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Sociology > Depression |
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"millipede man" |
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06 Nov 2005 10:16:10 AM |
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The secrets of living longer |
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However, I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
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| User: "millie and mollie" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 12:00:20 PM |
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millipede man <huaNOTSORTAngm@earNOTSORTAthlink.net> wrote in
news:Xns97065421EE9BDhuangmNOTSORTANOTSOR@127.0.0.1:
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
We understand that you would like to have a human family and friends. You
do have *us*, though, your millipede family.
((((((((millipede man))))))))
- millie and mollie
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| User: "electro" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 12:28:32 PM |
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"millipede man" <huaNOTSORTAngm@earNOTSORTAthlink.net> wrote in message
news:Xns97065421EE9BDhuangmNOTSORTANOTSOR@127.0.0.1...
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However,
I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
you allow others to get in. you open yourself.. ..and not just mentally, or
superficially. Making a friend always involves some sort of emotional risk,
or going out on a limb. If you think that you 'like' someone, or have
something in common with them, make it known one way or another..
I have problems making new friends on my own. The way I generally make new
friends, is through existing friends. Which starts to seem arbitrary and
biased. I wish I didn't have such a hard time approaching new people..
...but at least being shy and socially awkward can filter out the superficial
relationships that others get sucked into, and tediously maintain for the
sake of their reputation. Unfortunately, it also tends to put one in the
vulnerable position of being desperate for anyone that comes along.. ..who
may take advantage of you.
making friends also *requires* being involved in a group or club or
attending some sort of social engagement. It's very rare that people make
friends with passerby's on the street (unless you're highly extroverted -
but then you wouldn't have this problem). My several longterm friendships
are still from highschool. And a handful are from people I met through
these people at parties..
Join a group of some kind, (in your community), and make yourself
accessible.
Ty
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| User: "millipede man" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 03:13:15 PM |
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"electro" <pewter_toast@NOhotmailSPAM.com> wrote in
news:kXrbf.421487$oW2.145993@pd7tw1no:
you allow others to get in. you open yourself.. ..and not just
mentally, or superficially. Making a friend always involves some sort
of emotional risk, or going out on a limb. If you think that you
'like' someone, or have something in common with them, make it known
one way or another..
I have problems making new friends on my own. The way I generally
make new friends, is through existing friends. Which starts to seem
arbitrary and biased. I wish I didn't have such a hard time
approaching new people.. ..but at least being shy and socially awkward
can filter out the superficial relationships that others get sucked
into, and tediously maintain for the sake of their reputation.
Unfortunately, it also tends to put one in the vulnerable position of
being desperate for anyone that comes along.. ..who may take advantage
of you.
making friends also *requires* being involved in a group or club or
attending some sort of social engagement. It's very rare that people
make friends with passerby's on the street (unless you're highly
extroverted - but then you wouldn't have this problem). My several
longterm friendships are still from highschool. And a handful are
from people I met through these people at parties..
Join a group of some kind, (in your community), and make yourself
accessible.
I think you are right. I need to get involved in a group. Preferably one
that shares a common interest.
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
10 Nov 2005 01:14:15 AM |
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In message <Xns970686807A052huangmNOTSORTANOTSOR@127.0.0.1>, millipede
man <huaNOTSORTAngm@earNOTSORTAthlink.net> writes
"electro" <pewter_toast@NOhotmailSPAM.com> wrote in
news:kXrbf.421487$oW2.145993@pd7tw1no:
you allow others to get in. you open yourself.. ..and not just
mentally, or superficially. Making a friend always involves some sort
of emotional risk, or going out on a limb. If you think that you
'like' someone, or have something in common with them, make it known
one way or another..
I have problems making new friends on my own. The way I generally
make new friends, is through existing friends. Which starts to seem
arbitrary and biased. I wish I didn't have such a hard time
approaching new people.. ..but at least being shy and socially awkward
can filter out the superficial relationships that others get sucked
into, and tediously maintain for the sake of their reputation.
Unfortunately, it also tends to put one in the vulnerable position of
being desperate for anyone that comes along.. ..who may take advantage
of you.
making friends also *requires* being involved in a group or club or
attending some sort of social engagement. It's very rare that people
make friends with passerby's on the street (unless you're highly
extroverted - but then you wouldn't have this problem). My several
longterm friendships are still from highschool. And a handful are
from people I met through these people at parties..
