo.com> wrote:
Nope, they'd stay right where they were, they reasserted.
Funny, I was just thinking about this sort of thing, the value (for
some, in some situations) of working even though you don't have to. I
made a little money around a year ago and decided to just take off, give
notice and quit and live my life for myself for a year or so. It was a
nice fantasy and it had some nice points, but it didn't work out, and I
would up depressed as ***** and feeling just as bad as if I'd been fired.
Then I eventually had to go back and did, but feeling totally incapable
and unstable and incompetent. Now I don't know what will happen to me, I
fear I'm at the verge of involuntary unemployment and am rather
terrified (which terror, of course, does not exactly help me calm down
and function better on the job). So, it was probably not a good idea for
me to quit when I did, even though I was able to financially. I know
other people who've been pretty much destroyed by having long-term
financial support available that allowed them to languish in a state of
chronic unemployment.
But anyway. I suspect people say what your associates said because they
hear it a lot and get the idea that it's what one is supposed to say.
They probably also said they'd give most of it away to charity, right?
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| User: "ponette" |
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| Title: Re: The ones that get to me... |
04 May 2005 11:27:02 AM |
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RGB <rrggbb@mac.com> wrote:
In article <cioh71lauf7beei9f41gpd9lcr6rae5dv8@4ax.com>,
ponette <ponette0000@yahoo.com> wrote:
Nope, they'd stay right where they were, they reasserted.
Funny, I was just thinking about this sort of thing, the value (for
some, in some situations) of working even though you don't have to. I
made a little money around a year ago and decided to just take
off, give notice and quit and live my life for myself for a year
or so. It was a nice fantasy and it had some nice points, but
it didn't work out, and I would up depressed as ***** and feeling
just as bad as if I'd been fired.
I wonder if the difference might come in dedicating yourself to a purpose...for
example, not working that particular job, but seeking out something fulfilling
that you'd otherwise not be able to do because you were working. For some,
it might be a focused desire to write a book. For me, it might be working (or
volunteering) somewhere I find emotionally and professionally gratifying with
no concern about salary. Personally, I'd need to integrate places where I felt
visible and needed or I'd drown in the nothingness. It wouldn't be enough for
me to simply quit working. At least, not for long. ;) I'm not self-motivated
enough.
Then I eventually had to go back and did, but feeling totally
incapable and unstable and incompetent. Now I don't know
what will happen to me, I
fear I'm at the verge of involuntary unemployment and am rather
terrified (which terror, of course, does not exactly help me calm down
and function better on the job).
I imagine. I've been there (or someplace similar), and it was an awful feeling.
So, it was probably not a good
idea for me to quit when I did, even though I was able to
financially. I know other people who've been pretty much destroyed
by having long-term financial support available that allowed them
to languish in a state of chronic unemployment.
For me, it's the issue of feeling like I have a choice. It's not quitting abruptly,
it's knowing I could anytime, if I wanted to. I don't know if that makes sense.
But anyway. I suspect people say what your associates said because >they hear
it a lot and get the idea that it's what one is supposed
to say.
The scary thing is I'm sure these people meant it. Welcome to Corporate America!
*brrrrrrrrrrr*
They probably also said they'd give most of it away to charity, right?
Well, the lady did say she'd give a good chunk of it to her church.
p
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