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| User: "Alan Harding" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 01:20:10 AM |
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In message <8en7d.722$MJ6.348@twister.socal.rr.com>, John
<noone@home.net> writes
"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh waif.
I was wondering during the night (as one does), when you were planning
to give her an external ear; you did say it was on the agenda, didn't
you? At what age do doctors do things like that?
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The opinions given above may be mine. They might also
just be what I feel like saying right now, okay?
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| User: "John" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 01:48:58 AM |
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"Alan Harding" <Alan@harding.demon.co.uk> wrote in message
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In message <8en7d.722$MJ6.348@twister.socal.rr.com>, John
<noone@home.net> writes
"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh
waif.
I was wondering during the night (as one does), when you were planning
to give her an external ear; you did say it was on the agenda, didn't
you? At what age do doctors do things like that?
There's a doctor in San Francisco who specializes in this, if you can
believe that. He told us that we should wait till she's 5.
http://www.earsurgery.com/ The idea is that you only want to do this once,
so you don't want the child to "outgrow" the ear.
Part of me, though, is increasingly reluctant to put her through this.
She's so perfect as she is. She's vibrant, and charismatic, and just
beautiful. I'm afraid of something happening to her because of this
operation.
I also have some kind of moral reservation about stuff like this. I know in
my own case, it's not my talents, such as they are, that have helped me to
grow as a person. I don't really own those things--test scores, stuff like
that. Those things never helped me become a better or deeper person. It's
my weaknesses, flaws, those things that have helped me to grow. So I wonder
about the wisdom of trying to make Maia flawless.
I think maybe what we ought to do is wait until she's old enough to weigh
the costs and benefits and make the choice for herself.
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| User: "wombn" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
01 Oct 2004 09:14:22 PM |
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 01:10:28 GMT, "John" <noone@home.net> wrote:
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"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh waif.
Life is funny.
:-)
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And yet, somehow, I'm considered far right wing...
http://www.digitalronin.f2s.com/politicalcompass/questionnaire.pl?page=printable_graph&X=2.75&Y=0.46
This, otoh, is an extremist:
http://www.digitalronin.f2s.com/politicalcompass/questionnaire.pl?page=printable_graph&X=-8.62&Y=-7.64
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| User: "dennis" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
01 Oct 2004 08:25:04 PM |
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 01:10:28 GMT, "John" <noone@home.net> wrote:
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"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh waif.
Life is funny.
one ear?
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| User: "John" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 01:33:51 AM |
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"dennis" <later@notnow.net> wrote in message
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 01:10:28 GMT, "John" <noone@home.net> wrote:
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"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh
waif.
Life is funny.
one ear?
Yes. Birth defect. It's why she was in the orphanage.
I have mixed feelings about that. When I think about what happened to her
and why, I get very angry at her biological parents. How selfish of them.
OTOH, I know that but for that she wouldn't have come into my life.
So--knowing how much she means to me, would I wish that she had never had
the birth defect? Had never had to spend those months in the orphanage?
There's one answer to that that's easy--if I actually had the choice, I
would never want her to have the defect or to have gone through the
orphanage experience. Give me a button to push and I'd push it, and all of
that would be fixed. Even if it meant I would lose her.
But that's just the easy answer. The reality is that I don't have any such
choice. And that part of me is glad she's in my life even if it's for that
reason.
And I know that there's something screwed up about that. Something I have
to work on, I guess. I'm selfish, too.
I wonder if she'll ever figure this out. How as a child she was stuck
between two equally selfish sets of parents.
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| User: "" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 08:50:43 AM |
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 06:33:51 GMT, "John" <jjdamato@hawaii.rr.com>
wrote:
<(((*> I wonder if she'll ever figure this out. How as a child she was stuck
<(((*> between two equally selfish sets of parents.
It's my left-wing socialist pinko side coming out, here, I know.
But I do believe that she has two equally loving sets of parents.
Her birth parents likely didn't have access to medical resources
nor money to pay for them, and gave her up to the orphanage
because they honestly could see a more hopeful future for her
there.
And her adoptive parents (hereinafter to be called "Maia's
parents") who had a Maia-shaped place in their hearts that was so
hungry to be filled by this little girl, that they were drawn
halfway around the world to find her.
Where's the "selfish" in that?
Tara J. Ballance
Montreal, Canada
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| User: "John" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 08:43:50 PM |
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Interesting. Thanks.