Join a group of some kind, (in your community), and make yourself
accessible.
I think you are right. I need to get involved in a group. Preferably one
that shares a common interest.
A group isn't essential, but it certainly helps. What's important is to
find someone you have the chance to talk to frequently, then you can
decide how far to try to take it. It takes contact to make a friendship,
which is where groups come in.
I don't have problems talking to people in the street, so I'd better
stop there.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "Jane" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 12:43:20 PM |
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"electro" > you allow others to get in. you open yourself.. ..and not just
mentally, or
superficially. Making a friend always involves some sort of emotional
risk,
or going out on a limb. If you think that you 'like' someone, or have
something in common with them, make it known one way or another..
I have problems making new friends on my own. The way I generally make
new
friends, is through existing friends. Which starts to seem arbitrary and
biased. I wish I didn't have such a hard time approaching new people..
..but at least being shy and socially awkward can filter out the
superficial
relationships that others get sucked into, and tediously maintain for the
sake of their reputation. Unfortunately, it also tends to put one in the
vulnerable position of being desperate for anyone that comes along.. ..who
may take advantage of you.
making friends also *requires* being involved in a group or club or
attending some sort of social engagement. It's very rare that people make
friends with passerby's on the street (unless you're highly extroverted -
but then you wouldn't have this problem). My several longterm friendships
are still from highschool. And a handful are from people I met through
these people at parties..
Join a group of some kind, (in your community), and make yourself
accessible.
Ty
Very good advice... I might just follow it myself.
Jane
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
08 Nov 2005 02:55:55 PM |
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In message <Xns97065421EE9BDhuangmNOTSORTANOTSOR@127.0.0.1>, millipede
man <huaNOTSORTAngm@earNOTSORTAthlink.net> writes
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However, I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
Change your attitudes.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "Franz Bestuchev" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 09:38:47 PM |
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millipede man wrote:
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However, I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
If you read the *whole* magazine you'll note the little short bit from
the story's writer at the beginning where he talks about how friendly,
warm and incredibly outgoing *every single one* of those people were.
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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
10 Nov 2005 01:16:16 AM |
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In message <3t80i4Fqmn17U1@individual.net>, Franz Bestuchev
<franz.bestuchev@gmail.com> writes
millipede man wrote:
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of
three groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three
sets of habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains.
However, I'm not physically active every day, I'm not socially
engaged, and I live alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to
stick to a healthy diet and to exercise more. Habits #2 and #4 are
more difficult. How do you "put family first" and "keep socially
engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
If you read the *whole* magazine you'll note the little short bit from
the story's writer at the beginning where he talks about how friendly,
warm and incredibly outgoing *every single one* of those people were.
With someone like that, you can be friends from your first meeting. But
you still need to keep it going - friendship is two-sided.
--
The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "humble.life" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 12:08:33 PM |
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millipede man wrote:
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However, I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
Money did this.
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| User: "Roger" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 01:18:40 PM |
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millipede man wrote:
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of three
groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three sets of
habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains. However, I'm
not physically active every day, I'm not socially engaged, and I live
alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to stick
to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first" and
"keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
those might be good habits but is longevity the goal?just to stick
about?
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| User: "millipede man" |
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| Title: Re: The secrets of living longer |
06 Nov 2005 03:15:19 PM |
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"Roger" <freewayouthere@yahoo.com> wrote in
news:1131304720.183511.102200@g49g2000cwa.googlegroups.com:
millipede man wrote:
The November issue of National Geographic features an article about
longevity. On page 9, there is a diagram that shows the habits of
three groups of long-lived people, and the intersection of the three
sets of habits.
All of the three groups have these habits in common:
"
[1.] Don't smoke
[2.] Put family first
[3.] Be active every day
[4.] Keep socially engaged
[5.] Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains
"
I don't smoke, and I do eat fruits, veggies, and whole grains.
However, I'm not physically active every day, I'm not socially
engaged, and I live alone.
Habits #1, #3, and #5 are the least difficult. I can force myself to
stick to a healthy diet and to exercise more.
Habits #2 and #4 are more difficult. How do you "put family first"
and "keep socially engaged" if you don't have family and friends?
- millipede man
those might be good habits but is longevity the goal?just to stick
about?
I guess one reason why people who have a strong social network with family
and friends live longer, is that their friends and family give them a
reason to live...
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