<waitingforgodot@samuel.beckett> wrote in message
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 06:33:51 GMT, "John" <jjdamato@hawaii.rr.com>
wrote:
<(((*> I wonder if she'll ever figure this out. How as a child she was
stuck
<(((*> between two equally selfish sets of parents.
It's my left-wing socialist pinko side coming out, here, I know.
But I do believe that she has two equally loving sets of parents.
Her birth parents likely didn't have access to medical resources
nor money to pay for them, and gave her up to the orphanage
because they honestly could see a more hopeful future for her
there.
And her adoptive parents (hereinafter to be called "Maia's
parents") who had a Maia-shaped place in their hearts that was so
hungry to be filled by this little girl, that they were drawn
halfway around the world to find her.
Where's the "selfish" in that?
Tara J. Ballance
Montreal, Canada
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| User: "dennis" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 06:28:05 AM |
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 06:33:51 GMT, "John" <jjdamato@hawaii.rr.com>
wrote:
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"dennis" <later@notnow.net> wrote in message
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 01:10:28 GMT, "John" <noone@home.net> wrote:
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"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh
waif.
Life is funny.
one ear?
Yes. Birth defect. It's why she was in the orphanage.
I have mixed feelings about that. When I think about what happened to her
and why, I get very angry at her biological parents. How selfish of them.
OTOH, I know that but for that she wouldn't have come into my life.
So--knowing how much she means to me, would I wish that she had never had
the birth defect? Had never had to spend those months in the orphanage?
There's one answer to that that's easy--if I actually had the choice, I
would never want her to have the defect or to have gone through the
orphanage experience. Give me a button to push and I'd push it, and all of
that would be fixed. Even if it meant I would lose her.
But that's just the easy answer. The reality is that I don't have any such
choice. And that part of me is glad she's in my life even if it's for that
reason.
And I know that there's something screwed up about that. Something I have
to work on, I guess. I'm selfish, too.
I wonder if she'll ever figure this out. How as a child she was stuck
between two equally selfish sets of parents.
you being grateful for the circumstance is not selfish. it is just
part of being grateful for having her. if you had rejected the the
flaw as her parents (and who knows how many others) did, that would
be selfish, and foolish. you got a wonderful little girl with flaws.
she got a loving mommy and daddy with flaws. the real difference
between you and the rest of the world is that you no what the flaws
are and try to create the best people you can using these flaws.
others will try to overcome the flaws or cut them out and that is
where they fail. we are thesum of our imperfections and our
strengths.
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| User: "John" |
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| Title: Re: Today, I love my life |
02 Oct 2004 08:44:03 PM |
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Thanks, Dennis.
"dennis" <later@notnow.net> wrote in message
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 06:33:51 GMT, "John" <jjdamato@hawaii.rr.com>
wrote:
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"dennis" <later@notnow.net> wrote in message
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On Sat, 02 Oct 2004 01:10:28 GMT, "John" <noone@home.net> wrote:
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"John" <noone@home.net> wrote in message
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And there you have it.
<:o)
Whodathunk what it was missing was a 32 inch tall, one-eared, Kazakh
waif.
Life is funny.
one ear?
Yes. Birth defect. It's why she was in the orphanage.
I have mixed feelings about that. When I think about what happened to her
and why, I get very angry at her biological parents. How selfish of them.
OTOH, I know that but for that she wouldn't have come into my life.
So--knowing how much she means to me, would I wish that she had never had
the birth defect? Had never had to spend those months in the orphanage?
There's one answer to that that's easy--if I actually had the choice, I
would never want her to have the defect or to have gone through the
orphanage experience. Give me a button to push and I'd push it, and all
of
that would be fixed. Even if it meant I would lose her.
But that's just the easy answer. The reality is that I don't have any
such
choice. And that part of me is glad she's in my life even if it's for
that
reason.
And I know that there's something screwed up about that. Something I have
to work on, I guess. I'm selfish, too.
I wonder if she'll ever figure this out. How as a child she was stuck
between two equally selfish sets of parents.
you being grateful for the circumstance is not selfish. it is just
part of being grateful for having her. if you had rejected the the
flaw as her parents (and who knows how many others) did, that would
be selfish, and foolish. you got a wonderful little girl with flaws.
she got a loving mommy and daddy with flaws. the real difference
between you and the rest of the world is that you no what the flaws
are and try to create the best people you can using these flaws.
others will try to overcome the flaws or cut them out and that is
where they fail. we are thesum of our imperfections and our
strengths.
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